I have tried rewards. treats. stickers, and telling her that she cannot go to school unless she does. please I need help any suggestions would be appreciated
2007-03-01 05:37:57 · 9 answers · asked by jodes_71 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Realistically if a 4 year old isn't potty trained there is likely a bigger issue at hand.
You need to look more at the problem? Will she sit on the toilet at all? Will she pee or poop in the toilet at all? Was she at one point trained and has reverted?
If she flat out will not sit on the toilet, and you have tried a potty chair to no sucess she may have some sort of phobia. She could have had a really traumatic experience. I would suggest you speak to her doctor about maybe seeing a therapist. Don't worry kids see therapy as play, because that is generally all the therapists do with young kids certain guided play.
If she will go to the bathroom but frequently doesn't make it there may be a physical problem. She may have an infection, or an anatomical problem that prevents her from having adequate notice that she has to go or the ability to hold it until she gets to the bathroom. Diarrhea is also a cause for many accidents. Diarrhea can be caused by many things including too much juice or other sugars in the diet, allergies etc.
At this point you really need to go to the doctor and get some tests run. If they find nothing then you can just be stern, but if there is a problem all the punishment in the world isn't going to make it better, rather it will make it worse.
2007-03-01 05:49:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she wakes up just have her sit on the toilet and give her a book to keep her mind off what she is really doing and if need b then run a little water. Also it would help if there was a reason as 2 y she doesnt want to go. You can also have her watch you till it's time to wipe. But most of all keep with it. After she goes in the morning bring her every 10 - 15 minutes till she goes again. Just don't be to hard if it doesnt happen in 1 day it will soon. It took my son about 2 or 3 days before he really got it down.
2007-03-01 13:52:42 · answer #2 · answered by miarwo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just might not be ready to use the potty yet, don't force her. It could traumatize her and she might not want to use the potty for a long time. It something that she HAS to be ready for. I convinced my son that if he doesn't want to be a baby anymore then he has to use the toilet. He was soooo easy. Try asking her if she wants to be a big girl, if she does do what I did.
Good Luck and don't push her. Just ease her into it.
2007-03-01 13:58:42 · answer #3 · answered by infiniteson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to flat out force her. I wouldnt say this if she was like 2 or under but she is a big big girl at age 4. Its time to just sit her on it and show her who is boss. I wouldnt let her wear diapers. Just let her wear underwear and if she wets them she will be uncomfortable and maybe she will realize that she needs to go to potty..
I am not saying tramatize her like people think I am suggesting. I am not saying whip her or something if she doesnt do it but you need to be stern and make her realize that she needs to get through this. No school will let her come in without being potty trained.
2007-03-01 13:41:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some kids are scared of going to the toilet but you should rent some movies from your local library about potty training and show them to her. So that she can see that it's really easy. And remind her that she needs to be a big girl and gets to wear pull ups. They have a nice variety of pull ups now for kids that excite them about wearing them.
2007-03-01 13:48:38 · answer #5 · answered by AM07 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What I did was put cloth training pants on WITHOUT plastic shorts to go over them. I know it sounds messy, and it can be so you have to pay close attention. Once they feel that wet dripping feeling they immediately want it to be dry. This gets their attention fast. With both of mine they were going in the potty within two weeks. It takes lots of attention and talking
Good Luck
2007-03-01 16:09:06 · answer #6 · answered by sillysumpin 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont agree about forcing her. I would talk to your ped about it.http://www.parentsroom.org/4yrwontpotty.htm Try this. It might work. http://www.parentsroom.org/4yrwontpotty.htm Try this one as well. By the way I have a son who is 3 years old and he will be 4 in Sept., he will not train he cries on the pot. I will try this as well. Relax it will happen before you know it.
2007-03-01 13:54:04 · answer #7 · answered by janine b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will go when she is ready...
Try making it her decision, not something she has to do because you say so. Children are very protective of their bodily fiunctions at that age... They will usually go on their own if you leave them in pull ups with a soggy load long enough and gently remind them of how very uncomfortable it is.
Boys are easy... I just floated cheerios in the bowl and they took delight in playing war games by shooting at them...
That's why I had boys!
2007-03-01 13:47:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Throw out the diapers.
Let her walk around in her own filth.
Unless there is somehting medically wrong with her, she should be able to control her functions during the day.
2007-03-01 14:38:16 · answer #9 · answered by babypocket2005 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋