My boyfriend and I have the best relationship! Him and his ex just got divorced about 2 months ago. The only thing that is wrong is I have caught him on the computer looking up his ex wife's internet dating e-mails. He says he is doing it because of his kids who are 11 and 13. He doesn't want some strange man coming around when she does hook up. He also tells me that he can't wait for her to meet someone and that he's not doing it beacause he cares about her. Can someone give me an opinion-is this weird?
2007-03-01 03:33:33 · 8 answers · asked by hello 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it is possible that he is doing that for the kids sake. When you go through a divorce when kids are involved it can tear you up inside. Just keep an eye on his other activities and if other questions arise then re think your relationship then.
2007-03-01 03:37:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it's weird.
Although he does have to co-parent with his ex, there is no reason at all for him to be snooping at her internet dating emails! That is none of his business whatsoever!
He has been your boyfriend for 2 years yet they just got divorced 2 months ago?? Were they separated at least when you started dating?
Be careful...if he just got divorced a couple months ago there is no way he's over it yet. Divorce takes a long time to heal from and the fact that he's doing this puts up red flags in my mind!!
Sounds like he's not over her yet...
2007-03-01 03:42:28 · answer #2 · answered by ratgrrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His reasons are valid--after all he's a parent.
HOWEVER, the flip side is that he still has feelings. Communication is CRITICAL in any relationship, so pelase tell him how unhappy it makes you, and/or try and sit down to compromise on how better he can protect his kids without knowing what his ex-wife is up to. After all, she's his ex!!! She has the right to do whatever she wants...
2007-03-01 03:39:00 · answer #3 · answered by ekbensah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 22:07:40 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not right...they are divorced. She can hook up with anybody she wants. He sounds controlling....watch out. He is trying to control her, and they are not even together.
He sounds like he is a little too interested in other things when he should be focusing on you.
Probably a loser....lose him.
2007-03-01 03:39:05 · answer #5 · answered by mikey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just be CARFULL, u never know if ur boyfriend is liying, u dont know if he still has feelings for her, i know u wana trust him but its hard!Try to spend more time with him-to get him of the comp.-i dont want to sound mean, but i wouldnt want to take any chances. if u do love him, try to keep him away, u never know what can happen.But spend more time with him, im srry if my advise sucks, but ihoped i helpd
2007-03-01 03:41:45 · answer #6 · answered by naaaty! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's weird. No it's NOT normal. And he is giving you a huge line of B.S. he still wants her...or at least control of her.
Watch out.
2007-03-01 03:38:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's lying..he still has feelings for her and he tells himself he dont care just to make himself feel better..he's a stalker..11 and 13 are capable of knowing how to tell and take care themselves if they feel their mis treated.he loves her or maybe still has feelings and i bet if she says he wants him back he'll go running back into her arms
2007-03-01 03:39:43 · answer #8 · answered by love2005wisdom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋