i have a teen that thinks now is eightteen can do whatever they want when it comes to their cars and the people that ride in it knowning that their father and still have legal ownership and pay for her gas and insureance
2007-03-01 03:05:44 · 22 answers · asked by clear morning 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Kick him or her in the face. :]
2007-03-01 03:09:58 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Ashley 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is pretty normal. I remember when I went through that phase when I was 18. My parents just kicked me out and I straightened up in a hurry. I'm not saying you should do that though. However, a little tough love never hurt anyone.
First of all, if she is 18, it is no longer your responsibility to provide gas for her to run around or to pay her insurance. If she wants to be an adult now, then she should have the responsibilty of an adult. If she doesn't have a job, then it is time for her to get one. If she does, then she can start paying her way. Make her pay rent to live under your roof and it's due by a certain day each month or she'll get an eviction notice, just like in real life. You don't have to charge her a lot, but it will teach her responsibilty, which you need to have if you are going to make it in the world.
Take the keys away until she proves she can do these things. It sounds like she's always depended on you to provide everything for her and it will be a hard lesson to learn that she can no longer be handed everything that she wants.
2007-03-01 11:32:34 · answer #2 · answered by starlight_940 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a 20 year old daughter and a 19 year old son. When my daughter was in school she had to work to pay for her insurance and now that she is married she understands
On the other hand my 19 year old son is totally rebellious to the point where we had to have him to move out of our home. So you need to take a hard stand now and make them do things on their own. Don't baby them any longer if you do it will only cause you greater heartache later. I know because it is killing me that my son had to leave the home to be taught a lesson. There is something about boys they change when they turn legal age or at least my son did. If your son has a wreck in the car and has other people with him and the car is in your name than the people can sue you. So make him a deal he only gets to drive the car if he pays for his own gas and insurance and doesn't have several people riding with him. I wish you well because it is hard to take the tough love approach, I klnow becasue my husband and I are going through that right now and tough love hurts the parents more than the child but sometimes for our own sanitity we do things that need to be done so start now before it turns into something bigger lots of luck my prayers are with you for I know how your children can hurt you more than anyone
2007-03-01 12:02:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with the two of you? Your daughter is an adult now and should be working to pay for her own gas and insurance. Now that you two have spoiled her to death, you want to know how to control her??? Put the car in her name so the responsibility if off you two, make her buy her own gas and insurance!! She wants to act like an adult, let her have the financial responsibility of one!!!
2007-03-01 11:11:50 · answer #4 · answered by wish I were 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
STOP PAYING. If you want them to be responsible, you HAVE TO STOP taking care of them. No child will ever leave the safe confines of their parents home when they KNOW they get everything they want for free. I know I wouldnt have. Just take it all away, cant drive the car... there isnt any insurance, cant drive the car, there is NO GAS. Take it away sweets. Its tough but definitly necessary.
2007-03-01 11:10:13 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Take the car away. When your daughter/son gets a job let them stat paying for their own gas. And if you really want to drive the point home to him/her let then get their own car insurance under their own name, If they can not comply with the above mentioned ideas then they have to follow your rules,
Simple as that.
good luck
2007-03-01 11:26:47 · answer #6 · answered by Tia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give them a reality check. If dad owns the car take it away if they misuse it. What are they going to do? Get a job and move out? Sounds like time for that anyway.
Tough love is best.
2007-03-01 11:14:17 · answer #7 · answered by tain 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take the credit cards away for a start. Take her off your insurance policy.
Make a list showing what her expenses are to you and say, "Have fun paying for this." Also, hand her a copy of the local apartment guide.
2007-03-01 12:08:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You now have the option of reclaiming ownership of said vehicle, cancelling the insurance and informing the teen that they are now responsible for their own insurance, giving them the vehicle AND all of the related responsibility that comes with it; asking them to move out on their own if they don't want to follow your home rules, and then watching them ( and of course, praying for them ) to see if they are all that they claim to be in living their lives as they see fit , encouraging them but not bailing them out, and hoping they CAN do what we've already found out through experience doesn't always happen as we think it will and smiling ( ut not getting cocky about ) when they call us and say--- "You were right about that too" as I have found myself doing on occasion with my own mother and letting her know I was wrong about something else.And she still says she loved me even when what I did broke her heart. Good Luck-- you are not alone.May God shine on your heart with happiness, healing and health
2007-03-01 11:31:59 · answer #9 · answered by Master Ang Gi Guong 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Beat that a**. No, seriously.
My parents didn't mess around with us. There was no such thingas driving the car around, wasting their gas $ and potentially hiking up their insurance. Set the rules!
2007-03-01 11:15:50 · answer #10 · answered by Mimi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take the keys away until they earn enough money to pay for their own gas and insurance.
2007-03-01 11:09:20 · answer #11 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋