is 16 too young?

Question

my bf and i have been considering taking our relationship to the next level. im a junior and so is he but is 16 almost 17 too young to have sex? what is it like the first time and should i be worried about what he might no about how to do it?

Answer 1

i think its too young but in the end its your choice and if you feel your ready i say go for it

Answer 2

Why is sex the next level?? In fact since you probably aren't going to marry this guy........why take a chance of:

1. ruining a relationship. Once you've crossed the sex threshold, relationships seem to fall off. They do not make the relationship stronger....and make the eventualy break up all the more painful.

2. risk getting pregnant. That's too young to become parents. Since you are both inexperienced, do you fully understand birth control and the various options?? How about VD prevention?

But since you are horny and stupid, no 16 is about the right age for the "first time." Realize, once you've done it, that's it. There are no more first times.........

Answer 3

When I was in school ('88-'91) there were a lot of students having sex (not like in the caffeteria or anything). I waited until I was 18. My lady waited until shortly after she turned 17.

I used to be able to list 8 opportunities to have sex that I turned down when I was younger. It was some combination of wisdom and being a chickenshit.

You aren't too young, but you are too young to raise a child, which is a real possibility. There are alternatives to penetrative sex. You can experiment with giving and receiving oral sex. Your lover should be satisfied with that for a good while, and you will get a better idea of his interest in satisfying your needs before his.

Answer 4

Yes it is too young to have sex. Unless you have no ambition at all, wait until you're older. You will have a better experience and will have a better understanding of what you want in a man. Too many people these day take sex too casually. Wait at least until you're an adult.
I'm 16 myself, and I certainly don't see any reason for anyone to be having sex at my age. The fellow probably does know how to do it, and if he doesn't you won't know.
At the age you are you won't enjoy it. You primary joy will come from the fact that you are doing something wrong and aren't being caught. The truth is that you are too immature to head to that level yet.

Answer 5

That is one of those things that has to deal with your beliefs. Do you feel okay to talk to your family about it if they find out? If you need to keep it a secret, then dont do it; standing up for what you want to do is a big part of maturity and maturity is definately key when deciding to have a serious relationship. Also, would you be sad if he left you? Would it be a harder break up knowing you slept with him? Another thing to consider is kids, sure you might be using birth control and condoms, whatever, but you should have sex when you are ready to have kids just knowing that it MIGHT happen no matter what you do to prevent it. Is your boyfriend mature enough to handle that? Are you financially stable OR have a lot of familiy support? AS FAR AS PAIN...well, some girls are lucky enough to not deal with the pain of tearing their hymen because theirs is so small. But in general, if you know you are sealed pretty tight, make sure this boy thinks about your needs above his own pleasure and satisfaction or he could really hurt you. Lastly, what kind of communication do you have? think about if this might cause any drama or fights between you later on. When you decide to go for it, try to verbally communicate what you want and find out what he expects from you ahead of time - partners married several years have found that this is very important.

Answer 6

Yes, you may not want to hear this but you are too young. I think that by asking the question you too feel you are not ready. Perhaps you are feeling pressured by others and the culture to have sex with your boy friend. Our culture tells us that sex is a persons right no matter what the age because it is our body to do with what we want. Our culture teaches us to ignore the complications that come with having sex and worry about it later. Perhaps you should talk to your parents or another adult that would tell you to wait and help you understand better what it is you are truly wanting to experience. I will be that what you are ultimately looking for will not be found in having sex anytime soon. God Bless.

Answer 7

You are at an average age I would say for people to have sex for a first time( sometimes 17 or older is common) If you are both virgins it is going to be a learn as you go type situation. Just use birth control and don't kiss and tell to your friends. It is the easiest way to wreck a relationship. You can always say no and change your mind if you really aren't sure.

Answer 8

Yes, 16 is too young. Right now you have so much going on in your life with school and planning for your future. You don't need that emotional roller coaster ride right now. What is the rush? If you two love each other, what is the "next level"? Just wait. But if you decide it's what you both want, use protection.

Answer 9

unless he has been around the block a few times, he will have no idea what he's doing either. dont worry about it being a bit awkward, your both new and won't know exactly how it goes.

as far as 16 being too young, thats really up to you. only you can know if your ready or not. 16 however is not biologically a wrong age to become sexually active, your body is ready for it. It all depends on your mind.

Answer 10

i suggest not doing it? just wait, i had sex when i first turned 16 and winded up pregnat. we used all the precautions and used protection. Why take that risk?? Enjoy your pruness now and later on it will be so much more meaningful. i suggest a song that you might help you called S.E.X ny life jennings. i wish i had that song when i was in highschool. i know you prob think you love him and blah blah blah but if that is true then there is no need to rush. You have your whole lifes to explore sex and if you chose to do it now, it will change you completly more than you think. And your emotional attachment to him will grow so much. Why put oyurself through that? Make a smart decsion and listen to that song closely, don't end up like me.

Answer 11

it is kind of young but if you are really ready and he is someone that you really feel won't be a jerk about it and you guys connect on more than just a physical level then go for it. my first was when i was 17 and i'm still with that guy now that i'm 21. I trusted him and we have a great relationship. So if you feel that way and you want to move on to that level then go ahead.