My husband and I just found out that someone gave us a large sum of money for a wedding gift. We haven't been together long, but Im pregnant, and his uncle apparently sent a check to his father telling him that it was for us to start out our life. How do I thank him, I mean, I've got to do more than a thank you note... but I'm clueless. I've never seen a family like his before, and it makes me kinda feel awkward. So what do I do?
2007-03-01 04:11:51 · 27 answers · asked by Nawlinsbebe420 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Write a letter to the nice uncle. In the letter tell him how much you appreciate his generous gift. Then tell him what you plan to do with the money (down payment on a house, a family vehicle, set-up a college fund for the little one...) The best way to thank someone for a gift that large is to do something worthwhile with it, don't just blow it.
Good luck
2007-03-01 04:16:20 · answer #1 · answered by dihollywood 2 · 9⤊ 0⤋
First, send a lovely handwritten thank you letter. Both you and your husband need to work on this letter together and you both need to sign it. You need to decide what you are going to do with the money and tell the uncle your plans. Invest? Buy a house or car? Blow it in Vegas? Tell him. But do it soon, a lengthy delay may be perceived as ingratitude.
Invite him to a dinner at your home, if possible. Do it up in style, make the best you know how. If that is macaroni and cheese, so be it, the uncle will appreciate the gesture. If the uncle lives far away, send a dinner to him. I have sent many Surf & Turf dinners to people (along with the pot to boil the lobsters), there are many companies online that specialize in this. A really nice dinner for two will run you about $100 - $125 or so, most of the fixings included - and the lobster pot.
Next, if at all appropriate, you might consider naming the uncle as a godparent to the baby to be.
Nice thing about a $10k gift? It is tax free!!! Your uncle already knew that though.
Congrats on the new marriage, the baby to be and the gift.
2007-03-01 07:31:31 · answer #2 · answered by aivilo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, I'd send a heart felt thank you note telling your uncle what you plan to do with the money. Share with him the good news that you are pregnant. Be sure to keep this uncle on the Christmas card list and send photos when the baby arrives. You also could consider inviting him over for dinner to show him your new home and tell him your plans. However, the most important thing is to send a heartfelt thank you note (handwritten, of course) as soon as possible. If he has that kind of money to give as a gift, you need to acknowledge it quickly. I am confident he's not expecting a fruit basket or a gift for giving you a gift. Acknowledgement and keeping him in your life are the most important things.
2007-03-01 04:17:35 · answer #3 · answered by Susan B 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
LOL, that was funny! Anyway a hand written thank You followed up by a dinner engagement and a personal thank You spoken out loud in front of those assembled is the proper way of addressing this, never mentioning the amount but making sure the signifagance is well understood.
2007-03-01 04:17:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you plan on using it as part of a down payment on a new house, get the house, and then invite the uncle over for a really nice dinner to show how well you used his money that he gave you. Congrats on the wedding!
2007-03-01 05:32:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Write them a nice letter- the thought will surely count. Most people help out married couples when they marry to congratulate them and it is a nice gesture. Believe it or not a thank you letter is refreshing nowadays! Ask your spouse for help too as he probably knows his uncle alot better than you since you are new to the family.
2007-03-01 04:21:28 · answer #6 · answered by Brett M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You call him and thank him personally in addition to a thank you note. Try to do something "constructive" with the money and tell him what you are going to use it for, as people of his generation want to actually give you a hand up. Use it as a downpayment for a house, or to get out of debt or something like that. DON'T buy a car or go on a trip.
2007-03-01 04:17:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you absolutely need to pick up the phone and call him with thanks first and then follow up with a thank you note. Most likely he does not expect any kind of gift in return and obviously wants you to use your (and his) money on yourselves. But, a call and a follow up note is more than appropriate. My parents are known to give large gifts and are just pleased when people CALL to thank them. That phone, where they can hear the excitement and appreciation brings them so much joy and is all the thanks they need. On a side note....enjoy spending that loot and congrats on the pregnancy! :-)
2007-03-01 04:23:48 · answer #8 · answered by JDog 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Start with a nice thank you note. Tell him it's the most generous gift you can imagine, highly appreciated, and that you will always remember his kindness and thoughtfulness. Then, get to know him, try to make him part of your life. That's probably what he's hoping for.
2007-03-01 04:18:21 · answer #9 · answered by MOM KNOWS EVERYTHING 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most importanlty find out more about the gift and relaitonship from your husband. Then, together, write a personal letter thanking him.
2007-03-01 05:16:06 · answer #10 · answered by NWK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋