Why do people pigeon whole the older woman?Especially if we are single with families!?

Question

I know so many, older single women with kids that are racing to have the best of life they can grasp for themselves and for their families! Most are divorced and with no regrets. What gets us is the stigma attached to us, the wierd assumptions about us and the
efforts people still make to keep us in that frumpy stereotype. I don't s

Most of the women I know have worked hard and had it a rough. Sometimes they have had to be on assistance but that isn't where they wanted to stay!

They are not chasing around looking for a free ride by marrying for money, remarrying out of lonliness or sleeping around. We work, we go back to school, we have careers, most of us are strapped for cash but we like our independence. We don't have alimoney cheques and some of us don't even get child support, or very little.

We want a future that's looking good! We don't have retirement savings most of us iether! So cut us some slack when we are out to get the good jobs and the education. We earned it.

Answer 1

Good luck and fortune to you for you are truly a woman i would associate with were i given the opportunity. i commend you for your progress . Sadly the world needs HUGE shot of compassion and more equality before the race on humankind begins to live life as it's truly meant to be.

Know this , from one human to another-- i LOVE you and so does The Almighty

Answer 2

Hon, don't be so uptight about it - that attitude suggests you project an air of suspicion, if not outright hostility, towards any man who glances your way. For the record - there are a good many of us out there who also have the sort of baggage you describe, who would be quite interested if you were more open and welcoming. We guys are like, once burned twice shy. Gotta be dam careful around that particular candle flame, ya know? But there is indeed hope - my wife and I both had previous relationships, kids from those relationships, and were fully-employed, independent adults. We've done pretty good since hooking up sixteen years and nine months ago - and yes, I do remember our anniversary!

Answer 3

Oh Honey I hear you!!! I am raising 4 kids and a lot of guys automatically assume that I am looking for a sugar daddy. I am NOT! My ex pays for the raising of those kids! If I do date is because I like to have companionship, another adult to talk to about anything but kids. To share lifes up and downs with. To hold when times get rough and to dance when life is great. So yeah..there is a certain stereotype attached to us..but look at it this way...it will take a very special man to see past all of that and see the real us. Untill then...live life to its fullest!!!

Answer 4

Ummm, ok, whatever.