Me and this amazing guy dated for over a year.About a month ago he dumped me clear out of the blue.I was happy and thought he was happy too.He said hes confused about things and he thinks its for the best.Lately Ive been physically sick. Like I havent been eating, I always have headache, my stomach is constantly hurting and all kinds of other things. Ive missed more school in the past month then I have all year.I cant stop thinking about and and all I do is cry.I never trusted anyone and was always afraid of letting myself get close to people.Well I did with him.Now Im so confused.I talk to him about and he says I just need to deal with it and learn to adjust.I dont want to seem stalkerish but I really really miss him.Being with him made me so happy.We shared so much and now it feels as if everythings being thrown out the window.All my friends tell me to just convince myself that hes a jerk.Truth is hes not.Hes amazing.Hes never wronged me in any way.I want him back.What should I do?
2007-03-01 05:50:11 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry to tell you this but this guy isn't good for you I mean. Here you are being sick and he doesn't care. i remember when my long term boy friend dumped me, saying the age difference was a problem. The real problem was that he thought that his friends would disapprove. A month later he called wanting me back. Come to find out his friend had a girlfriend younger than me. Here I was thinking he couldn't live without me. But instead he just trying to keep up appearances. It was all kinda down hill from there. The thing is that I still love him. But that can't be help
2007-03-01 05:59:50 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has been a jerk to you by dumping you with no apparent reason. He also wasn't being a very good communicator because he never told you that there was a problem until it was too late. So that was wrong. I know so many people have problems with letting other people into their lives, so you have some issues that you need to work on too. What better way to do it than by yourself for a while. This guy doesn't want to be with you anymore, and as hard as it can be, you have to move on. Why try to be with someone who is not willing to be with you? There is someone out there who wants to treat you like a princess, but you have to get happy first. Best of luck, girl! You're not alone. You have great friends that love you and care. Have fun with them! Life isn't about drama! It's about the people you love! :)
2007-03-01 06:00:16 · answer #2 · answered by Heidi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs space. Could be he cares more for you than he wants too and it scared him off. Ignore him, give him the space he needs. This will give him time to think and get his thoughts together. And, if you ignore him, he will think a little faster for fear of losing you all together. If you constantly let him know how much you miss him, and he knows you are crying over him to the point of affecting your health, then he knows without a doubt your will be there for him any time he is ready. I know it will be hard to ignore him but that's part of the game. Don't try to make him jealous by flaunting yourself with some one else. That would be a terrible mistake. Because if he does get his thoughts together and realizes it's you he wants after all, he will think you have moved on and will care enough about you not to interfere in your new happiness. You don't have to date anyone else to ignore him. When I say ignore, I don't man avoid him or turn your back on him either. If he approaches you and strikes up a conversation, be civil and treat him as a close friend. What I am trying to say is.... give him enough room to know you still care about him, but enough room for doubt on how much you care. If in the future you see he moves on to some one new. Then take your cue and move on as well. Good luck sweetie. The game of love is not an easy game to play. It is really a serious game. If you care about this young man, you will respect his wishes as well as your own.
2007-03-01 06:03:56 · answer #3 · answered by Vida 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes one person just isnt happy with what is going on in the relationship. like this girl i am dating, i feel like i should stop seeing her even though she has gone far and wide for me more that any other woman that i have met. i dont know, he has his reason, and maybe he just didnt feel the connection there. i know with an ex g/f we tried the long distance thing and after a year we drifted apart. now she feels the same way you do and would move for me in a heart beat. there is a lot more that needs to be talked about so i will give you my email address at the end of this. i just dont know, maybe you might want to ask him what happened and ask for the truth. yes the truth hurts, but what else can you expect? you will toss and turn for the longest time, and the only way to get down to the bottom of everything is by asking him why he did what he did.
2007-03-01 06:00:22 · answer #4 · answered by brianju 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact is you can't make someone love you if they don't want to. If he just "dumped you clear out of the blue," he is an immature jerk and he has greatly wronged you. Mature people talk to the ones they love if something is bothering them about the relationship and try to work it out--they just don't walk away with no warning. If he wasn't willing to work things thru with you when times got tough (even though you might not have known things were bad on his end), you truly are better off without him, even though you are really hurting right now.
The best thing you can do is cut off all contact with him. If you don't see him or talk to him, you will eventually begin to think about him less and less (yes, it's true) and soon you won't think of him at all. I've been where you are and I know how much pain you're in, but believe me, the sooner you put him completely out of your life, the better off you'll be and the sooner you'll meet someone who truly deserves your love.
2007-03-01 06:00:02 · answer #5 · answered by Southern Cat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1st of all your going to get through this just fine. Breaking up is hard to do. You want someone who is crazy about you and can be in it forever. He can't ... he does not know how and probably never will cause you sound like a super neat girl.
2nd of all your hurting because you cared for him and got emotionally attached to him ... That's a good thing. Now you have to love yourself enough to move on ... that's hard but I am sure you are gonna make it.
3rd of all We can always wallow in pity, negativity, loss, confusion and pain. Or we can also pick ourselves up and tell ourself positve things, join a club at school or the community center, join a book club at the library and I promise you will find someone who adores and cherish's you!
Soon you will feel better ... be really nice to yourself! When God closes a door we always opens a window ... And rejection is a form of God's protection!
2007-03-01 06:00:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, i dont know what to day about this. I mean i would just give him his space for alittle while. Maybe after a few weeks he will start missing you. You really cant change his mind. He has to do that on his own. Give it some time. Dont call him or see him for a few weeks and see what happens. He might want to know why your not calling him and he will get with you. Thats really all you can do. This is a great time to take care of yourself and your prioritys. Better yourself and who knows if this doesnt work out you might find someone who is much better.
2007-03-01 05:57:35 · answer #7 · answered by lethalx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be patient and discover other things in your life that you find fulfilling. Either you will grow away from him, or he will come back to you. Either way, what is meant to happen will happen. It's hard sometimes to go with the flow of life, but it will be ok. Either you two will end up together again, or you will eventually meet "the one", and you will be so glad you let this one go....it's tough, I'm sure, especially if you really liked this guy a lot, but as the saying goes "there are plenty of fish in the sea"....you just need to be patient until you hook the right one!
2007-03-01 05:57:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anna 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
on your sake i wish its to a guy you're fond of. I additionally wish you enable issues take place for sure. there is not any person which could show you how to comprehend a thank you to act interior the direction of intercourse. enable it fairly is universal for you. you additionally can find you do not discover it irresistible. you're able to rather communicate on your destiny husband approximately it. gazing intercourse scenes isn't something like the genuine component. that's different for each individual. I in basic terms wish that the two one in all you detect out what works super for the two one in all you. that's a passable component in a marriage as long because of the fact the the two one in all you get alongside superb. it fairly is going to be terrible for people who do not. the 1st time will regularly harm given which you have not experienced it before than. If he's an outstanding guy he's going to take it high quality and slow to envision out and be sure you at the instant are not in lots suffering. The apin could subside via the years. the universal is oftentimes the main complicated to get by potential of potential of. something you do talk approximately it afterwards and don't be shocked if he falls asleep.
2016-10-17 00:49:31 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh hun not many people can say "i know how you feel' but i am one of the few who can
i dated a guy for a year and he was so good to me i trusted him and i hade never trusted or been in love we were ingadged also but we had our problems small ones nothing we couldnt get through except for one really big one and that was that we just werent good for each other. we both made each other happy but we were just to different and so i told him its best for us and he faught it for so long and then one day he finally got what i was trying to tell him.
sometimes people can so be in love and be so happy but they are just to different and it just isnt working
so this last time we talked i told him i loved him so much that i would go without him so he could have a better life and that last time he didnt fight for me cus he knew it was the best
im so sorry hun i really am i hope everything turns out but there is one thing you should remember and that is "if your man doesnt want you then go find someone that will cus you deserve and can get someone that loves you for you and doesnt want you to make there life happy. there is a guy out there that will simply be happy cus he is with you "
good luck girl i hope i helped and if you want to talk just email me k good luck girly
2007-03-01 06:00:54 · answer #10 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋