To Young To Marry?

Question

Me and my fiance are sooo in love. We are 16 and engaged to be married in 2010. He broke up with me once before for another grl but im the first gf hes ever gotton back together with. Me and him have somthing special and I know we will be together forever. We keep hearing we are to young though but we plan to finish high school and both go to college he wants to be a history professor i want to be a 1st or 2nd grade teacher. We have everything all planned out but how can we tell our parents? How do we get them to accept it being so young?

Answer 1

I would just tell my parents but maybe wait a little while since the wedding is in 3 years. Maybe wait til you are 17 or 18 but don't wait too long because I think they would think it is worse if you choose to hide it from them. They probably will try to talk you out of it as many people believe that there are certain ages that makes people too young for marriage. Personally, I think that is ridiculous. There is no age that is too young for marriage, if someone wants to get married, I support it no matter the age. I think alot of parents are afraid that you are not ready and it will end in divorce. If a marriage is going to work, it is going to work, if it is not, then it is not. I have heard of people getting divorced at 60 and 25. It depends on the people and the strength of the commitment. I say tell your parents and let them know that you are ready and you are willing to learn about marriage from your financee and that if they think you are making a mistake, let you make it. Good luck.

Answer 2

Alright, I'm 17, been dating the same girl for 2 years straight, we both know we're right for eachother. But planning a wedding is not the right thing to do. Especially not at this point. To put it bluntly, your parents WON'T accept that now. You're never too young to fall in love, but you're never in so much love that your lives won't change. Not only do you have many years before you will actually be reasonable in plannign a wedding, but your relationship could effect your college life as well. There's a very good chance that one of you misses an opportunity in college because of your relationship. And there are many steps before marrige. If you love eachother enough, you should be willing to bend and twist your relationship, not your future. So I'd say, being in the same situation as you. Take it one day at a time, and don't set a date or anything, 2010 is a long way away. And remember.....getting your teacher's certificate doesnt end at 4 years. You have to take night classes, and go through a very long process that ends in getting your masters.

You're not too young to feel this way, but planning a wedding isn't a reasonable thing to do nor will either of your parents accept that. Not to mention that he's already dumped you once for someone else. I sense a little inmaturity.

Answer 3

If I were you I would hold talks about getting married. Not that you are too young...but a lot can happen between now and 2010. People change as they get older. When I was 19 I thought I was sooo in love with my boyfriend and we would be together forever...but we broke up and now that I am 24 I'm glad we did because he wasn't the right guy for me. So right now just concentrate on school and becoming a teacher. Take one day at a time

Answer 4

if you get married in 2010 you have a 20% chance of staying together for life, that's an increase of 19% if you were to marry this year. You should both commit to your relationship but put more effort into attaining an education and career followed by marriage. Alot changes from the innocent age of 16 to a young adult age of 22 to 24, you guys need to keep an open eye to what available in this world before you close it shut and start to play grown up life in marriage. I see no benefit in getting married so young, right now you are totally infatuated which is usually mistook for love, spend quality time with friends, if you still have any, they are usually around for ever, BF are usually not. You are in a time in your life to make memories and have fun, worry about being a grown up when you become a grown, you only have one chance to be young, enjoy it
p.s. hey i<3mybf. that was some great advice you Latin teacher gave you, trust me he's completly right!!!!

Answer 5

My wife and I have been together since my sophomore year in h.s. and her freshman year. We separated for about a year while she was finishing up school and I had already been done and accepted a job. My job put me about 4 hours away from her. We thought we would test this and see if we were really meant to be. Needless to say after a year she moved in with me and we've been together ever since. So this proved to me that even though we were young when we got together we wanted to be with each other. My thought is that, if you truly feel you have something special don't jeopardize it. I would have regretted if I would have listened to her parents and some of my friends that I needed to "shop around" and not settle on her. You could spent a lot of time looking for "mr. right" and always wonder what could have been. On the other hand, make sure before you actually get married. We lived together for about 2 years before actually getting married. You don't want to marry someone unless you've lived with them.

Answer 6

This isn't meant to be mean or rude -- just honest.

Even though you think you've got it all figured out right now, you don't. Not even close. I think those of us 30 and over can tell you that at 16 you don't really know what you want and can't imagine what's best for you. If it's meant to be, it'll last until you're older, wiser, and more secure with each other AND financially.

And yes, at 16 I thought I knew exactly what I wanted and how to get there. I'm proud of where I'm at... it's no where NEAR where I thought I'd be when I was 16.

Good luck with everything!

Answer 7

don't rush into telling them anything... if you plan that, great. But wait until it's closer to 2010 to tell them. Who knows what could happen in 3 years... and I know you hate this, but you are young.. people change a lot in 3 years, especially when you're in your teens... I mean, just think back to when you were 13.. I bet you were a lot different than you are now... I'm not saying you won't marry this guy, but you probably want to be careful about announcing it to the world... a lot of people are quick to throw things like that back in your face if it doesn't work out...

Answer 8

Don't tell your parents, they will only laugh and say that a lot can change, or they might be the type that thinks you might run off and get pregnant or something. You should make sure though that your boyfriend is introduced to your parents and that they get used to him, that way when you marry him they might support your decision.
Not that you should give up on your dream, but do keep in mind that a lot can happen in a few years, so don't let it be the be all end all for you.

Answer 9

I used to think the same way. When I was sixteen, I dated a guy for four years. We talked of getting married and I'm sure he would have proposed soon. But we grew apart. Those things happen. He was my first boyfriend, and I realize that if I had stayed with him it would not have worked out. The thing is, like it or not, you are not an adult. You are still growing and changing, and I'm not talking physically. You have to wait a little longer, get to know who you are and who he is more. Believe me; waiting will be better. Especially if you find out he's not right for you and all you have to do is break up rather than file for divorce.

Just do yourself a favor and think about it.

Answer 10

while one meets the the appropriate option guy or woman. Then falls in love. gets married. Have toddlers to maintain the domicile energetic. After college is a good time to start your loved ones. God Bless. Older people get married generally and have a Blessed marriage. it fairly isn't any longer the age however the sharing of lives no remember if youthful or old. Having appreciate for the different. enjoying your friends enterprise. LOVE!