Im scared!!! what do I do?

Question

My ex and I broke up about a month ago. He threatened to kill me but later told me he didnt mean it. Now he calls me and leaves 5 minute messages saying how much he loves me and wants to see me. Im scared for my life. What do i do?

Answer 1

Call the police and file for a restraining order. Then if he does anything the police will arrest him for violating the restraining order. Even if he just tries to call you or talk to you.

Answer 2

Call the police & get a restraining order. Tell him that you are going to tell everyone you know that if you get hurt or ,heaven forbid, killed that he has threatened you & they should have him as the first suspect. That may make him think twice about doing anything foolish. I had to do that with my Stepfather when my Mother divorced him. I told him if my Mother got hurt or died from anything but natural causes I would let the police know about his threats.He never did a thing that he threatened because he knew he would be blamed.

Answer 3

Get a restraining order. Call the cops. Save the emails and messages. Move in with someone else for the time being until the police have intervened. Do not trust this man. Protect yourself. Be strong!

Answer 4

First off, get the police to fill out a report. Establishing his history of violence will help you if you need to get all legal on his a ss.

Then, start surrounding yourself with freinds and people who can help you if he starts coming around. Start calling your best freind every night at the same time so if something does happen, she'll be suspicious and call the cops. Tell her whats going on.

Get a cell phone, if you haven't one already, and program 911 into the first position in speed dial. Set up the voice dialer if it has one. Make sure all your freinds that you trust have your # in their phones in case you call, so it shows up on their caller ID, just in case you call but can't talk.

Get to know your neighbor if you dont already. They're most likely to see anything wrong first, and be first ones there. If they know whats going on, they'll help keep an eye out for you.

Keep a recording of those phone calls if you can, or just write down what he says along with time and date of the call. Turn the info over to the police if neccessary.

A restraining order or order of protection may be a good idea. Seek legal help from a local women's group or shelter.

And finally, just use your good common sense. Stay away from him at all times, do not take his calls, and be consistant. Always react the same way when he's around. Always leave when he shows up at the same party, always hang up without saying anything to him when he calls, always return any mail he sends you marked "unwanted correspondence".

Look around your community for groups that can help you. Battered women shelters (even if you are not yet battered by him) will have all kinds of resources available to you. Don't be shy or afraid to use them.

You don't mention your age or living arrangements, but if you're still at home, TELL YOUR PARENTS!

Stay safe, and email any of us who answer if you need to. I'm sure any of us would be glad to talk to you. I'm at [e-mail] if you need me.

Answer 5

Unfortunately, it's not so easy to get a restraining order. You need to make it clear to him that you are not interested in anything with him, at all. Move back in with your parents or a close friend. Don't spend time alone for the short future until he gets the message and moves on. Protect yourself. History has shown that restraining orders only help put the people away AFTER they violate them. Don't take any chances. Change your number, etc., etc. DISTANCE, DISTANCE, DISTANCE.

Answer 6

Get a restraing order against him,dont trust him. He threatened you,make sure your friends and family know about the threat.Dont go out alone,be sure someone is with you.This should be taken seriously.This is how people get killed,do not reply to his calls,and make it quite clear you are finished with him.get a different number and most of all report this to the police.they will have a talk with him.Be careful.you do not have to live in fear of him.No is no. Good luck.

Answer 7

Get a restraining order. Seriously. Or tell him you're considering it if he doesn't give you some space. Let everyone close to you know that you are afraid of him so that they can act as a warning system to you. You wouldn't want them to see him at your house and not know he's a little volatile.

Answer 8

if you are really serious about staying away from him then get a restraining order on him. tell your family what is going on so that if they see something suspicious you can report it. you can never take a death threat lightly. how do you know he doesn't really mean it?....... you dont! you have to be careful in situations like this, you never know what a broken heart is capable of.

Answer 9

Call the police and get a restraining order.

Answer 10

leave his *** alone. men can be crazy. you got out of the relationship for a reason and remember that reason. he will tell u anything to get u back in order to do the same things. girl move on because some ppl get in relationships they cant escape you are out of this one so stay back. never go back to your past its about moving forward dontlet him pull u back he wants to be your deadweight and dont want to see you move ahead think about yourself and whats best foryou why settle for poverty when you can have the riches....