I split up with my ex about four years ago we had a staffie that we had from a pup, the ex was a **** i only stayed for Ben (dog), eventually i walked out and had to leave Ben behind. Ocassionally i would go round to the flat to see Ben because he had cancer and i just couldnt let him go and one day he just leapt straight in my lap and gave me a big cuddle. That was the last time i saw him, my ex didnt want me going round there anymore because he had a new girlfriend. Ben was put to sleep about 8 months later but i wasnt there when he went to the vets. I just cant get over not being there for Ben is this normal? or am i just being silly. I was totally over the ex when i left.
2007-03-01 04:04:53 · 3 answers · asked by rose 3 in Pets ➔ Dogs
I'm so sorry for you. My mum had a very similar situation to this years ago when I was a small child; she had a Labrador and for various reasons when he was put to sleep she was not there - she says even nearly 25 years later she still thinks about it but it has got easier to deal with in time. She reminds herself that it was the best decision for the dog at the time and although she was not there his suffering was stopped and he is at peace now. It's good that you still think of Ben and remember the good times you had with him - don't beat yourself up about not being there for him at the end, remember that lovely cuddle you had with him the last time you saw him, he knew how much you loved him and at least he is no longer suffering. I hope you feel better soon xx
2007-03-01 23:42:36 · answer #1 · answered by Badgrl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not being silly at all. People can be as devastated at losing a dog as losing a person. The significant thing here is 'Ben leapt straight onto your lap' He somehow knew that was your last meeting. Dogs are so perceptive You did your best for him, under difficult circumstances, and I can tell you he knows it's not your fault you weren't there. He's happy now and wants you to move on (he didn't like the new girlfriend much anyway)
Take care and remember that he knows you loved him. xxxxx
2007-03-03 11:48:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not being silly. Ben was like a family member to you and its only natural you feel like this. Your ex is out of order for not letting you see him. I'm sure your dog knew that you loved him though
2007-03-02 03:05:02 · answer #3 · answered by Chazza xx Baby born 7/11/09 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋