Huh, sigh. I accidentally tripped over a young boy, and fell on top of him. I got up and helped him to his feet, and he started crying. I said that's it's ok, and I'm sorry it was an accident. He yelled real loud " mommy daddy, he hurt me." The next thing I know is that I'm surrounded by pissed off people, who are screaming get off of him, or we'll hurt ya. I left right away, not wanting to get into a confrontation with an angry mother and father. I know these people, and will see them again. How best to tell them I'm sorry it was a accident and wont happen again. I really dont want to fight, I like these people. All they seem to understand is that I hurt their son. Some misunderstandings are so hard to defuse in matters of family.
2007-03-01 03:23:28 · 9 answers · asked by runic111 5 in Sports ➔ Martial Arts
No, not really, I just love to ask hypothetical questions to see how some would deal with what may be a losing situation either way. Questions like these I shall ask all of the time, but ya that would really suck. So how would you deal with it?
2007-03-01 04:39:40 · update #1
sansoo, that is a wonderful answer! I guess that you do understand how this hypothetical question relates to the martial arts. Keep it up bro, you're shooting for the best answer. I plan on coming up with many more questions for ya.
2007-03-01 05:40:41 · update #2
parents are really protective so that's a tough one wait till they cool off or address it promptly depends on the people you are dealing with write them a letter of apology explain it was an accident send the kid a stuffed toy offer to meet and talk in a public place if they are set on being mad then let the chips fall where they may
2007-03-01 04:43:07 · answer #1 · answered by howdy doody 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well... you did (hypothetically) hurt him, that was a fact. but the mode of incident was not purposeful. you are not a villain, but an unfortunate player in this situation. the child told the truth from his perspective. parents believe their children. it is up to you to put it all into a logical perspective.
first thing is to admit responsibility for the incident, but not for the intent. you were absent minded enough to allow yourself to hurt someone else. ask them if there is anything you can do to help, and tell them that you will be more 'aware' of looking where you are going.
its a lose lose situation when another person is hurt. words wont change that, and even admitting involvement wont get you off teh hook. but admitting involvement is better than just saying sorry. this is all hypothetical though, and subject to a case by case interpretation.
if you know the people you should tell your parents (if you are a minor) and ask them for advice, and perhaps ring teh parents after the fact to explain that no purposeful intent was present.
REALITY: the worse thing for a parent is to think that someone would DELIBERATELY do something to harm their child. accidents do happen, and even though this hurts too, accidents arent as bad as deliberate acts. when I hear of my children getting hurt, I want blood. knowing early on that it wasnt deliberate takes the anger down real fast.
so firstly distance yourself from suspicion of purposeful intentions to injure.
2007-03-01 17:36:29 · answer #2 · answered by SAINT G 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Always have a BIG I Mean Big Heart
We in this Community have all forgotten to make peace is the goal, not war.
Martial Arts were not made to create conflict.
They were made to stop it.
Always go direct and sincere, you would be amazed how some people will react. The world has great people in it, if ya give em a chance.
Maybe that's why the Gentle arts have kicked everyones butt
2007-03-01 12:50:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say frst give them a little time to cool off.
After that calmly and rationally talk it over with them and explain your side of what happened. Like I said in other sections if you believe you did something wrong apologize once then move on. If you don't believe you did anything wrong skip the apology and just move on.
2007-03-01 17:48:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain the situation to them if your being sincere and honest and they make a choice to see it thier way,thats thier problem.if they wish to fight with you just say no.if they attack you deal with them the same way as any other attacker.and even though this is a hypothetical question where were the parents when you fell on the boy?thier negligence is thier problem not yours.
2007-03-01 17:13:40 · answer #5 · answered by BUSHIDO 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How well do you know these people if they are pissed over an accident? If they are this protective over their kid, almost obsessive, it might be best to wait a day or so to talk to them again. Good luck
2007-03-01 13:00:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kill the father and become head of the household. No one would then fu$# with your shi7
2007-03-02 16:57:27 · answer #7 · answered by jackpickaxe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
become a catholic preist, that way next time you are on top of a little boy people will ignore his cries for help and believe you.
2007-03-01 13:03:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow, you are screwed, and no im not just being an @$$ hole.
2007-03-01 12:21:19 · answer #9 · answered by Roger J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋