Both divorced, he's 41 I'm 34. I liked him first and he says he likes me. He hasn't had a serious relationship in 9 years and mostly hang out with his friends and drinks almost everyday. He has a very good job for the past 18 years. I do most of the contacting. We've been seeing each other for 5 weeks now, but sometimes I do not hear from him 3-5 days until I call him and he is usually glad to hear my voice. We've slept together twice and I have asked him if he wants us to just be friends but he says that we are more than friends. I told him he was distant and that I want to get to know him, but he says I need to have patience and you cannot get to know someone that quickly. We have that sexual attraction and we can sit down for hours taking about anything, even sex. We both feel like we have known each other for a long time. I know that he went through hell with his divorce. I am ready to give up on him so I will give him a call today and let him know how I fee.
2007-03-01 03:03:49 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Apparently the "relationship" means more to you than to him.
Oh and BIG RED FLAG "drinks almost everyday"! Hello!
You need to honest with yourself. You are having serious doubts about the relationship. You need to re read what you wrote here. Read it as if it was someone else's question. I am sure that you will know what to do.
Lastly, you can like someone, be attracted to someone and lust after someone and he can still be toxic to you life. Do you think this is a healthy relationship? Do you think you want to have this type of person in your life for years? Do you deserve more then what he is willing to give? It's up to you! Personally I won't stand for it!
2007-03-01 03:17:26 · answer #1 · answered by Barb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-05 02:37:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me it seems like he has not grown up totally, or just like to drink and likes his friends because I think there is no pressure when he's in that type of environment and that is prob. what he is used to and has been for 9 years. It is hard to change what somebody is so used to having.Of course you are more than friends, you've had sex twice, or maybe he's just saying that because he knows when he gets ready to have sex again, you may be there then too. Show him that he is wrong, then see how he feels. Have you two been seeing only each other or other people for 5 weeks? Let him call you, and just don't call him at all. Then, try to base this your decision on what to say to him,whether he calls you or not. It just depends on how much you really care because I don't want you regretting saying the wrong thing to him, so try and be as nice as you can,lol, IF you think there could be any future for the two of you. I am going through this in a way myself right now about the calling. Guys just don't seem to want to call as much as us ladies do for some reason. But I do agree with him about being patient and getting to know him. It takes years sometimes before you can really know that much about a person, even after spending a whole lot of time with them,and then sometimes, you don't totally know who they really are after all of that time. Best of luck.
2007-03-01 03:22:01 · answer #3 · answered by starchild4485 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one to answer not knowing ALL the details, but ,I think if you have to work TOO hard at something it won't work. maybe you should just step back for a while & not call him or contact him in any way . If he misses you , he will contact you. If not, he isn't worth your time. HOWEVER, don't call him & tell him what you are doing. Just stop,& see what he does on his own without any "Threats" or " ULIMITATUMS" that way, it will be HIS choice & you won't always have to wonder why he is with you . GOOD LUCK,but remember, there are LOTS of other men & there is one that you won't have to work so hard for.
2007-03-01 03:18:43 · answer #4 · answered by ijustdon'tknow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is scared.. he has had his way for 9 years.. he obviously likes hanging with the guys and doesn't want anyone that will take him seriously.
He probably likes you, but I wouldn't sleep with him anymore.. and let him do the calling if he is really interested he will.
Don't bother calling and telling him how you feel, he will get the message without you saying a word.
2007-03-01 03:10:40 · answer #5 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is still in love with his ex and he cant get over her. He is still hurt about something that wont allow him to move forward that's why he drinks everyday. He really likes you but he has to start loving himself again first. You have to keep moving once you stop thinking about him he will be back but he might be too late.
2007-03-01 03:18:03 · answer #6 · answered by McDaniel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i maybe young but i understand your situation cause it happened to me in a way just leave him sex shouldn't occur before marraige until you know you love each and know each other well so i think you have the right idea GO FOR IT GURL ! say whatis on your mind it's a free country who cares what you say to him not me GOOD LUCK!
2007-03-01 03:11:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he obviously is worried about being hurt again, so pushing him would make him probably dump u. he may like u but he is also independent and has life experience. so talk about it but dont act angry or betrayed cause ud be goin the wrong way about it.
2007-03-01 03:09:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out and live and be happy and meet alot of other people.
He will call you but maybe you will be too busy when he is finally ready ya know?
2007-03-01 03:08:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wasting your time on him, move on, life is to short, he's got problems not you
2007-03-01 03:08:49 · answer #10 · answered by sonya h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋