CAN SOMEBODY PLEASE help me through this situation!!!! Please?

Question

I started dating this guy about a month and a half ago.Everythings been great and we've had an awesome time together.Last night, i went to my gf's house to watch a movie and when I was leaving i called him and he told me to call him when I got home to make sure i got home safe(it was snowing)but I ended up falling asleep as soon as i hit the bed.he called me about an hour laterand he was Sh** faced drunk with his buddies.he had asked me yesterday if i wanted to hang out tonight and we had plans to watch a movie and i was going to spend the night at his house.when I asked him last night just to make sure we were still hanging out, he said maybe and I got kinda angry with him.He ended up hanging up on me,so i called back,he hung up again so i called back until he picked up(i know thats bad)he picked up and said that he couldnt do this and when i said does that mean we're broken up he said i guess so and hung up.I am so hurt and confused by this!What should i do? he wont pick up my calls!

btw im 20, hes24. i really want this to be worked out, but how????!!!

Answer 1

I remember those fights that go on and on about nothing. I say let it go before you get caught up in love and think fighting is cute. This is what you should do. go out and find a guy that doesn't provoke your angry side. I think that should work out.

Answer 2

Sounds like you guys need to do some talking. I don't think either one of you has a clue what the other one is thinking, which always makes relationships get awkward and difficult. You guys have just started dating. You don't really know why he's reacting like this. Why not give him a few days to calm down and then call and apologize for getting angry and annoying him (which you probably did by constantly calling him). Explain to him why you got angry ("I didn't like feeling like you didn't want to spend time with me" or "I thought it was a date, and didn't realise that you might not see it that way"). Use lots of "I feel..." and "I think..." statements, not "You are..." or "You make me feel..." statements. Don't make it seem like you're attacking him. Then tell him how you feel about him, and then ask him if he wants to try and work things out. If he says he's not interested, say "Thank you for letting me know", and move on. If he doesn't answer his phone when you call, leave him a message saying "I'm sorry we got into a fight last night. I'd really like to talk about it. Please call me back." If he doesn't call back, he's not interested.

Communication is vital in relationships. You need to be able to talk about the difficult things without losing your temper (or at the very least, saying "I'm too mad to talk right now. Can we discuss this later?" and then going and hitting the gym until you feel better). Good luck! I hope you find a resolution.

Answer 3

sorry, but he broke up with you, it's time to just move on. In the future, don't do the repeated calling it gets old.

If you want him back, don't call him or talk to him for like 2 or 3 weeks, then call him when you know he is not home and leave him a message, see if he calls you back, if not, there is no hope.

Answer 4

he sounds really inmature and not ready to settle down in a relationship. u have to be strong grl stop callin him show him u dnt need him. if he wants to play games and "not kno" if he wants to hang out then he is not worth it. im not sayin give up. just give him some time let him call u. believ me the first couple weeks are gonna be hard not to call him. u can call him one time after 2 weeks if he still dnt answer then leave a very sweet msg (dnt sound like u miss him) but tell him u just wanted to see how he was doing and what was new in his life. that u are hope he is happy and that u hope he calls u back. if he still doest call u back in bout a week or two this ones up to u call him and tell him u really wanted it to work and ur sorry it has to be this way and tell him to have a great life and if he finds his senses he can give u a call. but u gotta be strong grl dnt seem desprate. if he cares bout u. he will call wen he realizes "hey she might not need me as bad as i thought mayb i should call her before i loose wat i great woman i had" if he doesnt he was never worth it babe i wish u all the luck in the world i hope it works out but if notand u need somone to talk to im here :)

Answer 5

Don't really have any advice. But this is a great example of what happens when you start "spending the night" with your boyfriend too early in the game. Sorry. I really do hope it works out for you, though.

Answer 6

i think that first you just need to give him some time. i have probelms like that with my boyfriend. they have a hard time feeling like they're ebing controlled, they dont like to have to check in and stuff, they want a gf not a mom. and sometimes it gets to be too much for them. just give him some time, a couple days to cool off. and then give him a call and tell him you really care about him and you dont want to throw everything away. then just ask if there is anything you could do to change things. i hope this helps!

Answer 7

First of all stop calling him no one likes to be called over and over it's a real turn off. Seeming to be needy is one thing a guy hates. Let him come to you, leave him alone if he really likes you he will call, if he doesn't then he not for you. Find someone who is!

Answer 8

If he has that little respect for you, move on. I get so tired of hearing this same old song and dance. The only reason that men disrespect women wide-scale is because the women let it happen. Why? Because he's good looking. Because he's popular. WHO CARES?!! The only thing that is important is How does he treat me? How does he make me feel about myself? Is HE worth ME?

In this case, I say no. Move on.

Answer 9

Well if you told him you'd call him when you got home you probably should have. However that being said he overreacted and if he is going to treat you like crap, then move on and find someone else.

Answer 10

GIRL HE IS NO GOOD!!! if he rly cared about you he wouldnt do that...hes a jackass for real!! i may only be 17 but i know what im talkin bout had plenty of guys do that to me...he sounds rly immature...likes he 16 or somethin...dont call him...and if he calls you dont answer it...hope things go good...let me know how they do go!!...