If he cheats on you after 3 yrs relationship with younger girl, breaks up with you and 2 months later moves in with the person he cheated.... six months later he realizes he made a mistake and now he wants to go back. His tools: His kids love me and his mom and now he is using that to get me back. Whats your opinion?
2007-03-01 06:27:57 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just because you forgive him does not mean that you should take him back. For your own mental health, find a way to forgive and then move on. Do not risk taking him back. I'm afraid it would not be worth the trouble you will go through.
2007-03-01 06:34:27 · answer #1 · answered by Tara S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run fast and far! That was more than a fling (though even a fling is unexcussable in my opinion). It was not only a sexual affair, but also an emotional one. He did not have a change of heart- something went wrong in the other relationship, and now he is trying to get back to the next best thing. If you go back to him, he will do the same thing to you again in the future.
RUN.
2007-03-01 06:35:35 · answer #2 · answered by Ritata 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well thats not an easy question for anyone to answer.My advise would be to really assess the situation.Is it worth having him back is the first thing.
Even if you do take him back.make him earn his rights back with you.Let him know it is gonna be your way for a while and the cheating has to stop.
Most important though would be was he more of a help to you than a hinder.And does he truly love you and do you truly love him.
Evaluate evry aspect of your lives together and apart and make your decision.Use your heart as well as your common sense.
2007-03-01 06:42:54 · answer #3 · answered by kenneth h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
Yes , I would forgive and also forget about him . Wow !! that must of really heart you bad and it is so sad for him that is , that now he wants to come back . Honey take it from me do not let him make you feel guilty like its your fault because he is the one that messed up the life you two had together .
I would not take him back after what he did and because things went sour with the current relationship he wants you back . ( Karma )
Take care
C
2007-03-01 06:39:25 · answer #4 · answered by Constance M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is trouble. If he went as far to move in with the other woman, it wasn't just an oops. This guy just sounds like a real winner. I'm guessing that you help take care of his kids, and while I'm sure that the kids to deserve you're love and attention, he does not. I'd drop him like a hot plate.
2007-03-01 06:33:45 · answer #5 · answered by miss_stacey1984 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well in my opinion do u think he will cheat again ?look into your heart.do u want to make a life with him do u love his kids?can u get over the fact of what happened.i was in this same predicament we had a kid.he left came back left came back and left again to be with a younger girl.that was 16 years ago.we r married and have 3 beautiful kids.and now we r closer than ever.as for me thinking he would cheat again ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!you have to look in your heart.dont listen to all of us (well except me)you are ultimately the one who has to make a future for yourself.do u think this man is worthy of your love .we are only human and we do make mistakes.if this is his first time can u believe its his only time doing it and do u think he will do it again.good luck.did he treat you good be sides this indiscretion
2007-03-01 06:43:10 · answer #6 · answered by TRXCEE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've seen you everyday! Not you, but your situation. Don't do it! It will only get worse. He not only cheated, but left you! All men want what they can't have and after he didn't have you anymore he wanted you back. Don't be the fool. If you go back to him then you can't blame him for anything that happens. You;ve been warned!
2007-03-01 06:32:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was a one time infidelity, it might be different, but he chose to live with someone else. If you are really in love with him then you might possibly be able to forgive, but you dont mention if you love him still or not. I think I would still feel really hurt and it takes a lot to forgive, if you find it in your heart to do that than you are really strong, I dont think I could after all that.
2007-03-01 06:36:19 · answer #8 · answered by mlock123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be a silly girl nor lower your standards.. he's done it once, he will do it again, once an **** always an ****. Smile and turn around, his kids and mother may love you.. you can always remain friends..but as for something permanent. dump em! There is sooo very much better out there, trust me. as I was in your shoes girl.. many times.. and once i started taking my stand..it worked. I now have a wonderful man and wouldnt trade him for the world
2007-03-01 06:34:09 · answer #9 · answered by Pamela Y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would not.
If he just had like a stupid one night stand or something with an old flame or something with meaning behind it - maybe.
But some young scoochie he actually left you for and moved in with.
Heck no!
You deserve way better than someone who would stoop so low as to use his kids and mamma against you!
Keep looking! â¥
2007-03-01 06:33:27 · answer #10 · answered by ♥LadyC♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋