this woman you held one night to comfort her and wanted her real bad but out of respect did not and had a bad desire for her after but at that moment in life things were not possible for you two to be together.Now a year later she calls you and tells you that your eating her alive.You think she is so beautiful but you started seeing someone a month ago,what would you tell her?
2007-03-01 06:47:38 · 33 answers · asked by kelly k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're the fallback guy. Safe, no commitment, dumped when something better comes along, then reeled back in when she's down.
Beautiful is more than appearance. She's not into you, you're just safe and always available. Move on
2007-03-01 06:52:18 · answer #1 · answered by Sarge1572 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, since you've only been seeing the other one a month, then it's not bad....you can break up gently with her and go to the one you've been liking. If that is not an option, then just be honest with the first woman and tell her. She would respect that in you. Above all, make sure your integrity stays intact .....don't use either woman. Best of luck with your decision.
2007-03-01 06:53:35 · answer #2 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if she contacted you after a year to tell this she may have some issues.She may be on the rebound herself or going through a tough time.Again show respect and ask her why she feels this way.Ask if something has happened that made her think of you after all this time.Tell her you are currently in a relationship but not sure of where it's going.This will tell her all she needs to know.She should be able to decide weather to move along or to keep trying.After that it's up to you.
2007-03-01 07:15:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The big thing is the time. Why did she wait a year? My guess is she was out with other who treated her badly. Many people like that. Yet I would guess that in her case she is sick of getting hurt.
If you dump the other person and got to her, you are no better then the guys that have been hurting her. She will feel no remorse in dumping you when another bad boy type show interest.
A bird in the hand...
2007-03-01 07:00:11 · answer #4 · answered by heThatDoesNotWantToBeNamed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a women, i know this was for the men, i have to say you need to ask your self what does she have that you need, not talking sex, but what your looking for and can you offer her what she is looking for. but you have to be honest with your self and i have to say this other woman you started seeing its not fair to her to take a back seat and i know she wont either. but you need to be up front to your self to this woman your seeing and the woman you want to be seeing. don't play the field it will back fire and then your left all alone. Tell her you need time to think things through let her know your seeing some one and you need that time to be honest with your self and you girl your with. she will in the end either wait for you and respect you more for it or move on. for me if you said for me to wait i would it would show me that your interest and that there may be a chance but i would respect the relationship your in right now. so just a few from the other side. good luck
2007-03-01 06:57:48 · answer #5 · answered by tlcoufan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are considering a LT relationship with the girl you have started seeing, then don't do anything with the other girl. It will screw things up. But if you feel strongly about this girl from the past (more than the current gf), you need to have a serious conversation with her about what she is looking for. Weigh your options carefully and think with the head on your shoulders.
2007-03-01 06:59:07 · answer #6 · answered by Soho 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would all depend on how I felt about the woman I was currently dating. If I cared for her and wanted to keep seeing her, then I'd have to tell the first woman, "no". On the other hand, if I wasn't serious about the woman I was currently dating, then I'd have to reconsider that first woman.
2007-03-01 06:53:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth about what you feel both for her and the woman you are with. Then, you will need to make a choice.
2007-03-01 06:51:50 · answer #8 · answered by astralpen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My my my, how time changes things! I guess you need to decide if you want to stay with this new person or try to have a relationship with the other person, but do not play them both at once. Be fair about it.
2007-03-01 06:51:43 · answer #9 · answered by Kyle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart and let her know that right now your in a realtionship.
p.s is this one month relationship worth u losing this women u been wanting for so long, and now wants u? really think about it..
2007-03-01 06:51:56 · answer #10 · answered by jdn85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋