Ive bee nwith my boyfriend for 14 months and i love him dearly. we have a long distance relationship and both remain faithful.I love him alot, but i feel like i stuggle alot in this relationship, because jus trecently i asked him if he would go out with one of his ex's and he hesitated to answer,but then said no. I automatically said no because I know that my feelings for my boyfriend are true and strong. His respones hurt me, then last night he says that he does not like her but that sometime she egst "weird" thoughtrs about her and he doesnt liek it....im hurt and sad whut do i do
2007-03-01 03:10:59 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you can start by not asking the guy a loaded question. why would you ask this in the first place? you can either repsect his honesty or not ask him this line of questioning. the guy hasn't done anything wrong except be honest with you. he said he doesn't like thinking about the ex - so what is the problem? you are making a problem were the isn't one. give the guy a break.
2007-03-01 03:19:39 · answer #1 · answered by in2one 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1- Maybe he paused before answering, because he wanted to think before he spoke. Why? Unless you thought of yourself as a shrink doing a word association exercise?
2- His thoughts about his ex(es) are valid, because they reflect upon real, historical events. While he was in any relationship, each was probably true and meaningful. Would you rather he think back to relationships that were insincere and shallow? And he may feel uncomfortable about discussing previous relationships in front of you.
3- Be thankful that he is honest and open with you. And don't over-analyze every little detail of word and action. It can put a detrimental strain on a relatively new and developing relationship.
2007-03-01 11:30:14 · answer #2 · answered by alchemist0750 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships are very hard and don't really have much room for mistakes...
Look, if you don't want to know; do not ask any questions...a lot of men will tell you the truth because they think they are just being honest and this way you will not get mad....they don't know that when we ask, we want to hear one answer, the one we want...
Anyway, if you love him...do not ask, just work on making his visits heaven and he will never go anywhere no matter how far he goes.
2007-03-02 14:12:21 · answer #3 · answered by Ariana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has some feelings for her. Confront him about it. Just ask him where he sees the relationship going. If it's not eye-to-eye with what you see, break it off. Long distance relationships usually don't last.
2007-03-01 11:17:41 · answer #4 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better answer if I knew your age, but what this sounds like to me is this:
YOU ARE CREATING THE DRAMA BY ASKING STUPID QUESTIONS LONG DISTANCE. You should only discuss emotionally important things in person when you both are relaxed. Putting him on the spot on the telephone only ensures you get the wrong idea. STOP THE DRAMA QUEEN stuff.
2007-03-01 11:17:32 · answer #5 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋