How do I quit hating myself?

Question

I got myself fired from a good job by admitting something I never should have. I am a total idiot and hate myself now. People say, "Everything happens for a reason." Well, howbout the reason is I am a dumbass? I don't understand why I would do such a stupid thing. How could I have ended my career like that? How could I have been so stupid? Help me quit hating myself.

Answer 1

If you mean what I think you mean then you have to stop punishing yourself for being honest. I'm assuming what you admitted you had done, you did, but that you think that if you had denied doing it you would still have your job. And so feel stupid.

If this is the case then you have to consider that you would be more stupid living a lie. Lying can become a habit, even a compulsive habit (as such it is a mental illness), and requires so much energy to maintain your false face. Habitual liars if suspected or found out aren't trusted. If you are accustomed to lying in the course of your work or if that work awards lying then it is good you got out of that line of work. Feel free, feel whole, feel good. There are jobs that require and reward honesty and you will find one.

Good luck, Peace and love.