She has never been perfect but for some reason she has been a real handful lately. I have been seperated from her dad for over 2yrs she sees him but now he is in rehab she hasnt seen him in a mth. I have started dating this guy and he comes around she says she likes him but sometimes she acts like she dont want to talk to him but sometimes she wants to talk to him and play this is the first guy she been around that is not just a friend. (been 2gether 4mth) do you think maybe 1 of these could be bothering her?
2007-03-01 04:29:04 · 14 answers · asked by lyn026 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
She thinks her dad is working out of town I tell her all the time he loves & misses her we send him things that she makes for him. She still goes to his parents. The guy Im seeing wks shift wk so he is not around all the time. I have ask her is something is wrong she says no,
2007-03-01 04:58:32 · update #1
Ok If you have not read the guy Im seeing is not around her all the time he is never alone with he, he does not stay at the house when she is there, he was around b/f her dad left I have not been with her dad for over 2 yrs. I dont spend more time with him than her she is first in my life, he & I spend our time 2gether when she is at her dads parents house. My last relationship (her dad) didnt last b/c he was on drugs and did not wk that way it failed. I thought you ask question to get answer not for someone to dog you out! I do let her mature she does not act like a baby she makes her own decision on somethings.
No im not like 12 Im 26 that wks f/t & goes 2 school I have my own house & car so I think Im doing very well with my daughter & myself I didnt ask a question for you to tell me I failed at something r that he is messing with her I have known him for 15yrs I guess I shouldnt have ask b/c I sure didnt think some of you are soo rude!
2007-03-01 06:53:30 · update #2
Well I will weigh in with this opinion- she's 3 1/2.
Both of my children went through really difficult stages at age 3. Just give her some time to adjust to the situation, and don't expect too much out of her. Of course she's going to act out more with you- she knows you love her unconditionally. Children usually are worse with their parents than with anyone else.
It's not your fault or anything you're doing (don't feel guilty about her dad, I was divorced when my daughter was 2- just don't go there with the guilt because I did) and with the new guy she is just being her fickle, strange, opinionated 3 yr old self. That's just what they do.
Hope this helps and hang in there!
2007-03-01 04:39:36 · answer #1 · answered by Simply_Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children only have a few ways to express feelings, and the younger they are the less they have. For a 3 1/2 yr old she has two big things going on in her life - not seeing her dad and mom seeing someone regularly. She doesn’t know how to ask what is on her mind. Could she think her dad doesn’t like her anymore because she was nice to your boyfriend? Could she think her dad found another better little girl? Could she think you want your boyfriend to replace her dad? Could she be mad that you are spending more time with your boyfriend than her?
I have no idea, and she may not know either. Try to talk to her many times in short 'sessions' and explain why dad can't see her right now and that he still loves her very much. Explain that you have a new friend, but he is not and will not take the place of her dad. Try to see if she feels left out or if she thinks you are not around enough. Don't let her 'rule the roost', but try and explain what's happening in her world.
Good luck!
2007-03-01 04:45:46 · answer #2 · answered by g-lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a single mum to a 3 1/2 y.o. girl. I, however, do'nt have a boyfriend so my daughter doesn't have to compete with one for my attention. What I do know however, is that if the phone rings she will suddenly go from sitting quietly watching the telly to tugging on my clothes, climbing all over me, shouting in my face, and generally making a complete nuisance of herself. Why? Because my attention has been diverted. The same happens if a friend comes round for a chat. It's just her way of trying to keep me all to herself, even if she isn't getting my attention at that moment.
Your daughter has you all to herself for most of the time and she's jealous when you try to give someone else your attention.
As for the effect of her not seeing her dad, I can't judge. My daughter has never seen her dad so what you've never had you cannot miss. In a lot of ways it's a blessing.
I know that if I was to try to have a relationship with a man my daughter would certainly try her best to put a stop to it as she'd fell that someone else was trying to steal me away. But I'm happy being single so I'll worry about that if and when...
Good luck.
2007-03-01 08:31:12 · answer #3 · answered by Spottie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's just a baby. I'm certain at least some of what you have experienced lately has effected your daughter. Kids are really sharp when it comes to this kind of stuff, you'd be surprised what they pick up on. As long as she is not feeling neglected in any way things will more than likely be ok.
Spend as much time with her as you possibly can. And when she visits Dad, make sure her visits are positive, up-beat. Keep it all light for her. She deserves it.
2007-03-01 05:57:38 · answer #4 · answered by Aunt Henny Penny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 00:42:07 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only example of a male role model in her life is unstable. That does not set her up for being overly trusting of men. Having the new guy around her is not going to make things better--especially if things don't work out. You should not bring any man you are involved in around her until you are on track for marriage. And if you think that's not feasible then don't date.
2007-03-01 04:42:52 · answer #6 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever underestimate your instincts. He could be molesting her, it is very common and men target women with children all of the time; you are a perfect target. I know Dr. Laura would tell you that you failed in one relationship why put your child through the trauma of doing it again. She is VERY over the top but you should listen to her show and use it to your discretion she is on a.m. and xm satellite.
2007-03-01 05:34:31 · answer #7 · answered by Yuppy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off: she is THREE! Let her - ummm, what's that word? oh yeah - MATURE!
Second: maybe you should take some time and figure out the EFFECT on your daughter of getting dad OUT of her life and dumping (yeah, I said DUMPING) a new guy on her! Why don't you see the new guy on YOUR TIME (now that he knows your daughtger exists) and make sure your time with your daughter is EXCLUSIVE.
What are you, like 12? THINK about your daughter FIRST and how changes in YOUR life will affect HER.
Oh, by the way: there is NO problem. She is THREE -she WILL "misbehave" until she internalyzes the rules. Read a book, for God's sakes.
2007-03-01 05:19:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
She is just proberley getting used to the new ajustments in her life at the moment just reassure her that you love her more than anything.
Also make a day where it is just the two of you and go out and enjoy this day
2007-03-01 04:41:47 · answer #9 · answered by xxsamxx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to offend you but maybe its the guy you are dating, she may see him as a rival to her dad. I have gone through the same thing. You should talk to her.
2007-03-01 04:35:20 · answer #10 · answered by Jonathan W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋