he told me he'd slow down on the liquor. It's worst then ever now. he comes home from work and sits in front of the tv and pay me no mind what so ever. I want him to change before we ge married if not the no marrige. The beer i don't mind so much the liquor gotta go if not then he gotta go am i wrong for that? It's changed him for the worst not for the best. My momma always said a drunk aint nothing
2007-03-01 04:27:37 · 12 answers · asked by miss thang 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Exit the loser stage left, immediately, if not sooner.
2007-03-01 04:33:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a healthy enough relationship to consider marriage then I think you should talk before kicking him out the door. Simply saying "I don't want you to drink anymore" isn't going to work. You need to go about it more delicatly. Sit him down. Let him know EXACTLY what is that changes when he drinks and why you don't like him when he's in that state. It could be that he simple isn't aware of these things. If you talk things out to the point where you feel you've said all you can and he doesn't attempt to work it out for you then there is a problem much worse that simply his drinking habits. Keep in mind most alcoholics turn to alcohol to "escape" from a problem in there life they feel they can't handle or fix. Perhaps there's more he isn't telling you and is simply using the alcohol to cover it up. Like i said if your relationship is healthy enough there should be no problem simply talking things out. Good luck!
2007-03-01 04:44:36 · answer #2 · answered by Bonzilla!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beer or brandy, it doesn't matter, your boyfriend is an alcoholic and not a very good prospect for marriage. Don't think for a moment that you can change him after marriage, the desire to stop has to come from within. The time has come for you to give him an ultimatum, you or the booze. If he continues to drink, leave him, anything else will show him that you are a weak person and easily manipulated.
2007-03-01 04:42:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, I would give him an ultimatum that if he doesn't stop drinking or go to AA, then you are not going to marry him and he has to move out. What will happen is that when you marry him, his behavior will worsen and he will come home drunk, possibly physically abusing you. Why look for trouble...think more of yourself, you deserve better. I see you are living with him...if it continues if it is your apartment, tell him to leave. If he refuses, then I am sorry then break up the relationship and move on. You are in for a life of heartbreak if you marry this guy. He needs help and fast.
2007-03-01 04:35:17 · answer #4 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy is what is called a functional alcoholic. He can work and still maintain a life, but when he gets home it's all about the alcohol. It is time for for him to admit it and get help. You won't be able to do it alone and he probably isn't going to want to do anything about it so be prepared. You may have to leave him for awhile to get the message through. Whatever happens it is going to be ugly for awhile, but if he truly wants to change he will do it for you. If he doesn't it is best you get out now before things get worse.
2007-03-01 04:41:52 · answer #5 · answered by Alchemist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are bringing up the issue and he is not seeing it....it's not a good sign for the future. Alcoholism is a disease and without him wanting to help himself it won't get better. If he chooses to get help, then that is a step in the right direction and I would stay and support someone I loved. But if he can't see it, it's not worth it, it will only be worse for you in the future. Talk to him, tell him it's a problem and see what happens. If he isn't willing to get help, tell him you are going to leave. See if that triggers anything, if not, get out.
2007-03-01 04:39:02 · answer #6 · answered by debrenee211 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
each and every woman is distinctive, yet i discover quite a few cussing immature and disrespectful. I comprehend cussing once you're excited or indignant, yet in extensive-unfold communication it is not needed. what's the factor? My suggestion: in basic terms be a touch greater careful of what you assert. What can it harm?
2016-11-26 22:13:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN and don't look back or return to this situation. i am a recovered alcoholic and can see no chance of change in this because he can't see the progression of his sickness, and alcoholism is DEFINITELY an illness as defined by the Amer. Medical Assoc.
2007-03-01 04:32:15 · answer #8 · answered by Master Ang Gi Guong 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your momma was right, and she didn't raise no fool either. You no in your heart that you gotta make the right choice RIGHT NOW. I have been through a drunkin relationship. It will only get worse. Next the abuse, and poverty. Your young, you still can get it together. Please, do it ..get out!!
2007-03-01 04:34:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have two choices...Start drinking with him and blow up your life or run for the closest exit and release him to the drinking god
2007-03-01 04:37:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋