2 years ago I told my best friend I thought I might have feelings for him a week after I’d split up with my bf of 3 years. My best friend said he’d always thought of me as a friend & we left it at that. Later we agreed we were the best friends in the whole world and he asked me to go travelling with him.Then he got a gf.Since having her, he has told me many times I’m his favourite,that he wants to marry me,that we’re made for each other, soulmates etc.he also always asks me for head&foot massages.but now instead of going travelling with me as we had planned he is thinking of going with his new gf.we had both so looked forward to it!I can’t work out if he is just blissfully unaware of the effect the things he’s said to me has,&if he even considers whether his gf won’t like it.is he being unfair to me or her or both?What should I say to him about it?
2007-03-01 06:21:32 · 12 answers · asked by Katrina W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
to both of u.leave him,girl!!
2007-03-01 06:27:47 · answer #1 · answered by Katarina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is playing both fields. It is not fair to you with all he has been feeding you and thus not allowing you to be able to go your way freely. It's not fair and not right for him to mislead you as he has. He is manipulating your emotions and thus preventing you to pursue your own happiness. Some guys are just childish in such a ways to prevent you from gaining your own happiness as he is enjoying his. Or he is just unaware of it and subconsciously doing so. For your own sake and peace of mind, do move on and forget about him. He has found a gf now and you should find someone that will take pleasure in discovering you. It will be only a matter of time before a guy sees all the wonderful qualities in you and provide you with the same. Let your heart ache for a while and then it shall smile again. Have faith.....
2007-03-01 06:37:23 · answer #2 · answered by indyhype 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 00:53:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP. Not only is he lying to her he is wrongfully hurting you. You deserve so much better than this. You are his comfort zone when things aren't right with her you are plan B. Believe me this is no place to be. He is comfortable where he is and why shouldn't he be he has her and you just like he wants. I watched a dear friend of mine go through this same situation for years. While he went through countless gf. The honest truth was he wasn't even her friend if he was willing to use her for sex and still be with those others that he would call his girlfriend. YOU DESERVE SOOO MUCH BETTER!!! And by letting him go (even though it hurts) The best will come to you!
2007-03-01 06:33:28 · answer #4 · answered by Tanya D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is having his cake and eating it too and I don't mean that crudely. This guy wants to have his girlfriend and not lose you. You need to put your foot down and tell him to choose, although I don't think I'd want him after what he has done. If he is still just being friends with you then tell him to stop talking about marriage and things like a life together unless he means it. (It's not fair to you and it's not fair to the girlfriend.) Otherwise, you are going to be missing out on your own life and chances to make your own romance.
2007-03-01 06:34:29 · answer #5 · answered by Alchemist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to stop telling you these things if he doesn't mean it. Tell him you like him and you do feel that way but you don't want to hear it if he has a g/f because if he meant that then he wouldn't be with his g/f he would leave her and date you. Don't say it mean be nice and make sure he knows you still want to be friends but he can't keep hurting you like that and telling you these things. and it is unfair to you and his g/f because she doesn't know what he is doing to yall.
2007-03-01 06:27:03 · answer #6 · answered by Jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds like your friend is pretty much having his cake and eating it too. he's taking advantage of you because he thinks that you're always gonna be around. that's why he asks you for little favors and stuff. i think that your friend is being inconsiderate to your feelings and doesn't really know what he wants. actions speak louder than words.
2007-03-01 06:28:44 · answer #7 · answered by kp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's just selfish because you've allowed him to treat you that way. Fact of life - if you don't stand up for yourself and respect yourself, no one will have respect for you either. Stop being his go-to-girl.
2007-03-01 06:27:33 · answer #8 · answered by HipHopGrandma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like an immature little boy to me. Does he by any chance, still wear pullups?
2007-03-01 06:46:47 · answer #9 · answered by mommymommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! Kick his a**.. he's a horrid friend. Seriously, let him go & find someone else.
2007-03-01 06:27:39 · answer #10 · answered by CharlotteDenee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get your own life and leave him to his, he obviously is not serious about you as a girlfriend or he would be dating you and not her.
2007-03-01 06:27:10 · answer #11 · answered by mingcrew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋