The breaking point...when do you say the relationship is over?

Question

I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years, we've lived together for most of them..but over the last 6 or so months hes changed so much and it hurts me. He denies it, but its obviously so...he hides in the bedroom day in and day out engourged by video games and the computer. I come home and it takes a good hour before he gets to me, even on my days off I sit alone in the living room waiting for him to come and spend time with me....days off is the only time with my busy busy work scheldule...and then just the way he acts towards little things..snipping at the tiniest things..getting angry and upset over the littlest things...what do i say? what do i do? i try and tell him hes acting this way and he denies it...im completely lost for words..for thoughts.. i am really getting lonely and beginning to think that i should move out.....i cant belive i thought that, but what am i to do?

Answer 1

I see that behavior as his way of saying its time for you to move on....

Time apart is a must...dont stay in a relationship because its comfortable...there is always room for improvement and always someone better

Answer 2

You cannot have love without respect. He doesn't respect you. All he wants to do is play is video games... He wants everything his own way, the easy way, and he's upset that you are wanting more out of him.

If he loved you enough, he would be willing to give up some of his game time for you. I'm a gamer. Used to play a lot. Now I'm married with kids. Not that I don't play anymore, just that there are times when it is OK and there is family time. And all day is not OK. Once wife and kids are asleep I can play as late as I like as long as I don't wine about how much sleep I got...

The fact that he won't even pause his game to come out of the room and greet you means that he doesn't care. It is time to move on. Dump and flush this immature turd.

Good luck.

A~

Answer 3

When there's no more to give, it makes no sense to go on. You simply run out, you know? And when that hapends, the more you linger in it, the worst you get hurt. Both of you. I think you are past your breaking point, maybe you weren't ready to admit it. It just doesn't make sense anymore? It's time to get out, and fast... in order to keep what you had good as a good memory, rather than a painful reminder. There's a cure for loneliness, you know? And that's called getting a life. You've been lonely for too long. Good luck.

Answer 4

That's crappy, here's what you do. Start going out with friends more often but when you do, just start getting ready even if he doesn't notice. Get nice a prettied up and when he sees you and says "what are you doing?" act normal and happy and say "I'm going to bla bla bla" or "Out with so and so" and if he cries and says no you're not, just say "Yes I am, I'll be back around so and so time if you want to hang out" Just start doing things without him just like he is doing things without you. If he can't understand all of this and still doesn't give you the attention you need, then it's time to move on and start fresh with a brand new fabulous guy. lol

Answer 5

First you need to shut off the video games and have a real talk with him. Everyone these days it seems, just throw in the towel and move on to the next, never trying to resolve problems, it's easier to run away. Try talking to him first and really getting thru to him, let him know how you feel and that you are starting to feel like you want to get away. This may make him open his eyes to what he is doing to you. He needs to hear you without anything in the background (video games, tv) if you have to, get him outta the house to talk. Good luck!

Answer 6

I think your boyfriend want to start new life with new girl... that why he started to do thing stupid... It werid becasue my wife told me same thing and I told her i have 2 job and it hard and I worked very hard to work it out and made this marriage work and I did and I very proud of it... and It take 2 people to make things work and better if only one and other not.. then not getting anywhere...

I think that you should tell him it over and you want to moved out and Let himknow yes I do love you very much but for what you doing right now... you not the same person I know...I don't know if you are bored with me and not want to fix the plm and so I think we need to call it quit...

I do hope that we can be friends that fine and if you want to tell everyone how bad I am that fine.. It up to you and I am not going to tell everyone why we breaking up... I do hope you have a great life.

You know that my wife and I been married will be 10 years in Oct. 07 and I am looking forward for that and we do have up and downs and big and small no matter how bad or what ever it is we be able to work it out and solve the plm... we know that it not going to solve over night it might take one week or so.. depend... but we able to solve the plm. smiling.

Answer 7

Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
Sounds like he's is bored with you . Get a life of your own while he is in his room. It will either make you feel better or make him realize he misses you not "waiting for him". If that dosen't work I would start looking for another place to live.
EVERYONE DESERVES TO BE HAPPY. It just takes different things to make different people happy.

Answer 8

First things first - Guys dont usually change much - so something has made him change - you need to talk & tell him your feelings and what might happen.. But if things dont change - well - its not doing you any good & not doing him anygood - so youre both waisting your time - Its really hard - but time passes so quickly & you cant get it back..

Answer 9

Just move out. I had a similar situation once, and the transition was tough, but I felt good once I was free. He'll live (or continue not living) without you, and you'll be happier.

Answer 10

TELL HIM HE EITHER NEEDS TO PAY MORE ATTENTION TO U OR UR WALKIN N MOST LIKELY HES GONNA TELL U TO PAK UR THINGS N GO BUT DATS ALRIGHT GIVE HIM A FEW DAYS N SOON HES GONNA REALIZE DAT HE F*KED UP N U WERE RIGHT N DAT HE DOSENT WANNA LOOSE ALL THA OVER A STUPID COMPUTER N VIDEO GAMES N COME BAK N IF NOT WELL ATLEAST U FOUND OUT HOW HE REALLY FEELS BOUT U I KNOW DER MIGHT ME A POSABILITY DAT UR GONNA HURT AT THE END BUT IF WORTH FIND OUT EXACTLY WAT IT IS DAT HE FEELINGS N WETHE UR WAISTIN UR TIME OR NOT.