any suggestions?
2007-03-01 07:20:38 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It really depends on how close you are to this family. I would suggest sending a card letting them know you are thinking about them during this difficult time, if you are just acquaintances they will definatly appreciate this gesture of kindess. If you were closer to the family taking food by to the family to help take some of the burden off of cooking for friends and family that are coming in for the funeral is always appreciated. Also you may want to consider sending flowers, or a donation to the families charity of choice. Also in the coming months offer to help the family out anyway you can, grief does not end when the funeral is over as so many people often forget. Importantly just let them know you are thinking of them and praying for them in this trying time. I am sure they will appreciate anything you offer to do for them.
2007-03-01 07:26:13 · answer #1 · answered by Jsess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send food. Most likely, they have family members visiting, and probably don't want to spend a lot of time cooking right now.
A simple "I'm sorry" is all you need to say. Unless you can think of a way to help this family with whatever needs they have.
Be there to listen, really listen, if they feel like talking. Many times, even if you can't do anything to change a situation, if you allow them to talk, they will feel a whole not better.
2007-03-01 15:38:44 · answer #2 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that you are very sorry for their loss. Depends how well you know them , maybe give them a hug , say some kind words about the departed. Bring some food that can easily be heated and served as they will not feel like cooking much during this time.
2007-03-01 15:26:36 · answer #3 · answered by simichka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know them well a nice plant or flowers with a card. Something I always try to do is offer to house sit during the funeral services. Some criminals watch for the funeral notices in the paper and then rob the houses while everyone is away. I offer to sit at the house and put out the food and make the coffee for after the services. It is always appreciated.
2007-03-01 15:29:25 · answer #4 · answered by bramblerock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's easiest to say something like:
"I'm sorry."
"My sympathy to you."
"It was good to know John."
"John was a fine person and a friend of mine. He will be missed."
"My sympathy to your mother."
We lost my grandfather last week and hearing over and over again how much better off he was stung. How is he better off without his family and wife? I have a good perspective on life and death, but it still wasn't something that sat well. Those that kept it simple just felt better to me.
I also appreciated those that sent cards in the mail, so that I could write a thank you. I simply didn't remember everyone I spoke to, but when I had a piece of paper I could write to them. It's a very overwhelming time, so be patient if they don't respond well.
2007-03-01 16:18:09 · answer #5 · answered by ST 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can send flowers or a card. Or you can tell them personally how sorry you are to hear about their loss.
2007-03-01 15:29:25 · answer #6 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Our thoughts and prayers are with you"
You didn't say whether the condolence was to be in person or written...
2007-03-01 15:28:09 · answer #7 · answered by Toots 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very important question. You should show your sorrow and be very sincere towards yourself that you too are in the family in this important juncture.
2007-03-02 02:57:36 · answer #8 · answered by nimesh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send flowers or food.
2007-03-01 15:23:37 · answer #9 · answered by sooners83 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them they are in your thoughts and prayers and if they need you, you are there for them.
2007-03-01 15:42:44 · answer #10 · answered by morrowynd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋