I have been recently having trouble sleeping in my boyfriend's bed(a queen with two pillows and one big blanket.) When I am alone in the bed I fall asleep no problem but as soon as he gets in the bed I am tossing and turning and can't get comfortable. I wake up 2-3 times a night after I finally fall asleep and when I wake in the morning I feel like I only slept 5 minutes.
When we sleep in my bed (which is a twin with loads of pillows, soft sheets and big fluffy blankets) it still takes me a minute or two to get comfy but then I am out like a light and wake up feeling refreshed.
MY one suspicio is that his bed isn't comfortable enough for me, but the thing is when he's not init I sleep just fine. We have a very loving relationship so I know my subconcious isn't trying to get my attention, but what the heck? How can I deal with this?
2007-03-01 03:56:21 · 10 answers · asked by katiej47 3 in Health ➔ Other - Health
We have been together for almost a year and been sleeping in each other's beds for almost as long. He doesn't snore or anything. When I wake up I am awake for 20 minutes to an hour each time, so it's not like I wake up and then roll over and get back to sleep. I work early in the morning and he works late at night and so I try to stay up until he gets home or comes over and that's the perfect bed time, but not being able to sleep isn't working for me.
2007-03-01 04:09:02 · update #1
throw the bed out start all over again.go invest in a Stearns & Foster Mattresses.
2007-03-01 04:00:18 · answer #1 · answered by iroc 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I love my wife, I hold her all night when we sleep. Every once in a blue moon for whatever reason (travel, fell asleep on the couch) she doesn't in the bed with me...
and it is the most glorious restful sleep I've ever had in my life. I forget and remember each time how much more energy i have when I sleep in a bed all by myself.
The only theory I can come up with is that I am a little hypersensitive when I sleep and the slightest movement will bring me out of REM. I don't wake up enough to remember anything, but it jostles me out of the restful slumber.
Even a sleep study (which cost me $1500 out of pocket) said I had normal sleep habits - in the lab, by myself, so who knows...
2007-03-01 04:06:46 · answer #2 · answered by arjo_reich 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bring over your pillows and blankets, see if that helps. Maybe invest in some new sheets or maybe a pillow top that you put on top of the mattress and under the sheets. Try small things before you invest in anything expensive.
2007-03-01 04:05:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
many couples sleep in separate beds for this very reason. Maybe you feel like he's watching you or something like that. I would talk to him about this, might help, give it a shot.
2007-03-01 04:05:05 · answer #4 · answered by mdzevolveddammit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When he's not there, it's like a hotel, temporarily "your" bed. But when he's there, your in "his" space. You feel like an invader, so it's hard to get comfortable.
2007-03-01 04:07:18 · answer #5 · answered by Uther Aurelianus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's all mental. all about control and you wanting to be in your comfort zone. waking up only 2-3 times a night a significantly less than an average person does. be happy you got a lovin man and quit your bitchin...
2007-03-01 04:01:16 · answer #6 · answered by Tacyella 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It is adjusting to someone else's environment and someone being in your space. It happens to most people who are new at living together.
2007-03-01 04:04:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
try taking a mild sedative until you become accustomed to him being there.
2007-03-01 04:04:37 · answer #8 · answered by sangreal 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you're sensing there's something terribly wrong with him.
2007-03-01 03:59:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
could he be snoring?
2007-03-01 04:00:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋