terrible 2's?

Question

my daughter has not long reached the terrible two's why does it never stop they are so lovely when they cant talk or walk as soon as they can you are at your wits end.......PLEASE HELP WOT CAN I DO

Answer 1

stick to it woman...we as mothers need to stay strong. make boundaries and rules and stay with it. the first time you give in is the last time you have control. maintain yourself with your anger and frustration because that will get you no where with your child. they will see it as a break through not a break down. mean what you say and say what you mean. and remember to practice what you preach to them because they will find away to reverse it on ya as quick as possible. the older they get the harder it is so be on top of them now and make them know the rules you want them to abide by for as long as they are in your home. good luck and stay strong=)

Answer 2

If you bring them up right to start with then they wont ever have tantrums

I have a daughter age 2 years 4 months and she is happy all the time

Examples that could be the cause that we have avoided are:

1. banishing them to their own room for sleep - provokes resentment and hatred

2. allowing them to cry eg controlled crying - of course that will breed hatred

3. not allowing them afternoon nap - again makes them more irritable

4. putting them in playgroups rather than giving them the parental love and constant attention they deserve

These are all uk and USA ideas - and look at the terrible anarchy in schools and with tantrums they cause

Answer 3

They are just testing there boundaries, my daughter is 2 yrs and 5 months so I am going through the same thing.......

The naughty step isn't working so I have started slowly throwing her dummies away when she is really bad, it seems to be working because she is not ready to give them up

She slapped her nanny round the face yesterday, I was so embarrassed, but it is just a stage that we need to work through, getting out more and occupying her seems to help

Answer 4

Just be patient and count to ten or a hundred, toddlers can be so hardheaded one minute and so sweet the next minute. It won't last forever, just try to be firm and consistent with your rules and try to put them on a schedule and provide them with a lot of activity so that you can tire them out so you can get some rest.

Answer 5

Get a small but exact set of rules ie; throwing a fit in public is Not Acceptable. Try to keep your voice low and crouch down and look her in the eye. You Will lose your temper, it does happen but try and seperate yourself from her for a couple of mins. ie; in another room with the door closed. Just for your own sanity. It's hard and it will not always work {for you or her} but it does help.

Answer 6

My stepson hit this at 3. We are still going through it. He loves to test his boundaries. Including climbing over the baby gates. We put him in time-out and then discuss his behavior and why it is wrong.

Answer 7

hehheee, I have an 14 month old that I take care of that does the same thing, Terrible twos are such a myth.....They test the waters at any age.

Answer 8

Reward good behavior, discipline bad. My son loved putting stickers on his board, every time he acted nicely I would explain to him what good behavior was. And what bad behavior was, when he sat in his time out chair. What I had trouble was with the why question, every thing was Why? lol

Answer 9

my little girl is 21 months and already testing boundries as she is my only child i was like oh my god i heard of terrible 2s but this is scary she has tantrums and screams at me. i found the best way to deal with these episodes is to distract her with something she soon forgets what it was she wanted to do or what she was screaming about. i dont believe punishment works as i think these outbursts are lack of ableness to express herself properly.i dont like to think that i am rewarding her juust giving her something else to focus her energy on. good luck!!

Answer 10

Be strong! Set rules and enforce them, even if she screams and cries. My daughter started with the laying on the floor and going limp when she didnt want to do what I asked at 16 months. .... its hard, but you can't give in or it will get worse!!