There was this email of a child that had amnesia in a hospital. She was kinda beat up looking, like she was in an accident. They were sending out emails and everything to see if anyones knew who she was. My grade one daughter was so touched and really wanted to help. She wanted to take it to school and ask the kids. So I printed it off and let her take it to school. Her teacher wouldn't let her show the picture because the girl had scratches on her face and the teacher told my daughter it might scare the other kids. My daughter meant so well. As a parent, did I set her up for that dissapointment, should i have known better?
2007-03-01 03:35:20 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
As a parent, you didn't do something wrong but a 6 or a 7 year old child is not mature to understand that these things happen often in the places we live in. Talk to her about this idea/issue. 6 and 7 year olds aren't aware of these things, you didn't set up to this disappointment, the wrong step was in the teacher. Most teachers have had a course in child development and in young kids that are 7 or younger, they may feel frightened, scared and other feelings that might cause them to remember it. Just remember that you didn't set her up for this.
2007-03-01 06:11:53 · answer #1 · answered by lulu 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Isn't that rather shocking! 'Scare the other kids".?!!! Kids see far more violence these days than ever before, and sad to say but they're actually becoming desensitized, so I'm surprised that she would have gotten that reaction. It would have been easy for the teacher to tell the kids that she fell down and got some scratches on her head and most kids that age can identify with that, having done it themselves. I understand that she was worried that a child would go home and tell their parents and proceed to have nightmares or something, and she would get complaints, but she could have taken it to the principal and asked him if there were anything the school could do as a collective.
I think you and your daughter should take the photo and information to the principal of the school and ask him if they could try to help with this situation. Perhaps the older kids could help out. At least your daughter would understand that her intentions were good, and that you were doing the 'right' thing, but just took the wrong avenue to do it in.
I think it's important for your daughter to understand that this WASN'T a wrong idea for her to have, or a bad decision by you to help her follow through with it!
2007-03-01 12:05:28 · answer #2 · answered by Plexed 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your intentions were fine, but as a parent you should also filter such items from your young children.
Though these e-mails can make us want to spring to action to help someone in need, be careful of the source. There are many e-mails circulated regarding missing or sick children. Many start out as real pleas for help but long after the moment has past they will continue to circulate. Take a look at the following link. The site is very useful in ascertaining the validity of many of these types of e-mails. You may even find a similar one to the one you received.
As for the teacher, they acted responsibly in not allowing your daughter to show the photo. A photo like that could be troubling to other 1st graders and the teacher probably had their interests in mind as much as they had their own. The fall-out over poor judgment exercised by a teacher showing such a photo is a headline waiting to happen in our media crazed world.
2007-03-01 11:58:17 · answer #3 · answered by Gazana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't set her up for dissapointment, you should call the school and ask if they would like to help set up some sort of fund raiser for the child in the e-mail, it might have scared some kids in her class seeing as they might never seen anything like that. Tell your daughter to write a letter to this child,draw a picture and let this little girl know that someone is thinking of her.
2007-03-01 11:41:05 · answer #4 · answered by Kellie R 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing in encouraging your child to become socially involved. Maybe she could hand out the picture, or show her classmates, before or after school.
Not everyone wants to become involved. Perhaps the teacher was afraid of repurcussions from the other parents. Since your child is in grade one, many teachers and parents may feel the picture was too graphic.
Tell your daughter you are very proud of her efforts and explain to her that her teacher was only trying to protect the other children from exposure to the bad things that happen to some people.
Encourage your daughter, and help her, post pictures around your neighborhood, since she couldn't share it in school.
2007-03-01 11:44:30 · answer #5 · answered by Nepetarias 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have a great daughter with a moron of a teacher. She meant well and wanted to help. There are lots of parents and teachers etc that want to completely sheild kids from the world and that isn't right. Obviously there is a certain amount that you should sheild them from, but not that extreme. Good for you and your daughter for having good hearts, don't let her feel bad about it.
2007-03-01 13:07:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think as a parent you did nothing wrong.You were encouraging your child to help.There is nothing wrong with that,and I am sure that the parent of the child in the hospital is very thankful for the help.I think that if your daughter was that determined to help the best thing you could to was encourage it.I hope the little girl get to be with her loved ones again.Tell your daughter that at least she tried because that the most important thing.
2007-03-01 12:24:37 · answer #7 · answered by cynomynG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her she did the right thing , and the teacher has her reasons for not allowing it ,explain in detail the teachers reason so she can understand ..., if your child has such a compelling heart at her age, I see no wrong doing on your part .. For your child to be so caring , and unselfish to want to help others in need like this ..there is no way you could be doing wrong at all ...As a father of four tell your daughter she is a very very sweet little girl . God Bless you both
2007-03-01 11:44:01 · answer #8 · answered by Insensitively Honest 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no you did the right thing. you shoudnt feel bad because your daughter wanted to help the person in hospital, you should be proud. the teacher is also right - that it might scare little kids, but if its onlt minor you have the right to go in to school and have a go at the teacher. if the scratches were really bad the teacher did the right thing.
2007-03-01 14:26:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
of coruse not u meant well and so did ur daughter just explain it to her why the teacher may not have wanted to show them and that some kids could be scared. u were both in the right and tryed to help so that is all u can do. u may even try takin her mind off it or maybe letting her explain it to other family or something could help. good luck
2007-03-01 11:45:49 · answer #10 · answered by kylie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋