There is a guy that I like. He was a great friend at first. I know they say you shouldn't fall for a friend, but I did. Anyway, he seemed really into me too. We went out a couple times and everything was ok. We talked on the phone for hours every night and then ALL OF A SUDDEN he stopps calling me. I call him to ask him about it and he says HE'S BUSY. Well, He was becasue he was now in college and played for his school's soccer team. So I kinda got over it cuz he called once in a while. Things got back to normal for about a month and then he stopps talking to me again. This time I get it. He was NOT into me. I decided I would move on and just recently about a week ago, he calls me again. He says he wants to see me and hang out. He wanted to go to the movies last saturday. He said he would give me the details on friday. Well, today is now thursday, almost A WEEK LATER and I haven't heard from him. What is going through his brain?? Guys tell me what you would be thinking if this was you!
2007-03-01 06:18:02 · 8 answers · asked by vicky 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd be wondering why I keep putting up with it, assuming he cared. He's just a very casual friend who seems to call when he has nothing better to do. Take it for what it is- very casual and meaningless- or cut him from your life if it bothers you.
2007-03-01 06:22:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of the best relationships start out as friends first but he seems too "ify".If you are still good friends,,have a talk with him & try to see why he is behaving this way.Maybe he thinks you are not that into him.But,,dont be pressured to give more than what there is at this time.Maybe he was only interested in a booty call.Maybe you should just stay friends.
2007-03-01 14:25:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a guy, but I am very much like this too... I have a lot going on and don't like talking on the phone. I don't really like to talk to people unless i call them...
With this said, he only sees you as a friend, so don't get any other thoughts (sorry)... but it doesn't mean he hates you. Just understand that he's got a very hectic schedule, and you're not always on it
2007-03-01 14:25:13 · answer #3 · answered by Steffi . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this guy is playing games with you. Since he is in college, there could be other girls he is seeing. When he doesn't have someone, he may turn to you for someone to talk to and hang out with.
He is supposed to be your friend first and he is treating you with disrespect. He wants to make sure that you are still around for him, whenever he wants you to be. But he's not making an effort to be nice to you. Do yourself a favor and move on with your life and start dating. If you can be friends with him and not have his behavior affect you, then be friends (but nothing else).
2007-03-01 14:24:21 · answer #4 · answered by torn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't put any thought into it. He may be unsure of trying to continue a relationship. But go on with your life like normal. If you really want to know, ask where you guys stand. You don't want to wait around for someone that doesn't put you first. I get college is important but 5 or 10 minutes to talk to the girl your dating.... is nothing. Its a study break....
Good luck
2007-03-01 14:26:17 · answer #5 · answered by ash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are his "just in case girl". He has a life outside of you. He is probably dating several different girls, but when they are not available or he feels homesick, he calls you. Look at it this way, if you can't be #1 for him, then don't be a number at all. Tell him, you just want to be friends, cause you don't think the "friends with benefit" bit is working for you.
2007-03-01 14:24:31 · answer #6 · answered by adrgal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's into you, just not totally. He's probably got someone else on the side too, or you're his on the side. It's hard to say. Just live your life and if he wants you bad enough, he'll come around for good. Dont you wait for him. Life is too short to wait for somebody to love you. Either they do or they dont.
2007-03-01 14:24:52 · answer #7 · answered by daddyferrari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes not sure what he wants and if he thinks you are into him he maybe into you too but he isnt sure soo just take it slow it will all come togather in the end ull see
2007-03-01 14:35:21 · answer #8 · answered by Confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋