and i want to do it but then again i dont but i really do want to but im only 13 and there are too many consequences and a bunch of people are saying we did stuff wen we didnt and a bunch of people are mad at me and idk Help!!!!!!! what should i do!!?!?!
2007-03-01 06:25:19 · 26 answers · asked by !${*~ stressed and confused~*}$! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're 13 and you seem to have a head on your shoulders if you understand the consequences of having sex. If he can't respect you enough to not keep bugging you to do it, then you need to stop the relationship. 13 is to young to start this. And don't worry about what others think you did. Only you and he know what happens within your relationship and that is all that really matters. Please think twice before doing anything further than what you are comfortable with. Can you handle the consequences of an oops, or an std? Not at your age you can't.
2007-03-01 06:29:58 · answer #1 · answered by punkin_eater26 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your only thirteen, don't do it. If he's your age it will be over before you know it and all you'll have is regret and a mess not to mention other possibilities if your not safe. You'll just end up getting hurt, waiting isn't a bad thing and it makes it that much better when you can enjoy it. You really need to talk to an adult in your life that can steer you in the right direction.
2007-03-01 06:35:00 · answer #2 · answered by Gremlin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STAY STRONG AND DON'T HAVE SEX.
First of all, you are QUITE YOUNG.
Tell him exactly how you feel. That you do NOT want to have sex and you don't want to suffer the consequences.
This is how I feel about it. Maybe you can tell him some of this stuff:
You should stay a virgin till you're married.
God intended it to be that way.
But many, MANY people abuse that.
And God looks down on those people.
You don't just give your virginity to just anybody.
It is the best present you can give your future husband.
It is you... it is all of you.
If you become pregnant, you can handle it better when you're married.
You'll have that person beside you who promised to always be by your side.
It won't be some random guy or some guy who you THOUGHT loved you.
Sex makes many things complicated in an unmarried relationship.
It takes two very mature people.
You do not want to get yourself lost in everything that comes with sex.
Most people nowadays tend to just BASE their relationship on sex.
I am a virgin myself. I'm in my early 20s. I have a boyfriend of a year that I am completely in love with. We talk about marriage and how I want to wait till our wedding day to have sex. He truly does love me... he respects me. That's when you KNOW you have a great guy. That's when you KNOW he's in love with you... when he has absolutely no problem in waiting. Actions speak louder than words...
2007-03-01 06:28:01 · answer #3 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
See how much drama is involved with sex? Honestly...13 year old girls (and boys) are really too young for sex. You are such a smart girl because you already know the answer to this one. You said it yourself -"too many consequences". Besides...this jerk you are going out with is not nearly special enough to give your body to. He is probably the one spreading the rumors that you hear. Please be careful. Don't give yourself up to jerks like this. Save yourself for Prince Charming...that's what I did. JUST SAY NO :)
2007-03-01 06:40:49 · answer #4 · answered by Ms Kamm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a guy obsessed with you instead of obsessed with sex. Don't give into pressure. Anyone who will not take into consideration how you feel doesn't respect you and will use you to get what ever they think is best for themselves. A word of warning: If you hang out with losers you will lose. Wisdom finds company only with the wise.
2007-03-01 06:39:25 · answer #5 · answered by K G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is particularly awkward, yet needed to me that I answer this. gay: guy + female: New life. guy + guy: no longer some thing. female + female: no longer some thing. We were created male and lady to create new life. no longer for our human exhilaration. Abortion: it really is a life. in case you do not trust it really is a life, then a minimum of comprehend it has skill to develop into someone. that would were the guy to remedy cancer, locate an decision measurement, and infinite different outstanding issues. Why is killing someone with a gun so poor at the same time as injecting toddlers with burning poison perfect? Condom: i imagine you could discern that out for your self. Masturbation: that is not at all said interior the bible, so it really is not any longer even an subject interior the church. The morning after tablet: See abortion. unmarried moms: i'm no longer positive what you pick. Circumcision: This became area of the covenant God made with Abraham: God's human beings were to circumcise their male toddlers. i'm able to't bear in thoughts the reason behind this, yet i comprehend it became fantastically official. Prostitution: promoting your self out for sex. i do not comprehend too a lot on the Catholic Church's view in this, yet i comprehend that it's not favorable. Discrimination to females human beings: interior the Catholic Church, it isn't "discrimination". The twelve apostles were male, and the priesthood is the church persevering with that custom. The Catholic Church is keen on traditions. Pre-marriage sex: sex became reserved by God for a husband and spouse. it really is a way for them to "provide themselves" to at least one yet another in a actual way; marriage being the non secular way. Polygamy: "i'm the Lord your God and also you shall no longer have unusual gods earlier me." The Lord declared that no different God became to be praised. it really is the first commandment. To actually everyone who says that the church needs to regulate you: your own exhilaration isn't the church's significant concentration. it really is the distinction of the Lord and making it to heaven interior the longer time period that we concentration on, no longer making you satisfied.
2016-12-05 02:47:51 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're not ready to have sex (and you shouldnt be at 13) then the only thing you can do is wait. You won't enjoy it unless you're actually wanting to have sex. If you're not comfortable it will just be akward and wierd (more so than usual). Wait, if he cares for you he will wait to, if not, then I can assure you he wouldn't have waited around after you had sex the first time. If you want to be hurt and feel rejected go ahead and have sex with him before you're ready.
2007-03-01 06:30:28 · answer #7 · answered by grasshopper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get rid of this boy.. he will ruin your good name... at 13, concentrate more on school and going places like the mall with your friends than having a boyfriend... Do not do anything with him. Clearly, he doesnt care for you, cuz why would he say things that werent true? Good luck and make the right choice
2007-03-01 06:29:38 · answer #8 · answered by michaellandonsmommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not do it, you are not ready. If something happened there would be to many consequences for a 13 year old to handle. As for those who think you did something they should be told to mind their own business
2007-03-01 06:32:08 · answer #9 · answered by EmmaNicole 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 13 for goodness sake....Dump him!!! Tell him no!! You are right there ARE too many consequences...don't care what people say...get AWAY from this situation! It's ok to run and be selfish about this!!! YOU ARE WAY TOO YOUNG!
2007-03-01 06:28:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋