Out of control 2 year old?

Question

I have a 2year old that is out of control. He is very adventorious and likes to explore. Always getting himself into trouble and mis behaving. I'll put him on time out but than all he do is cry and whine. After time out he'll go back and do the same thing.
so far he had: Killed all the fish in the fish tank, knocked down two statue, broke the thermostat conrol, scratched my big screen tv, stuffed teddy bears in the toliet, went into my computer room and took a marker and drew all over the computer screen and desk, almost killed our dog by ridding on it, broke a glass window by throwing his toy cars, always getting out from his car seat when we are on the road, and the list goes on.

Is this normal for a 2year old?

A couple of friends advise me to take him to a doctor and they'll
give him some pills to calm him down but I refuse to drug my son to make him behave. I think drugging a child is wrong. It's not like he's sick or anything.

A lot of you had ask me where am I when all of this happen?

He's really quick and pull all this of in a second. I can't keep an eye on him 24/7 due to dishes has to be wash and cleaning has to be done. Sometime I do have to leave him alone for a couple minutes. Also he has a room full of toys which he plays in but all he do is take all the toys out from his room and put it in the living room. I had spanked him so many times and yelled at him so many time but it seems like he dosen't get it. Some baby sitter refuse to watch him do to his actions.

Answer 1

lol, That's not normal from what I have seen a 2 yr old do. My niece was never like this, she broke doll furniture and spilled nail polish on the floor, but nothing like that. My son is 28 months and he would never do that! It seems like you are not in his life like you should be. If he is doing these things how is he doing all of it when you are around? That means you are not. He is trying to get attention from you. You need to show him it.

Answer 2

Dont get him on pills please, hes two and sorry but this is why its called the terrible twos! Get a sense of humor and put all the expensive priceless things that you dont want broken up until hes a lil bit older. Also take a day to follow your son around and observe how hes able to reach markers to color on your stuff and the reason he thinks teddy wants to swim in the toilet! If he has a structured play day then he may be less rowdy. My 2 year old loves her sechedule. She wakes up, has breakfast, we watch 1 cartoon of her choice together then its time for arts and crafts ( finger paint outside!!! ) then we put away our mess, hang up or art and go outside for a walk and we'll talk about what she sees and the colors that shes learning about. I bought her a pre-k workbook so after our walk she has lunch, helps mommy clean up,then we sit down and do two pages of her workbook. Its easy for her to learn and concentrate on what she should be doing with the teacher approved cirriculum. After that she has a nap, wakes up , helps mommy with dinner and other chores, then its story time. By the time the story is finished and dinner is ready my husband is usually home and its a good thing because im tired. At first it'll be a lot of work but kids this age like a class room setting and they do love to learn. Doing this now will get them ready for pre-k and will teach them how to relax and understand that there is a time and a place for everything.

Answer 3

He needs a good spanking and start using a firm voice towards him. If he continues to misbehave he might need medical attention. I wouldn't worry. Just don't give him juices with sugar, and don't give him any kind of chocolate for awhile. Also flavored milk like chocolate or strawberry is a big problem sometime. I think when he climbs out of the car seat pull over and have talk with him. Give him something to keep him busy on the ride. As far as the other things your child did, he needs a good spanking. Best of luck.

Answer 4

Honestly, it sounds like he might be bored...give him something he is really interested in to direct all of that energy to in a controlled environment...If he likes to run around all wild and crazy, have a special time and place he can do that in...if he likes to be wet and messy from playing in the water...turn that into something constructive by having him help you wash the car.

I have 2 children, both over the age of two...and while kiddos can be rambunctious, they never pushed it to that limit. Some of it has alot to do with personality too...And monitor his sugar/caffeine intake...she shouldnt be drinking ANY soda, and sugary treats should be a rare snack...not an automatic right.

Kudos to you for not drugging your kid to make him behave. That doesn't teach him anything, so you will either have to keep him drugged indefinitely, or deal with him still not being able to practice self-control when he is older and bigger. Plus, for all we know, in 20 years, the drug companies could come back and say "this drug causes cancer" or some other horrible health problem...it's happened plenty of times before...

Answer 5

LMAO! And not to offend you but I truly am lol with you. I'm a mother of 3 children ages 17 1/2, 7 1/2 and 18 months. And I tell you my first two were nothing like the youngest. She started walking @ 91/2 months and talking very well right at a year. She has destroyed her vertical blinds by trying to climb through them, she pulls on the clothing of her older siblings aggressively in order to get their attention. She goes into each of her siblings rooms and totaly destroys them. Mobile phones have been ruined with spit and by being tossed in the toilet. My daughter will wait until her siblings are taking a bath or shower and find one of their items and throw it into the tub. When you say no she says yes. Time outs work for the moment and it's off to the next thing. She will literally touch everything in the house that she knows is off limits. Even with me on her heels she will touch suffer through a time out and begin again.

I truly believe kids test both your limits as well as their own just to see what the outcome will be. They don't often remember wha happen the last time but are willing to suffer the agony after repeating the offense. Hang in there. There is nothing wrong with the baby. He has only been on earth for a short while and has a lot to learn. It is up to you to keep teaching him. We as parents are not allowed to give up on our kids. They didn't ask to be here just as we didn't but we are here and we are ddealing with it. It will get better. Hugs!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

I am a mother of two. The first thing you need to make sure of is that you are consistant. When I send my child to timeout she must stay their the whole time or the time starts over again. I set the timer for how old they are. My kids get one warning and that's it. NO EXCUSES. If they mark on things,they have to clean it up. When my daughter was two she spent almost an hour washing crayons off her wall. Make sure you hold him accountable for everything. Also check yourself out to. Kids often do what they see their parents doing. You yell he yells . You get angry he gets angry. You could take him to a doctor,but I really don't believe that A child needs to be on medication,becuase he acts bad. Try this first. Also when it is really bad my children do get spankings. I tell them what they are getting it for and I spank them. Some people will have you believe that this is child abuse,but let me tell you this. My children are both loving and exciting. They are wonderful human beings. I have always looked at it this way. You are responible how your children turn out. They are your soul responsibility. If they turn out bad it's your fault. Take care of him now before its to late.

Answer 7

Do you by chance have my son? LOL.

I have an ALMOST 2 year old that is the EXACT same way.

I literally almost lose my mind on a daily basis trying to keep him occupied and out of things.

I've been told to look into the possibility of him having ADD or ADHD.

His father had it as a child and even carried it into adulthood, And I believe it is genetic.

Maybe you could talk to your DR. and see if there are other ways to help 'deal' with him, rather than medicines, Because I too, Do not want my TODDLER on medications.

Best of luck, and MUCH sympathy to you, I feel your pain!

Answer 8

Where are you when all of this is going on? If you are in the room watching him then you need to step up to the plate and intervene. If you are off in another room watching tv then he needs more supervision. Sounds like he has a high activity level (and I'd bet good money yours is low) and you need to find some activities and/or equipment to let him burn off some steam.

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Answer 9

I've seen a lot of 2 yr olds in my time and never have they done all that. I agree with your friends, take him to the doctor. They may want to look into ADD or ADHD. I dont mean to offend you in anyway but it sounds like it may be a factor. Does he have trouble focusing or listening to you? Try having one specific room that he can go in just to play but take out all markers, sharp objects... and pets.

Answer 10

He sounds like a typical 2 year old. Mine also found a magic marker. Needless to say I had to repaint walls. They are pushing there boundaries to see how far you will let them go. I think alot of it is pure curiosity. Just stay calm with him and keep disciplining him he has to learn the rules of your house and that there are boundaries. My (now 5 year old) little boy has turned into a wonderfully mannered little boy, but there were times he really tried me.