ok so im not one to trust a man and i fell in love with this guy i thought was the greatest thing going. we had so many happy times and made so sweet love he told me he loved me like he never loved before. well he just left me and im so heart broken how do i get over him.
2007-03-01 04:58:47 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The best way to get over him is to forgive and forget. If you remain upset with him than you can never get over him.
Secondly, try to remove all his memory from your room and your life. Try to avoid going to places where you two have been together. And most important try to occupy yourself all the time, by doing some work, taking a new professional course or taking some part-time activities etc. Try to hang out more with frens and have fun with them rather than discussing about your EX and remain being upset. I think the best solution is to change the city or even country. but if thats not possible than try and go for the way i discuss and i hope it will work. I prays you will find someone special soon!!!
2007-03-01 05:06:07 · answer #1 · answered by Stann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think of it as getting over him, think of it as learning to cope without him. Keep yourself busy. I know when you're feeling miserable the last thing you want is company but force yourself to go out with your friends. It means you won't be sitting all by yourself brooding and your friends will distract you. Take it a day at a time. Some days will be better than others. one day you might feel really positive the next you might be tearful but remember it will all pass. I guarantee you in a year you'll be able to pass him in the street and feel nothing. Have a girly night i with your girlfriends. Eat so much junk food you feel sick, talk about all his BAD habits and things you won't miss about him. Get your hair done, if you've got some spare money then treat yourself to a hot new outfit and then flaunt it in front of his face that he'll never again have the hotness that is you! Love and light xx
2007-03-01 13:14:41 · answer #2 · answered by Velvet_Goth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to take it day by day... And even years from now it might still hurt but just remember that even though your world ended that day A new one was born.
Everyone has that special someone out there waiting on them to find them. You just have to keep looking and keep up hope that he is out there waiting for you and possible even searching for you to. Dating is trial and error and most of the time you get hurt in the process and you bring that pain into the next relationship..which makes the relationship a lot worse.
You have to try and let go and move on with your life. It is going to be hard and sometimes he might even come back and beg you to come back to him but just tell him no. You don't need to put yourself through so much pain again. If you really do believe him the go ahead but I would really make him work for it.
Right now the best thing that you need is a shoulder to cry on. You don't need another relationship until you have gotten over this one because like I said..the baggage can harm a relationship pretty badly. Just sit down and get some of your friends and have a girls day and pamper yourself.
take a nice long relaxing bath and treat yourself to some food that you love. You deserve it! The only think that can make you get over him is time. Unlike the movies that we all see where the girl gets dumped and she is alot of pain and some handsome "prince" comes and treats her like a queen and they end up falling in love and having a happily ever after...Unfortunatly this isn't a movie and the best thing you can do is just cope and deal with the pain.
Talk with your friends and family and just try to get on with your life. One day you will look back on all of this and laugh..but right now just treat yourself to a day in your pjs with a tub of your fav. Ice cream while watching your fav movies.
I wish you the best of luck and I am sry that he treated you that way. I wish the best for you and I hope you find that one true soul mate you are suppose to be with. :)
2007-03-01 13:19:39 · answer #3 · answered by Roe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop labelling him 'the love of your life.' That's the first step. He is not the last person you will love.
Breakups suck. There's no way to magically 'be over' him. It takes time. Keep busy and spend time with your friends, but most importantly STOP THINKING OF HIM AS THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE. That's seriously important. As long as you call him that, you're convincing yourself that the best part of your life has been left behind you, and it HAS NOT! There will be others, you will have other loves, and this is not the end!
Just get that straight in your mind, be able to look forward instead of looking back, and you will be fine eventually. I hope you feel better.
2007-03-01 13:05:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is take it one day at a time... but everyday tell yourself that you are ok and that you will make it.... it will get easier ..... but after you heal you will have to learn to forgive him and that may take a little time as well... but in all just know that this was just one of lifes test and if you can get through this you can get through the next... dont jump into anything yet .. take time for yourself.. because you dont want to drag baggage that you have from this past relationship... Good Luck Hunny! i wish you nothing but the best
2007-03-01 13:07:02 · answer #5 · answered by U_dont_know_me_Until_U_know_Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just think he's the love of your life. You haven't met the love of your life yet. This guy was just a preparation for the love to come. When you meet this person, you'll be able to compare the two, while realizing that you needed to experience heartbreak, in order to appreciate your true love. Everybody comes in and out of our life for a reason. Don't waste life by getting stuck on one person, when that person isn't stuck on you. You should try and love yourself more than that. You deserve to love yourself first; you have to before you're capable of loving anybody else.
2007-03-01 13:06:04 · answer #6 · answered by taknachance123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will help. I believe that for every year you knew him it will take one month of grieving, so you do the math....in the mean time, start getting back in the single scene.....call friends, go out to dinner or Starbucks by yourself....yes, all by yourself..... bring your laptop or a book if you must. Get reacquainted with yourself... do something nice for yourself... buy something that you would not ordinarily buy .... love yourself more than your ex.....He broke your heart..... he is not worth loving........Remember....there.... is.... someone out there waiting for you. You will find a new love when you least expect it!
2007-03-01 13:12:40 · answer #7 · answered by Pearlinpc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok if you and him had sex and then he left you then he just wanted you for that. And if that is the case, guys like that are not worth it. So go out with friends have fun. There is a lot of fish in the sea!!!
2007-03-01 13:05:27 · answer #8 · answered by Bianca Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I can relate to that,same thing happened to me.I was devasted,went to counceling,kept busy.Treated myself good,wished him the best even though he left me,no reason for it.We were together12 years.Cried myself to sleep many nights.Normal behaviour,then i looked at myself and realized i was not to blame,he just wanted her.After a year i want to move on and meet someone new.i joined a gym,got into church and now i am doing well.i wish him the best and i'm moving on.Keep busy and be good to you.Give yourself time to heal and i wish you all the best.It does get better,I promise.It did for me.
2007-03-01 13:10:11 · answer #9 · answered by canteloupesweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BEST ADVISE...set a cry it all out date...take it all out for that one day AND THEN DONT THINK ABOUT HIM. take down anything that reminds you of him. dont call him and keep your head up. he isnt worth it. AND if for some reason he trys to come back...MAKE HIM BEG aviod him. dont pay much attention to him. he's a DOG!
2007-03-01 15:20:47 · answer #10 · answered by Lulu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋