He has a little sister she is 11 months and he has been totally different since she came. They both get the same amout of attention and love. I ask him a simple question can you please move away from t.v. and he says no and keeps his hand on it. He refuses to pull up his pants, I'll tell him his baby sister is sleeping and he'll run into the room and wake her up. I feel like I have to threaten him to go in time out all the time because he just won't listen. What are some things I can do?
2007-03-01 04:39:20 · 10 answers · asked by fourcheeks4 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I never say no to him, I've read that's bad, but he still continues
2007-03-01 04:46:14 · update #1
I would say stop threatening and just put him in time out, it is my 2nd child who is most stubborn, the corner also works very well (and there were times I had to hold her there), but I learned the hard way, only give one chance then do it or they will never listen to you. For a month or so it seemed she spent all her time there but eventually she got it. I do not spank my children nor am I overly strict but they need to understand that they do have to listen to you.
2007-03-01 04:48:43 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Coffee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never say no to him? Oh honey, you are in for a world of trouble when your kids get older. You think your son won't listen now? Just wait till he gets to be five and older. You have GOT to set boundaries. I'm sure you don't believe in spanking and that's okay. But when you say, take your hand off the TV and he says no, you should say, "Take your hand off the TV or you will go into time out." Then, put him in time out. He needs to learn you are serious and he is not running the house, you are. Never give in when you tell him something. Make it stick. He needs to know what is and what isn't acceptable behavior to make it through this life, and your job as a mother is to teach him those things so he will be a responsible and respectful person as he gets older.
2007-03-01 13:09:40 · answer #2 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont threaten time out put him in it my son is 20 months old and a few months ago he was being so bad i cant bring myself to spank him so time out for me is great. the idea to time is if they are 1 year old then they sit for one min 2 years they sit for 2 mins if they get up during that time then you restart the time. And for me when i put my son in time out i get down to him tell him why i put him there when the time out is up i go back to him and tell him why i put him there again make him tell he is sorry and then i ask for a hug. this way he know what he did and he also knows that i still love him and care for him and that i am doing it for his own good but you have to stick to it or it wont work. like everything with a child if you dont stick to what to you say it wont work
2007-03-01 16:13:34 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I can't blame him. Get a backbone and start disciplining your child. Or maybe get Supernanny to your house, it sounds like you need some parenting help. For now, you need to SPANK his butt when he says no and disobeys. Do you know what is accomplished when you threaten but don't follow through? YOu reinforce the behaviour you are trying to stop!
2007-03-01 14:54:55 · answer #4 · answered by toomanycommercials 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well with my daughter, you can't just threaten time out, she has to go straight to it! we also have a counting system, like if she is running around screaming and someone else is sleeping, i would tell her stop screaming by one or you go to time out and i count 3 2 1 . most of the time, all i have to do is start counting and she stops and sits down!then we talk about why i started counting. you also have to make sure you praise the good behavior! good luck
2007-03-01 13:32:59 · answer #5 · answered by Carrie H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL I HAD THE SAME PROBLEM MY SON IS 3 AND HE HAS A SISTER THAT IS ONE SO EACH DAY I PUT HER DOWN FOR A NAP AT 3:00PM AND THAN WE GO OUTSIDE AND PLAY THAN WE COME IN AND I MAKE HIM A SNACK WE SIT DOWN AND WATCH POWER RANGERS SO MAYBE YOU COULD SAT ASIDE SOME TI'ME WITH JUST YOU AND HIM IM SURE HE FEELS THAT THE NEW BABY HAS TAKEN HIS MOMMY HE DOESN'T UNDERSTAND THAT A NEW BABY NEEDS MORE ATTENTION BECAUSE THEY CANT DO BIG BOY THINGS LIKE HIM THAT WHAT I TELL MY LITTLE BOY AND IT HELPS
2007-03-01 12:47:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Instead of saying "No" say "that's not for babies, it will give you owies" -or what ever she is is doing. Time out works, you just need to be INCREDIBLY consistent. one two three works if you are consistent w/ it. The one, two three count worked for my son, now he is three and I too am struggling again. Good luck.
2007-03-01 12:44:16 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hold your ground, its not just you and its not just because of his sibling. My twin nieces are doing the same thing at 25 months. They are just testing their boundries and seeing what they can get away with. Just remember you are the boss and stand firm.
2007-03-01 12:44:16 · answer #8 · answered by vospire s 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
SPANK HIM!!!
2007-03-01 12:46:05 · answer #9 · answered by Small Town Gal 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please change your guidance...
2007-03-01 13:28:45 · answer #10 · answered by Million C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋