hi my gf got back with me last week, and i was so happy. and now her nans ill and her step dad and mother are on the verge of splitting. what do i do to help my gf ? i start getting upset and arguing cos my gf cant find to see me and she says she finds it hard to find to time to meet meat the me cos of the problems at home! what can i do to support my gf i like her to bits and i dont wanna ever lose her again. also i feel as if tho she maybe taking me for a ride because she has time to go out with her work mates on friday night and no time for me ? what should i do ? should i qustion her ? please help each time i ring her i end up arguing with her saying why she not meet me or owt. please help on what i could do
2007-03-01 03:21:20 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
DON'T all g/f mess with heads????
2007-03-01 03:23:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Listen, your girl is going through really rough waters right now. It dosent sound like she does not want to be with you. If you look at what is going on in her home right now nanna may not be around much longer and if mom and dad split she is not seeing long lasting love. She may be frightened of your love because the people who have been the backbone of her love ever since she was little are leaving her. You need to show her that you will support her no matter what goes on at home. Give her room and when you talk to her tell her that you understand that she is having a rough time and you dont want to intrude. Instead of trying to get her to go out, ask her if she would like a quiet night in, bring a movie (I dont personaly like the mushy ones, so whatever you guys enjoy) and bring her a rose. You will have to work hard to show her you love her and even harder to show her that all relationships dont end like her parents. You may be someone on the sidelines right now because of what is going on. Yes, I understand that she is going out with the gals from work and having that drink on Friday and you feel that should be your time but I think she is distancing herself from you because she is scared of the love you guys have. Let whatever is happening at home happen and if that means waiting on the sidelines for a while do it if you love her. She will come around (it could be a while and test every fiber of your being for a while) but if there is truly love there it may be worth waiting for.
2007-03-01 03:42:45 · answer #2 · answered by shadowsthathunt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think because her mom and dad seem like they are breaking up, it is causing her to question her own relationship.
It may not have to do with you personally.
She may need the time to step back away from the relationship with you right now, to see how she feels.
Because if her own parents who are suppose to be wiser and know more, are breaking up, she is wondering how can she be so sure.
So, she just needs time.
You should tell her, that you care for her, but you understand that she needs time to herself right now.
Try not to compare how much time she spends with you, with her spending time with others.
Most relationships, when your young, do not last long.
Try not to let it get to you.
What isn't right for you right now with someone, is ok...it only means that there is someone right for you, waiting around a corner. So, hang in there, and don't take her feelings toward you in a hard way.
2007-03-01 03:32:50 · answer #3 · answered by sweetcitywoman2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
speak 2 this girl, tell her that you give her time on her own if thats what she wants, then dont phone her. If she really likes you and misses you shell phone you, in the meantime, if you dont understand what shes going through just tell her,"if she ever needs someone 2 talk 2 your there 4 her, its nice 2 b nice. if she stays away then just quietly get out of the picture, im sure if your a nice guy you WILL find some girl just as nice, good luck!...
2007-03-05 00:53:08 · answer #4 · answered by fay y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i haven't read all the answer that people have given u.
BUT if she is hanging out with her mates, don't think she out having fun but letting steam off, or sharing stress with/or at her freinds.
not to involve u: space, this is type too often beacuse its true, some/all girls need that. find ways of communiciate to her. next time u see her hug as if that was the first time u have cin her since u got back, she may react but she'll kno
2007-03-01 03:42:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that since you have got together you have felt neglected and it hurts you because you love her so much and want to spend time with her. If she refuses... she is so using you and why is beyond me since she isn't hogging your time.
Figure out her schedule and start setting dates up.
Keep asking about her family and always say if there is anything, anything I can do let me know. Keep this up because in her psyche she will remember you as supportive even if you are not called to do anything.
2007-03-01 03:27:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Home problems are understandable but aside from those if she's only back with you and she's already putting you off and seeing work friends before you then she's using you again. Leave her. FInd someone less selfish. Maybe then she'll cop herself on and stop only thinking about herself. loads of good girls out there who'll treat you well.
2007-03-01 03:28:35 · answer #7 · answered by Yeah yeah yeah 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeppers, she is messing with your head. Tell her that you are ready for a steady relationship and seeing as she needs time to resolve her family problems, you are going to move on to someone else. Then do it. If she really wants you, she will make it quite clear and stop the game playing. If not, you haven't lost a thing.
2007-03-01 03:27:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she probably is having a hard time, and goin out with friends may be helping to take her mind off it, but its her you need to talk to, sit down with her (if she can find the time) and tell her how concerned u are she cant find time and maybe plan a night in advance for the two of you so she cant make excuses!
2007-03-01 03:26:26 · answer #9 · answered by scubazipo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, stick by her but overall, you should take priority over her mates. try talking to her and say how you feel. it's really good to hear a guy admit how he's feeling. the arguing is no good for any of you. communication is the key, as it'll only get worse if you dont sort it out asap. good luck xx
2007-03-01 03:25:14 · answer #10 · answered by tinkypinkles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she is taking you for a ride , just when people go through hard times , they just want people around them who don't want to be serious about anything just have fun and get drunk , just tell her you want to be there for her and you love her and when she is ready to see you say ! until then you have to live your life have fun and just let her know you are there with out any pressure as you just want to make her happy
2007-03-01 03:26:48 · answer #11 · answered by fulhamish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋