Ok so sometimes when me and my boyfriend get together, we fool around (not all the time though) and sometimes he wants to go farther then I want, so here the cycle – he tries, I say no, he says ok, then he tries, I say no, he says ok – he does this until he finally gets his way which annoys me, I get upset, then he asks why i’m upset. Can you see my frustration? I’ve try talking to him telling him that it’s disrespectful to not listen to me, and his answer is always no its not i'm not hurting you am I? is there any way to make him listen to me…. the 1st time?
btw, its a lot easier to just give in after awhile of resisting b/c he’ll start to get more physical.
2007-03-01 03:39:33 · 22 answers · asked by abr0k3n_h3art3d1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh btw im 25
2007-03-01 03:55:35 · update #1
You need to leave this man. As long as you're not a "tease" saying No when you really mean Yes, then he should respect your decision. The fact that you have discussed this problem with him and you two have not reached a course of action you both agree with, and he still continues, suggests he won't "respect you", nor "listen to you".
Your comment "he’ll start to get more physical" is also worrying.
2007-03-01 03:48:21 · answer #1 · answered by Alex 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"btw, its a lot easier to just give in after awhile of resisting b/c he’ll start to get more physical."
Does this mean what I think it means? If it does, put on your running shoes and never look back. He is a control freak and this type of mans method usually never changes favorably. The behavior escalates with no happy ending.
Don't wait until tomorrow.
2007-03-01 11:50:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he starts to get more physical while you are resisting... that is wrong and is abusive both ohysically and mentally. I know you may not want to hear this but this guy is disrespecting you and you NEED TO DUMP HIM!!!!
Seriously walk away from this relationship before you lose your virginity & he leaves you.
Once he gets exactly what he wants he will walk away and you are so much more important than that. Your body is precious and it is yours to protect! I am not going to go into religion with you but I will tell you that once you give your virginity to someone it is gone forever! And if you do it with someone who doesn't love you and respect you will regret it for the rest of your life.
Tell him that when you say NO MORE IT MEANS NOOOO!!!!! That's it! NO questions asked! Just walk away now before you get hurt.
2007-03-01 11:50:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to tell you but it sounds like your boyfriend doesn't respect you and doesn't care about your feelings. Sounds like he can't and won't take no for an answer even if that means hurting you physically. I would get out of that relationship real fast. If he can't respect you and your wishes, then he's not worth your time. Get out now before he goes further than he's already gone.
2007-03-01 11:47:03 · answer #4 · answered by jazz_lover_25 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By you giving in, you are becoming a doormat and if you stay with him, he'll repeat this cycle in every aspect of your life together.
Tell him next time "NO MEANS NO" and crack him in the you know whats....
Because, honey, NO really does mean NO...if you think about it, if you're saying "no" and he "gets more physical" until you give in, THAT'S CALLED "RAPE".
Dump the chump, he's a creep and will always treat you this way.
2007-03-01 11:46:20 · answer #5 · answered by Munya Says: DUH! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you have herpies! Just kidding. I would say that your situation is a warning sign. As a male, I would never keep trying like this dude. You should just break up with him if you don't want to go as far as he does. Why put yourself through so much trouble?
2007-03-01 11:47:40 · answer #6 · answered by hrld_sleeper 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must be really desirable to him!
Tell him to back off though, and explain to him just like you explained to us that it makes you uncomfortable.
You are probably one of those irresistable girls though so it will be hard for him to stop himself.
Maybe it would switch things up if you initiated sex, or could take care of him with oral every once in a while?
If not, maybe you should tell him to move on and find a freakier girl or something!
2007-03-01 11:44:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You didn't list your age but if you are underage and he persists it could be considered rape or assault in most States. Ask him if the thought of going to Jail would make him stop?
2007-03-01 11:44:17 · answer #8 · answered by Dan821 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's why he keeps on cause he knows your going to give in. Let you No mean No!!! If he keeps on, leave and tell him that he's disrepecting you by not respecting your decision!
2007-03-01 11:43:58 · answer #9 · answered by luvnau 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me that , you should get rid off him he obviously has no respect for you as a person and knows if he just Carry's on he will get what he wants any way what about what you want be strong stand up for yourself and if he don't like it get rid
2007-03-01 11:44:52 · answer #10 · answered by fulhamish 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋