Me and my husband have a 7 mo. old son and hes deployed for 7 mo. How do i keep my husband known to my son?

Question

I want my son to recognize his daddy when he gets home, im not sure exactly how to teach my son to know his father when he isnt here. Please help me!!

Answer 1

Pic's and home movies.. Let him hear your husbands voice when he is able to call,,,,,,, ( I know that its hard for him to call as much as you would like, but when he does.) have him leave a message on you answering machine that you can play over and over. He my not recognizes him visually but he will recognize the sound of his voice. And remember to reiterate that it is daddy in the pics and daddy on the phone...

Don't forget to take 5 or 10 min. for yourself every now and then. As stress can get to be a bit to much @ times.

I am 2 months away from the end of my husbands deployment to Iraq. The ones left @ home don't get enough thanks or praise. So, I thank you for your sacrifice and for keeping the home fires burning. God Speed.

Answer 2

I agree with everyone here, lots and lots of pictures and videos and voice recordings. If you're husband is still home you can take videos of him reading stories for your son. If he's already gone maybe someone there can tape him just telling stories. Then play them as part of the bedtime routine.

My girls loved tapes of just everyday life with them and the family in it. So we took a bunch of that and it turned out to be invaluable when Dad was deployed.

For a pre-toddler Discovery toys used to make a block that had clear pockets to put pictures in. I can't find it on their site but you could try asking a consultant or keeping an eye on e-bay for one. My girls would carry that around all day sometimes. I also had friends who laminated pictures to heavy card stock and let their younger kids carry them around. Or buy a sturdy small album. It all depends on what your son prefers to look at.

No matter what you do, expect some resistance at re-meeting his dad. All the pictures and videos you can play will help but your son is still meeting a bit of a stranger who hasn't been there for 1/2 his life. And then he's getting used to a new schedule and new rules once dad is home. But with a lot of love and care it's a transition you all can make and keeping in contact any way you can will make it easier.

Answer 3

Please don't listen to the reply "tell him to get out it's his choice". My husband is in the Air Force and is gone quite a bit. It was a calling not a choice and we (our country) need your husband to provide for freedoms. Anyway to answer your question, your son will know his father if you want him to do so. Keep pictures nearby so he can see him everyday and video recordings of your husband talking to your son so he can recognize your husband and his voice. Send a disposable camera with your husband so he can update pictures of himself because he will look physically different while deployed. Talk to your son about his father and all of his positive attributes and not the negative. Your husband loves you both and will have enough personal pressure that will contribute to his own guilt for his deployment. I know your son will have momentous occasions but try to down play them to your husband and let him know they will plenty of firsts when he returns from the desert. My husband and I have been through this the last five years and I know one thing, husbands like ours are a rare breed; they love their wives and families, and pride themselves on being our countries protectors. I will keep your family in my prayers.

Answer 4

my husband was training for a new job (six months away) when my son was 7 months old. we used to read the "daddy book" all the time, it's a book of just daddy pictures. at the end of the book it would have a picture of daddy kissing my son. then we would say night daddy, nite baby & he would go to bed. you could also watch movies regularly of daddy and if possible talk to him on the phone or see if he can send you a tape of him singing a special lullabye, to play at night for baby. hope that helps, and good luck to you.

Answer 5

show him pictures and talk about him frequently. if possible let him talk to your son on the phone. even if the baby can't talk he can get familiar with his fathers voice. if you have home movies play them and say "look at daddy" and things like that so he knows that's his daddy. i would keep a picture of his father in his room. a co-worker of mine went through the same thing. she had her baby while her husband was away for a year. so the baby had never even had a chance to get to know the dad. she used pictures and things like that to make sure the baby knew that was her daddy. good luck to you.

Answer 6

Pictures, your husband taking any chance he has to talk to him or record messages for you to play to him. When your husband gets the chance to talk to him hold a picture up of him at the same time. I know your son is 7 months old he can't respond, but he can and then you can tell your husband what your son did as he spoke with him.
Good Luck and God Bless and tell your husband thank you for me for defending my freedom

Answer 7

I would get a WEB Cam and let your son see Daddy on the camera. I would also put photos of Daddy around your house. Take your son and show him the pics and make comments like "lookie it's Daddy." "Daddy's coming home soon." "Daddy loves you."

Answer 8

My ex was in the Special Forces and was ALWAYS gone, usually 9 months at a time. He wasn't here when we had our last daugther, but he did call while I was in the delivery room. He saw her the first time when she was three months old. I always take pictures, and I had a photo album, a smaller one, that I put copies of her baby pictures, pictures of her dad holding her, pictures of me and him together, etc. When he left again for Iraq, I showed her those pictures every single day, and put one in a frame on her dresser. He came back seven months later and she knew who he was. She is four and she STILL carries that album around but now she re arranges the pictures to her liking! LOL

Answer 9

take a video of your husband one where your husband is saying hello to your son using your sons name make your husband talk in the video saying lots of nice happy things make it as long as you can then show it to your son everyday and say look that's daddy

Answer 10

Pictures! Lot's of pictures. Put pictures on his mobile facing down so he sees hem every night, putthem on the fridge, by the t.v. etc. Then make a lamanated placemat with pictures on them. Lay it onthe floor with your son when he's playing. Whenever possible point to the pictures and say "Da Da" This will help him recognise him and ssociate the name with the face.