I need boyfriend advice!!!?

Question

I have been dating this guy for 10 months. We have broken up 3 times and we are currently broken up. I love him and he knows it. We both work very stressful and time consuming jobs, so we do not get to see eachother very much. Lately the times that we do spend together, we end up upset at eachother or arguing. Most of the telephone calls end up in an argument. So we ended it. We work together, so we see eachother at work. It's torture for me, I don't know about him though. I found out that my moodyness could be a medical thing. not the crazy kind though, so I am going tot he Dr. to see if I can get my mood straightened out. I am hoping that I can get him back. I might be preg also, and have not told him that. I need advice on how to make this relationship work.

Answer 1

You should just be **** buddies. Then you could do it in fun places like the xerox room or under a desk or the break room. That may fix the problem, and if not, at least yer getting laid, right.

Answer 2

Listen if you have already broken up 3 times. Don't keep trying to reconcile this relationship if you fight all the time. Maybe its time to call it quits even thought it hurts. Be friends and discuss options if you are pregnant and what you decide to do about that also. Maybe you aren't crazy and are just going through a rough time right now so you may or may not need medicine. But it's a good idea if you feel the need to go to a doctor just to make sure.

Answer 3

This relationship was over before it began if you've broken up 3 times in 10 months (every 90 days?), don't see each other much, argue all the time, end phone calls with a fight. I suggest you sort yourself out with your doctor and pray you're not pregnant and stop worrying about this guy. Perhaps if you get medication, you'll see this relationship for what it really is: unhealthy.
Good luck.

Answer 4

Relationships are tricky especially when intimacy is involved. He may be distancing himself because you are together to much ie work and alone time. Guys believe it or not, really are simple. They want love, respect, and trust just like we do. But they don't want us to be their mothers either. My husband and I dated/lived/were intimate prior to marriage and were engaged for 2 years before we got married. This bred all kinds of jealousies insecurities and resentments because we were not fully committed to each other. Not trying to sound mothering, however my best advice to you as someone who has been there done that, first find out if you are pregnant. If you are then you must tell him and make plans for your impending family. If not then, count your blessings for the timing, and talk to him about abstaining. If he is as serious about you as you are about him, this will push the relationship in the right direction. If not then this will turn him off all together and he will leave. It will hurt (been here too) but at least you know he's not the one and you are better prepared for your next relationship.

Hope this helps

Answer 5

You need to tell him that your preg. That is the first thing, and I know this is crazy but when women get preg to fix a relationship sometimes it works. But MAKE SURE you preg before you tell him because it may be the stress giving you the effects. So go to the doctor about the preg issuse then tell him and tell him you really want it to work for yall and the baby.

Answer 6

While I do wish you the best of luck, it's never a good idea to date someone you work with. There are too many problems that can be started because of it, and then it can be brought to work....eventually involving your employer. So you really need to think about your relationship with this guy. Anyway, with that said, and the relationship already established, it's very important that both of you communicate and bring everything on the table. You and him both need to know what gets the other person upset....then avoid that situation. Communication is the key....again, best of luck to you.

Answer 7

Wow, what a mess. If all you do is end up fighting, the relationship won't work. You may love him, but that doesn't mean he's good for you. At this point, you need to grow up and foster a friendship with him, especially if you are carrying his baby. He will be in your life for a long time. But please, don't make the mistake of thinking if you are carrying his baby that there must be a relationship. It will be doomed to failure, and that won't be good for the baby. If you are pregnant, it is no longer about you.

Answer 8

First of all, you need to tell him that you are perg. And another thing you guys need to spend a day or two together, and forget about all arguments and disagreements ya'll have. If that doesn't work then just maybe you aren't ment to be. Lastly always let him see the baby.

P.S.
Congradulations on the baby!

Answer 9

I think that you should go to your doctor like you said, and get your mood swings under control. You and your boyfriend may have been fighting more because you have mood swings.

I went through the same thing with my boyfriend. I didn't realize I was being moody and it caused alot of fights. I finally went to my doctor and he put me on prescription meds.

You and your boyfriend have to learn how to be considerate of each other. Don't forget to keep up with your own hobbies. Spending time apart can do wonders for your relationship.

Answer 10

It really sucks to be you right now. I can’t believe I actually read you long essay. Look you need to see a psychologist for you mood swings, you might be crazy and meds could help remedy that. Also it is not a good idea to date someone you work with, what were you thinking?