Do we need lots of love to forgive? we need much more humility to ask for forgiveness?

Answer 1

you are right.. forgiving somebody and asking to forgive... for both you need to be a very good human being...

Answer 2

Well Vaman, I really like this question, and think that it deserves a wise answer. I am not the person to answer this, but I have had one experience with this. Sometimes we think that family will always be there for us, and that no matter what we do, they will always forgive us and forget the bad. But not ALL families behave in such a manner. My mother was born into a family with a quiet and shy mother and her father most often behaved like a tyrant. Whatever he says, goes! He was the head of the house and the king. No one dared to go against his rules or decisions. My mother got tired of this "negative atmosphere" so she got married and left the house. Even now, her father, my grandfather, still acts in such a harsh way. As if a bomb waiting to explode, the entire family got into an argument, and for 2 years my grandfather did not speak to my mother or come to our house. TWO YEARS. My mother said to herself that her parents had died for her. My mother refused to make things right between all of them, because she did not do anything wrong. My grandfather is a very dignified man with too much pride. After 2.5 yrs. he finally decided to come and ask my mother for forgiveness for the things he had said and done. So in answer to your question, I think that for most of us asking for forgiveness is very hard.

Answer 3

Yes, you need lots of love to forgive. Love for yourself, that is. Loving yourself allows you to forgive in any situation. Holding grudges builds up negativity in your overall self, which leads to health and mental problems. Asking for forgiveness could be humiliating at times, but in the long run it just proves how strong of a person you are to be able to give in and admit your faults and willing to change them.

Answer 4

we need not to take ourselves too seriously to be able to really forgive, and think that what comes around goes around in order to ask for forgiveness.

Answer 5

yes for both