A man owed me £12,000 and still owes £7600 He was repaying at £300 a month but for 5 months he didn't pay as he said he needed to send money to his parents Now, for the last 3 months he has paid £300 a month again I asked him to give me £600 this month as I need to buy new glasses He refused saying he was saving for a car I think he should help me before buying a car I helped him in many ways over 4 years as well as lending him money Now I need his help he has refused so he can save for a car! Is he right or is he wrong?
2007-03-01 04:27:50 · 13 answers · asked by maryjane 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's wrong.
If he promised to pay you back, then that should be his number one priority before getting himself a car.
Especially since you are in need of glasses but can't get them cause he hasn't freakin' paid you back yet.
Make him sign a typed up contract agreeing to pay you your money back before he buys himself a car. Try to do this in a sly way or a way where he won't think you have something up your sleeve.
And if he buys a car b/4 paying you back, take him to court and get all of what you are owed. It's legal and just!
Hope this helped! ♥
2007-03-01 04:33:32 · answer #1 · answered by ♥LadyC♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the situation. I mean, if you really want this guy to pay you back (we'll assume you do) and he NEEDS a car to get to work to earn money, then maybe you need to let him focus on the car. It also depends on if you agreed that he would pay you a certain amount each month. If there was no amount discussed, then you can't really be upset. If you were giving someone this big of a loan, it sounds like you should have gone into great detail about the loan in writing with both people's signatures. That would have covered you over that 5 month period when he was 'paying his parents' instead of you. If you both agreed that he'd pay you that amount each month, it's not really fair of you to think he can just double that when you need it. Just think if your house loan company called up and said, "Oh, we're gonna need twice as much this month- we need to buy coffee cups." But if he already has a reliable car, then maybe that doesn't need to be his only focus- maybe you can sit down and talk reasonably with him- what if you both put an extra 75 down each month for two months? Then you'd have the money. I think you have lender's remorse, but that doesn't mean he has to take up the slack when you need more money. Maybe you could work extra this month or get a temporary job to earn the money you need for glasses.
2007-03-01 12:40:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, he is SO FAR wrong it's not even funny. Sounds like he knows he can get over on you. The nerve of someone owing you money, but telling you he can't pay it all cause he is saving for a car? GEEZ
2007-03-01 12:33:07 · answer #3 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he is utterly in the wrong. If he had any sense of responsibility, he would be settling his past debts before creating new ones. Unfortunately, this is a hard learned lesson. Never lend anyone, ESPECIALLY family or friends, large amounts of money. It never ends well.
2007-03-01 12:34:13 · answer #4 · answered by catsovermen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is unfair because you have been there for him for a long while. This is the lesast thing he could do for you- to repay for all the times you've been there for him. So I agree with you/ Everyone knows that health comes first than enjoyment. Good Luck!
2007-03-01 12:33:09 · answer #5 · answered by Drivliam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter who is right. Probaby you, but just be happy you're getting what you're getting and never lend money to friends and family. Chalk it up as a lesson learned.
2007-03-01 12:32:01 · answer #6 · answered by dihollywood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is paying regularly. You have your needs, he has his. You can't expect him to put his life on hold for your's.
If he can't do two payments this month, ask if he could afford one + partial.
If he says no, don't get upset.
2007-03-01 12:33:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right or wrong, did you learn not to loan anybody money?
He is wrong. Don't make the same mistake.
2007-03-01 12:31:46 · answer #8 · answered by mikey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats wrong because he should be more than happy that you didnt take him to court when he didnt pay for 5 months.
2007-03-01 12:31:28 · answer #9 · answered by The Worrywart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is wrong in the situation, but what you going to do. don't loan friends more than 20.00 whatever, never works out good.
2007-03-01 12:33:06 · answer #10 · answered by glass. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋