Is my "friend" cheating on me- am i overreacting?
ive been dating this guy for almost a month. i introduce him as my bf, he introduces me as his gf- he is really sweet and nice and good to me. he has a lot of clients who call him for work. one night i was driving him around and some girl called him but it wasnt about business she wanted to see him later that night. i asked him about it and he said it wasnt anything and he wasnt gonna see her, but we had only been going out for a short time so i felt like i couldnt say anything. then tonight i went into his hotel room and he opened a drawer to show me something and there were condoms, but we havent had sex, we havent really even kissed. i dont think he is using me, i know thats how it sounds because all i do is drive him around and help him with things.
i dont know, i know we are new in this relationship but do you think he is sleeping with someone else? or is this just stuff from his past?
thanks for your help!
2007-03-01 06:32:30 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok to answer a few questions, hes totally not married. he is living in a hotel because of his job but ++ I ++ found him a place to live which he is moving into tonight.
i dont know why he has that stuff, i figured he didnt want to dirty the sheets when he took care of himself... i dont know..... what do you all think? thanks lots for your help! means so much :)
2007-03-01 11:31:34 · update #1
Your being possessive and insecure. Your new to this relationship, give it some time before you accuse him of cheating. Time will show you if he's the one for you ;or if you are the one for him. In the mean time, don't do anything you might regret later.
2007-03-01 06:39:35 · answer #1 · answered by mopjky 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm curious why he had a hotel room, unless he's staying there or is from out of town. If he had only been in the hotel room a short time, then it's definitely a red flag. Otherwise, it might just be jealousy or insecurity. It's okay to confront him and ask him what's going on, in a non-confrontational manner. If you really like him, get it out now, before you both get emotionally vested.
2007-03-01 14:46:25 · answer #2 · answered by icwspiker3 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some guys think that if you haven't voiced that you are in an exclusive relationship they can still date other people. You need to talk to him and see what's up. He could just be the type of guy that keeps condoms on him all the time. But it does seem kinda fishy that you guys have only kissed and you drive him around and are basically his personal assistant. Talk to him ASAP.
2007-03-01 14:39:45 · answer #3 · answered by miss_stacey1984 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure this gentleman is not married? Move on, with the price of gas as it is right now, why should you be his taxi service. If the condoms were "just stuff from his past", why would he tote it around and set it up in the drawer at his hotel? Don't sleep with this one, condom or not, he isn't being honest.
2007-03-01 14:41:19 · answer #4 · answered by sunset 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's been a month? And no sex? Damn girl, he probably is sleeping with someone else.
I can only go about 2 two weeks, and that's pushing it!
2007-03-01 14:38:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i hate to say it, but if you really feel in your heart and gut that he is, then he pro bally is, but if you feel its just a maybe, he may not be,just see if he starts treating you different, or going out at night alone alot, and if you have a relationship you have a right to ask questions and demand answers, good luck, hope he's faithful.
2007-03-01 14:43:04 · answer #6 · answered by debbie d 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's hard to tell. if my man had some girl calling him late at night i would think something is up too. that's just weird. why don't you just ask him about it. i've learned that communication is the best thing in any situation. he can't read your mind and vice versa. good luck.
2007-03-01 14:39:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
bout time you had the "talk" with him... find out where things are standing between you two. whenever i was dating,we had to go to the store and get the condoms.. my little stud didnt just have them at hands reach
2007-03-01 14:38:37 · answer #8 · answered by Pamela Y 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yALL JUST STARTED TALKING SO DONT GET YOUR FEELINGS INVOLVED YET, THE FIRST 3 MONTHS U CHEAT UNTIL U GET TO KNOW THEM AND SEE IF THATS WHAT U WANT.
2007-03-01 14:48:58 · answer #9 · answered by LaeLae 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. Your intuition is probably right.
2007-03-01 14:52:04 · answer #10 · answered by simply_ch0c0late 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋