I have a girlfriend that I am engaged to right now. I love her to death and I never have any thoughts of leaving her. A problem that I have is she intends to treat me very badly and doesn't give me any respect. She has cheated on me numerous of times, and a few weeks ago cheated on me by having sex with another guy behind my back. She also sent degrading pictures of herself to at least three other men over her phone. She keeps telling me that she'll change, but I really dont want to believe that anymore. Should I keep going with this relationship or just leave her and get my life back the way that I had it before. I dont know if its worth it or not.
2007-03-01 03:24:49 · 28 answers · asked by Murphy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that it doesn't worth it. She'll continue doing this because she had broken her promises many times after all.
If you can, just leave her and get your life back the way that you had it before.
But If you want you can give her another chance. Think about it. And if you do, and she cheats on you again, leave her.
2007-03-01 03:31:37 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥♥Miracle♥♥♥ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is totally not worth it. She will treat you like crap for the whole time you are married and you will get sick of it then have to go through a divorce and split up everything. Oh, and if you have kids that would be a whole other can of worms. Get out, she is not worried about your feelings so why should you be worried about hers. I don't know why you didn't leave her the 1st time she cheated on you. She must be really hot or have money or something. There is something else keeping you around besides her wonderful personality (not). She will not change and probably not be heart broken if you left her, then she could whore around all she wants. You are a smarter person than this so you know what you should do. Get out and find a girl that will be good to you. There are so many out there and will treat you so great and i am confident that you will find her.
2007-03-01 11:45:14 · answer #2 · answered by micah z 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to go through life trying to decide if you are worth better? I believe you already know what the answer is. None of us deserve less than to at least be treated with respect. Life is not meant to be hard. Relationships should come easily if they are meant to be. They are meant to give us hope for the future, not despair and wonder what might be. There is someone out there who deserves the love you have and will respect it.
You do not necessarily have to revert backwards "the way that you had it before" yet move forward keeping your eyes open for the right one! Best wishes to you!!
2007-03-01 11:34:43 · answer #3 · answered by rggiggles 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
oh i think you know its not how on earth could it be?shes cheating and being totally self-degrading and acting out in a manner that shows very low self-worth omg run like the wind!!! dont look back,dont answer if she calls,dont open your door if she drops by.this is a disaster you can walk away from now and never give it another thought or a disaster you can tie yourself to and regret it for a very long time. why on earth would you want to ask this woman to marry you??? are you lonely get a pet not a wife. good luck if you dont get away from this walking time bomb your going to need alot of luck and a good lawyer for divorce court
2007-03-01 11:41:01 · answer #4 · answered by patbgone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well son you are the fool. When a person settles for anything then you can treat them anyway..... You said you don't have plans to leave. Well start making them, cause before you say I do. You better learn to say I don't. I don't want to be disrespected in public or private. I don't want you to take this the wrong way, u are being used for something. She really do not want to be with you, and you need to understand that are you will continue to settle for anything and it is no one fault but your own. So be a real man and stand up, it is time.
2007-03-01 11:31:37 · answer #5 · answered by ressie re 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be embrassed to admit to being engaged to someone like her. I understand you have feelings for her but those feelings can change when your being treated like ****. On top of it all she is cheating on you!!!! cmon you must have more sense then this wake up she is not deserving of you don't waste your time with someone that can't make you happy. We are talking about some serious stuff here. Its worth your life to be happy and make something of yourself to be proud of don't get stuck with this kind of headache, heartache and stress. You marry her you will deal with this for the rest of your life you are with her. You leave her and thats weight of your shoulders, your happiness back and the chance for a new real "love" because this one isn't going to cut it. Think about it aren't you gettting excited? I would be.....MOVE ON. WISH YOU THE BEST.
2007-03-01 11:40:57 · answer #6 · answered by ilisalec 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You want an honest answer?
Stupid boy! By staying with her after knowing that she's cheating, you have just let her know that it's ok to continue with her behavior.
Have some respect for yourself. Why would you want to knowingly share her with anyone else. Don't you want to have someone with you who wants and needs to be with ONLY you?
Oh and word to the wise..no one really every changes. People can alter their behavior but they will always be who they are inside. You have yourself a cheater. She'll continue to cheat. Don't marry her! You deserve better!
2007-03-01 11:38:21 · answer #7 · answered by Barb 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Clearly not worth it. If you ever wondered why the divorce rate is so high, its because people go ahead and marry women/men like this anyway on the hopes that there will be a change. If you do this, start saving now for the divorce because it will be messy.
2007-03-01 11:29:38 · answer #8 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be really surprised if anyone told you to stay with someone like that. You deserve to be treated better than that. There are women out there that never cheat (I'm one of them) and actually treat their man with respect. If she really loved you she would not do the things she does.
2007-03-01 11:31:38 · answer #9 · answered by lunasage 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie pie,no insult intended,but it sounds like you need to focus more on loving yourself than loving your girlfriend. If a woman senses that your love for her is stronger than your love for yourself then most of us tend to take advantage of that and mistreat us.Take control and pull yourself together before your emotions get you in serious trouble. Obviously she does not have the same feelings for you;if she did she would never do such disrespectful things to you or herself. Give her a serious ultimatium and stick to it;shape up or shape out. Oh, and please encourage to get some help as her behaviour indicates low self esteem, manipulative and controlling tendencies and a general incapility of loving herself and others.
Is it worth loosing your self respect and identity over?Keep us posted please. Good luck.
2007-03-01 11:35:10 · answer #10 · answered by GARN 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋