Everytime I try to talk to my parents about moving out, they come up with all these reasons why I shouldnt, or cant. My mom says I dont make enough money, but I make $1100 a month, and I wont have to pay rent when I move in with my boyfriend. Another thing they havent brought up yet, but I know they will, is that Im buying their car from them. I already drive it, and Im supposed to pay them $125 a month for a year, and Ive only made one payment. They probably wont let me move out without paying TOTAL for the car. I really need to move out because my boyfriend has been keeping my dog that my parents wouldnt let me keep at their house, and he said that if I cant move out soon, he's going to give the dog away, because its tearing up his house. I need help!
2007-03-01 04:09:07 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know you want to move out...but think about this...you need to move out because your boyfriend won't keep your dog anymore? That sounds kind of pathetic...what is going to stop the dog from tearing up the place when you are there? You can't watch it 24/7...buy a crate and tell him to use it.
Second, it sounds like your boyfriend is just using the dog as an excuse to get you to move in with you. And what will you do if he changes his mind and wants you out? Or if you guys break up? 1100 a month is no where near enough to make it on your own. Don't mess up what you have. I moved out at 18 and got married, and it was HARD!!! Luckily, my husband and I truely love each other and we stuck it out and made it work, but if I could go back I would stay with him but I would have done other things differently. Take advantage of what you have, once it's gone, you can't get it back!!
2007-03-01 05:08:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
For starters you will have to pay rent, you can't expect another person to foot the bill for you. It is expensive, add up what your monthly expenses will be including car payments, phone bills, food entertainment, clothing, health care, insurance, utilities and rent. $1100/month is not a lot of money.
If you propose a reasonable budget to them that includes paying or the car you already drive they are more likely to accept that you are mature enough to move out.
From your previous question you boyfriend is much older. The age difference does make a huge difference when it comes to lifestyle. At 18 you are barely ready to be out on you own let alone living with another person. Think about what your plan will be if things don't work out. It is unreasonable to expect that you parents will allow you to keep coming back some when things don't work out well. It is never a good idea to move out unless you can afford to support yourself entirely.
2007-03-01 12:21:08 · answer #2 · answered by smedrik 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
okay...so i'm not sure how old you are, and where you live. me, being in cali..where rent can be expensive, i'd stay with the rents until i could get a better paying job. u say that you'll be moving in with your bf...i don't think that's such a good idea. i'm presuming you've never moved out b4, and moving in with the bf will be too much. you should never move into his place, it should be a new place that the 2 of you share together. otherwise, he'll always consider it HIS space, and it'll be awkward. if the bf taking care of the dog...is gonna give the dog away...imagine what he'll do to you! have a friend keep the dog safe instead or but the dog in a shelter....don't move out FOR the dog. gather up your money, and find a place YOU want to move into when YOU want to.
2007-03-01 12:16:56 · answer #3 · answered by Snki55ed Princess 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your parent's not wanting you to move out has nuthin' to do with you not making enough money, but really has to do with them not liking your boyfriend. Apparently they don't think that you are in a very healthy or stable relationship with him. If you were planning to move out into your own place, they would probably be happy for you, and help you decorate even help with some bills of some sort. But when you stated later on that you were moving in with your boyfriend who seems to be using blackmail to get you to move in with him, doesn't sound like a good potential move to me either. I mean he is telling you that, "... if you don't move in with him, he is getting rid of your dog." So for you to think that you won't have to pay rent while living with this individual, you're truly naive. You need to think, for him paying to put a roof over your head, what are you giving up instead, if not money? Nothing in this world is free, especially a roof over your head. hell even living with your parents, you are paying something; making good grades, doing chores, paying on a car etc. This is why they are making your move a difficult event. Seems to me the first time your boyfriend gets upset with you, he is either going to use the dog as a bargaining tool...again, or he is going to tell you to get out, but he's more than likely going to force you to start paying rent. Either way it is not a good scenario. You should really think about this moving out thing.
2007-03-01 14:16:13 · answer #4 · answered by ricepat2000 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are over 18 than their reasons as to why you can't afford it don't really matter. It depends on whether or not you want to have a big fight with them. If you are over 18, its your own life. But, don't move in with a guy just for a dog!
2007-03-01 12:52:57 · answer #5 · answered by Willow_Elf 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If you're over 18, your parents can't make you stay. If you're not, don't move out!
Are you sure your boyfriend is not going to make you pay rent? You'll have to pay something, you'll be using electricity and eating the food.
2007-03-01 12:15:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just look in the paper
on the net
talk to realestate agents
and pay a bond 4 x rent
then pack your things and move
its your life
2007-03-01 12:15:08 · answer #7 · answered by puddoms 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
So your DOG is more inportant to you then your PARENTS. Very interesting.
2007-03-01 12:42:28 · answer #8 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
MOVE! ITS THAT SIMPLE! YOUR LIFE YOUR CHOICE! Parents will have to learn to deal with it.
2007-03-01 13:12:11 · answer #9 · answered by badmikey4 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋