I started dating this man in January. He's nice, loves my kids, gives me my space but he is not reliable. I trust he is NOT cheating. When he tells me he'll come and see me, he either arrives really late or just does not show up. Then he calls at 23h00 to let me know he won't be coming at all (when he wakes up?!).
I am trying to be understanding - he has his own company, a rough construction job and gets tired at the end of the day.
The problem - I don't know what is acceptable and what is not anymore.
When we are together, he does not give me all the attention I wish I'd get (bothers me a little). He smokes lots of pot. He is extra nice and calm when he does (does not bother me that much). Not reliable (bothers me a lot).
I am sure I have things to learn from him. After being in a controlling relationship w/ my ex, I need to put my feet back on Earth... and for sure, there are no games with him.
I'd like to talk to him about this - I don't want to be rude. What can I say?
2007-03-01 05:42:39 · 9 answers · asked by Shaana 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hook up with a tweek.
2007-03-01 05:47:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want your kids to grow up around drugs?
No matter how nice he is...if he needs pot to be that way then you aren't loving him, you are just liking his "pot ego".
Since you are just getting away from the controlling relationship...maybe you just need some time for you and your children.
Unreliable is unreliable...if you can't trust him with the small things...how are you going to feel about the big things?
2007-03-01 13:55:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean that you don't know what is acceptable? If you don't like it, then it is not acceptable to you. And don't think that you will get used to his annoying habits over time -- it will actually get worse as it starts to grate on your nerves. Maybe you need to find someone to date who doesn't annoy you as much. I would.
And I don't think that I would date someone who is into illegal stuff, even if it seems harmless. He will get arrested one day, and then you won't see him at all.
Why don't you wait until you are both feeling relaxed, and just say how you feel? If he just gets angry and leaves, I say better now than later. On the other hand, if he listens to you and trys to change, then you have solved your problem.
2007-03-01 13:54:00 · answer #3 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just hand over a bag of Doritos to him and get used to it. Pot heads are not reliable, that is a fact of life.
2007-03-01 13:47:22 · answer #4 · answered by Li 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he smokes pot??? dump him. and guys always use there jobs as a reason to get away from there girlfriends... sometimes they lie....
2007-03-01 13:52:56 · answer #5 · answered by xswtxdrgnxgurlx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drop the thought of calling him back! his girl friend was right there. don't waste your time on a user!
2007-03-08 21:40:13 · answer #6 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should get the book 'hes just not that into you'
2007-03-01 13:49:54 · answer #7 · answered by Matthew H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him to be more considerate. tell him if he can't make it just call.
2007-03-01 13:48:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
none of that would fly with me. take a break.
2007-03-01 13:51:35 · answer #9 · answered by resistance fighter1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋