I love this guy and he loves me, but my parents don't like him and they don't even let me talk to him or see him or anything...they don't trust me because they found out that i saw him once and i really want to be with him, without hiding anything from them. What should I do? I just want them to know but they don't understand me, they don't want me to be with him because they said they have heard things about him but i always say, don't judge a book by its cover.....
2007-03-01 05:17:43 · 9 answers · asked by chikis 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There's this one guy that i fell inlove with and he asked me out but i told him to give me time and he sure did.When i said yes we were going to go talk to my parents but they found out 1 day before we talked to them. They told me that i couldn't talk to him anymore and they made me call him and tell him that we couldnt talk n e more. I'm already 18, I love him, he loves me, but they don't want me with him because his brothers have a really bad reputatios and they say he might be like them. They don't trust me anymore because they found out i saw him without them knowing ONCE and i was with 2 other friends not by myself. Now they don't let me go out with my friends or talk to certain people and i feel frustrated and mad.first i can't talk to him and now my friends. I broke-up with him on sunday but we said we r just gonna wait till things get better because i don't wanna go behind their back. I just want them to let me go out with him but i get mad cuz they dont even let me talk to him
2007-03-02 04:53:39 · update #1
I'm a parent too and I understand where they are coming from. One thing kids forget is that we too were your age!! We weren't born grown!! We went thru the same things. I ran away with my boyfriend one time and was shipped out of state to stay w/ family so my parents could keep me from him. I'm glad they did. On the other hand, you say you love him and he loves you too? OK, then if you think you all are meant to be together then do what you are told to do by your parents and when you are older, go get him. I know it sounds corny, but defying your parents will only make life harder for you. Don't ever say your parents don't understand because they do. They always have, that's why they said no. They love you and are suppose to protect you, that's what we are here for. We're not your friends in school. Your friends will soon be a memory especially when you become a parent, your parents will always be there for you. Love em, respect em, and tell him I will have to see you another time.
2007-03-01 05:26:11 · answer #1 · answered by lamonross80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this but some times mom (or dad) does know best. Actually when I was younger I never would have admitted that. They made sure to tell me who they thought were loser and who wasn't and sure enough anyone they told me was bad for me ended up in the end being an a**hole. If I had listened to them it would have saved me a lot of time. As a parent now I realize it's not a gift but experience
2007-03-01 13:24:22 · answer #2 · answered by Allie400 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how old you are. It sounds like you've already forfeited your right to be trusted. So, see if you can earn it back. Offer to see him only under supervised conditions. Ask if they'll let him come over to your house for a family dinner. See if they'll chaperone while you go to a movie, etc., etc. If you're sixteen or under, stop seeing the boy and get over it.
2007-03-01 13:25:20 · answer #3 · answered by dave_cooke1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, they're not judging a book by its cover. They are judging him by his reputation in the community, which doesn't seem to be very good.
The only thing you can do is obey your parents. Once you are 18, moved out of their house and supporting yourself, then you can date whoever you want.
2007-03-01 13:20:38 · answer #4 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parents are only looking out for you.. I'm sure they have seen this type of person in their life and don't want you to make the same mistakes as them. Believe me.. parents know...
2007-03-01 13:22:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. But be sure that he is worth it. If you really love eachother then you need to let your parents know. Be honest and maybe they will come around.
2007-03-01 13:20:47 · answer #6 · answered by CHICK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try to explain him to your parents ask him over somehow have him tell
your parents he is a nice guy and a good guy and everything will work out hope that helps
2007-03-01 13:22:12 · answer #7 · answered by wow432 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parites are the same way with my girlfriend but i go with my hart and with God cose parites can be rong 2 . even tho my gf my live far from me we still right each other and call cose me and my gf has loved each other for 5 years now
2007-03-01 13:28:44 · answer #8 · answered by AJ M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't worry about what other people think of you, you have to do what makes you happy, unless your just a kid, then you might want to listen to your parents, they could be right, they could be wrong
2007-03-01 13:21:29 · answer #9 · answered by Wendy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋