Hi,
I need help... he is a really nice guy and i love him and he does too.. its almost been a yr now since we are in love and more than a yr since he knows me..... we are meeting up for the 1st time at his apartment this weekend... and he told me that he wants a kiss from me.... but i dont think it would stop with it..... I'm not keen in going any further than a kiss cos I dont feel very good about him from what my friend told me when we met recently after few months..... I have told my bf not to expect anything more than a kiss.... what do i do if he tries going more than that? i don't want to harm or hurt him tho.....but i do know that he loves me ... i'm confused .......
Please help!!!
Thanks in advance...
2007-03-01 04:56:58 · 19 answers · asked by Lucky 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if all this guy wants from you is sex, then it's not worth your time. You are giving him (from what it sounds like) a lot of loving energy. If he is only with you to get that kind of attention and not give it back...? why bother?
But you love him, and you say he loves you. So if that's the case then he will understand and respect your decision.
Be careful. Go slow. Just do what you are comfertable with.
2007-03-01 05:01:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As I have always told people....never use sex as a weapon, whether it be good, bad, or even as an excuse. Do not ever fall prey to anyone who wishes to have it against your better judgement. You have gone this far and have fallen in love without it. What's wrong with waiting a bit longer?!? It will only make that much more special when the time is right and when you both feel good about it!
You have chosen 'Lucky' for a reason. Earn that nick of yours. Be a lucky girl who has won a guy that can respect you for who you are. There is nothing wrong with just kissing and nothing else. Your love can still grow stronger from kissing. Kissing can be very passionate as well. Follow your heart and not your hormones (especially his).
I hope that your love grow stronger from the respect which will be shared. =)
2007-03-01 05:22:17 · answer #2 · answered by indyhype 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you sat down and talked to your boyfriend about what you feel and letting him know that right now you are not ready to go any further then kissing and if so does he understand those conditions? If your friend told you that she did not feel comfortable about being around him and thought something was strange about him then maybe you should ask her what she knows and see if she will share the information with you and does you have anything to back up what she is telling you so you don't wrongly accuse someone of something that did not turn out to be their fault. In a way it almost sounds like your boyfriend plans to make a pass at you whether you know it or not, but it will be up to you to tell him what you are and aren't ready for.
2007-03-01 05:03:37 · answer #3 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if your meeting him for the first time, Change the meeting place. His Apartment is not a likely place to be meeting for the first time unless you wanna do more then a kiss. Which I think he does want because he called you in such a place.
Just call him up and say I think we should meet outside, you know have coffee or lunch.... Otherwise if you cannot change the meeting spot. Then when you are in his Apartment and you do kiss and he try's to do more, just back away and tell him "I am not comfortable with this right now maybe as time brings us closer it will get comfortable." and if he still try's then just leave his Apartment.
Good luck!
2007-03-01 05:04:03 · answer #4 · answered by alice_nobleandkind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a little confused to weither he is your best friend or your boyfriend, so I'm gonna go with boyfriend.
Well, maybe you don't love him as much as you want to think you do. You didn't mention any religous convictions. So I'm gonna assume that is not the reason. It sounds like he is no more then your best frined.
If you really loved him the connection would be SO great that it wouldn't be uncomfortable. In fact it would be so natural that you wouldn't be able to keep your hands off him. So...I'm sorry to say, you need to rethink your relationship. Where is it headed? Why are you so uncomfortable with being with him? How do you think this makes him feel? Being wanted that way makes a man feel like a man....not a best girlfriend.
2007-03-01 05:05:58 · answer #5 · answered by Kristi B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just WAY TOO F**** UP to be off your leash.
You've only met this guy once or twice? Don't do anything with him. Even going to his apartment may not be safe. These guys you meet online are usually meeting girls online because they can lie and pretend to be anything or anyone they want . Go out to a safe place where there's lots of people and have him drop you off at home. Tell a freind when you expect to be home and call them when you get there. Just in case he tries to take you off somewhere. I hope you have fun, but please grow up some and don't be so niave.
2007-03-01 05:05:08 · answer #6 · answered by michaelsmaniacal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm , i do believe that what your friend says might be true for some guy's do turn out to be like that. So maybe when you go to his apartment this weekend try to do smth with him instead of being romantic and all. Try to just give him a light kiss, nothing more.
;)
2007-03-01 05:02:15 · answer #7 · answered by Adrian T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a little confused about how close you and this BF are. But none the less, do only what you feel comfortable doing. Since he loves you so much, he wouldn't want to force you to do anything, guilt you into anything, do anything you are not comfortable with.
2007-03-01 05:03:20 · answer #8 · answered by Question Addict 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend is a good guy, he'll understand. If you're not ready, no one should say otherwise, although they can show you that getting slightly more intimate is nothing to be scared of. Mybe (this is just a suggestion) you can talk to him about how you feel about this. If he really loves you, he can wait! If he breaks up with you, you deserve better than him. Find another guy that REALLY likes!
2007-03-01 05:06:09 · answer #9 · answered by neointhesky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just dont go!!! if you go you will problably end up doing something that youll regret, so just tell your bf you dont want to go, and if he really loves you he will understand.Besides hes a guy so take a guess, of course he wants more than a kiss!!!
2007-03-01 05:01:57 · answer #10 · answered by Bianca Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋