Here's the thing....the ex and I broke up about two months ago, but we were still "close friends" and messing around. His reason for breaking up with me was..."we're not going to be together forever so we should break up now instead of ten years from now." But recently he told me that he doesn't even want to be friends with me saying that "I was only friends with you until you found someone else, but it's taking too long." But he loves me...whatever. the point is...I just found out two days later is that I might be pregnant and I'm not sure what I should do? Keep it with risk of not being friends with the father? or be rid of it and spare the drama.
2007-03-01 04:47:40 · 8 answers · asked by Cathy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'll be twenty...he already knows and he said that he would take care of his child, but am I ready to take care of a child outside of a relationship is the question?
2007-03-01 04:58:24 · update #1
Reality... having sex means possibility of pregnancy. Period, you had sex so you accepted this. Now your reality is that you have a responsibility to this child. I believe a child deserves a father. Not all dads are responsible for the creation of their child. My parents were adopted, I have a step dad, and I have a sister that my father adopted. All of us have fathers in our lives but not all fathers are by blood. Sinking in yet? You didn't plan this baby, you probably wont plan the man that loves this child and claims her as his own, whether now or ten years from now. Either way, don't make the mistake of taking an innocent life! Love your baby, she will change your life in ways you can't imagine! I know this, I have my own.
2007-03-01 04:59:49 · answer #1 · answered by Consultant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay I want to first say you are playing with your emotions. BRAKE IT OFF AND MOVE ON He is being honest and telling you that you are basically a **** buddy. And that's not good for you. As for you might be pregnant...YOU knew you were playing with fire. There are many ladies in this world that raise a baby on there own. You don't have to talk to the man to have a child. I also say if you don't want it aborshions can really screw your body up and even keep you from having children. You can always have it and put it up for adoption some one out there will want a your baby if you don't. So This is your call me personally sounds like the guys is a prick and playing mind games lose him and move on with your life. Stop having false hope for some one that isn't in for the right reasons. Make sure you are pregnant before you tell him. And if he says he wants nothing to do with it. YOU choose to have it and raise it or give it up.
2007-03-01 04:57:13 · answer #2 · answered by Toni V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are playing a fool's game.
He doesn't love you, and you two apparently had unprotected sex.
He won't be around for you if you are pregnant.
Nowhere in your question do you give a hint on what kind of mom you'd be (besides being a single mom).
Either get an abortion or adopt the baby.
And if you choose adoption, then you best start right now focusing on eating healthy, getting good prenatal care and forget about guys for the next nine months...because it's be all about baby, and NOT you.
2007-03-01 04:54:27 · answer #3 · answered by docscholl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we can't make up your mind for you but one things for sure, he has the right to know about the baby whether the 2 of you decide to keep it or not, he doesn't have to be around the baby but he will have to support it that's for sure, depending on your income and his he will have to pay between 300 and 600 dollars a month plus provide health coverage or be liable for 1/2 of all medical bills after the baby is born.
2007-03-01 04:53:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do people who know they are not ready for achild have unprotected sex?? abortion is a choice, but should not be used as a form of birth control.
2007-03-01 04:52:12 · answer #5 · answered by clubchaos1965 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have Faith the you will be another Welfare teenage mother. Great life you have set up for yourself!
2007-03-01 04:54:12 · answer #6 · answered by rilindy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats not a question we can answer for you,, you do need to tell him tho, it is half his.
2007-03-01 04:52:38 · answer #7 · answered by lilkitty4eva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its never the childs fault and in my opinon its just wrong to kill a child..................
2007-03-01 04:53:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋