My bf at the time confided in me that he wanted to commit suicide and has thought this out, he didnt want to be here anymore and did not want to live anymore. I told him he needed professional help and you would even go as far as to make an appt w/ a doctor and go with him. But he declined and only wanted to confide in me. I felt he was genuine and tried to help him. He would tell me every other day that he was going ot go thru with it. Around when he would plan it. Sometimes he would feel so badly, he would hang up the phone and not answer when I called back, made me panick and have anziety attacks. He told me he purchased cianide over the internet. Well, after I helped him and talked him through his "depression", he left me to be with someone else. He was so cold and hurtful to me, how does SOMEONE do this??? Becuase if his behavior, I had to seek a therapist, because I didnt know people like this existed. He seemed like he desperatly needed my help, and now walks around like he was
2007-03-01 05:39:40 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
never suicidal, and what he put me through was nothing. I feel he messed with me head emotioanlly and mentally. I want him to pay for what he did to me. I cant seem to get over t, its been 8 months since then. I was with him for 2 yrs. IF he used me, it was the CRUELEST WAY to do it. He is a 29 yr old teacher and is very attractive and I THOUGHT he was just someone with a good heart but needed comfort. I dont look to be a "hero" in relationships. I feel he layed this burden on me. I could have chosen to walk away, but what if he really did kill himself? I would have been devestated, because I walked away. I dont know how to cope now, and I dont trust anyone anymore.:((( I get very angry and I cry and I tried to confront him. HE told me that if I need help, GET PROFESSIONAL HELP!!!! Can u believe him??!!!!!! He is sick.
2007-03-01 05:42:00 · update #1
Listen sweetie, people can be very evil and cruel, but don't let that get to you, just be confident that you did everything you could for him and as the old saying and the song goes* what comes around goes around and back again* be patient hun, he will get whats coming to him. Patience is a virtue...Chances are that when he gets tired of playing his little games, he will want you back cause you did so much for him....that's where revenge comes in...Drop him like a bad habit. then you will have closure. I have suffered with depression for over 20 yrs, and suicide has never entered my mind..that was just a cop out...I wish you lots of luck sweetie..and remember, there are still a few good ones left out there, don't lose ur faith over one prick :)
2007-03-01 05:57:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay first of all he was never going to kill himself. He just wanted the attention and when he realized that he could not keep his game up he went to find someone else to play the game with. You sound like a very compassionate person with a big heart. All you tried to was help. Even though he did not see the effort and love you put in the relationship don't let others not see it. You are a good person, don't let him destroy that with his games. he is not even worth the time that you spend think about him. That is what he wants. He wants you to think about him. Don't give him that. If you want to make him pay, forget about him and live you life to the fullest. That is the best way to get back at him.
2007-03-01 05:50:59 · answer #2 · answered by jbark8831 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much longer are you going to let this run your life. Yes, what he did was wrong, he used you and he will eventually get what he deserves, (probably won't be your doing) but knowing that what comes around goes around should be enough for you.
Now stop dwelling on it and go out and make some new friends, every minute you waste on this is a minute you can't get back.
Here's one of my favorite sayings "Life flies past on an unseen track, never a moment, ever, comes back". Whenever I feel myself circling around a problem or a past wrong I say this to myself and move on. Hope it helps.
2007-03-01 05:50:36 · answer #3 · answered by kmv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if that was a question or if you were just venting, but the best thing you can do right now is take comfort in the fact that you did a good thing and move on with your life.
2007-03-01 05:49:08 · answer #4 · answered by 90210 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your first mistake was assuming your could play therapist to someone, rather than insisting he see a professional. I would have called the police, rather than him if he'd pulled that stunt. Sorry.
2007-03-01 05:54:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite a situation. Psychs can't help you. Don't believe me? Go to www.cchr.org and watch the videos of them telling you so. Then go to www.dianetics.org
2007-03-01 05:54:01 · answer #6 · answered by robthomasjr2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he is sick...he is still manipulating you,, and you are a fool for letting this affect you...let it go..it will eat at you if you don't..just be glad that he is now someone else's problem
2007-03-01 05:50:15 · answer #7 · answered by kerfitz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't like fairy tales. (kisses)
2007-03-01 05:46:11 · answer #8 · answered by fruit_challenge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋