Okay, here's the deal. I have been with my boyfriend for over six months now. His ex wife is really skinny and pretty, like model pretty. I am overweight but not fat and average looking. He has never said anything to make me feel less than, but I still feel that way and often pick fights with him about this. I love him so much and I fear this is going to get in the way of our relationship. I've asked him before if he thought she was prettier and the response was "outside appearance isn't everything". They have been divorced for a few years now and she is married, so there is no concern about them getting back together. How do I get over this without destroying the relatinship?
2007-03-01 02:41:24 · 15 answers · asked by Samantha M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's normal to a certain extent. If you continue to pick fights over it, then you are just asking for problems in the relationship. the fact is...he's with YOU, if he cared only for a hot looking model, then he would be with one, but he finds YOU beautiful and attractive, otherwise he wouldn't be with you. I know how you feel, and it will take a little bit of work. It's just you are a little insecure, and you should overcome it because he has never ever made you feel less of a person. Sometimes we allow our insecurities to take over us, and it's not fair to the partner, the relationship, nor yourself. Give your man a break, and give yourself one too.....you are beautiful, and he loves you for that!
2007-03-01 02:51:08 · answer #1 · answered by M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know the saying, "Beauty's only skin deep". It's true. Beauty is a bonus but it's what's in the heart that counts. Just for a moment, let's say that she is indeed prettier than you. So what? As beautiful as she may be her beauty didn't keep her husband with her! Who is he with now? It's only been 6 months but he has been with you for those six months and hasn't made an attempt to go anywhere else...even with you foolishly picking fights with him about an ex-wife , who is now, hopefully, happily remarried, and no longer romantically interested in him. He tells you outward appearance isn't everything. Why don't you listen to him? What is the problem?
Did you ever stop to think that if he didn't want to stay with you he wouldn't? He sees something in you that far surpasses physical beauty which, by the way, fades as the years march on. You have what many women would kill for. A great guy who loves you and only you. He's not interested in any other beautiful woman including his ex-wife. Relax and count your blessings. Yours is a beauty that will live as long as you do and the passage of time cannot change. That is so because it comes from within. That is the very best kind of beauty and your boyfriend is wise enough to know that. You are a very lucky woman. Stop picking fights over foolishness. Instead, cherish every moment you have with him. Make love not war. Good luck and God bless.
2007-03-01 03:05:06 · answer #2 · answered by Arleen J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is prettier and he is not without her, that should tell you something right there. You have to have more confidence, and know that you have something that she doesn't have. You can't dwell on this b/c like you said it will destroy your relationship. You are focusing too much on this other person. If he isn't worried about her, then you shouldn't be either. Stop worrying about the ex, and worry about getting your confidence back.
2007-03-01 02:49:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop focusing on her, he's with you, if he meet you overweight means he cares for you. your only down fall with this relationship is you are putting to much attention on her, and how long to you think he is going to last if thats all he hears from you. He is right though the appearance is over rated, you can have the most lovely girl you have ever seen in your life, but if her attitude and behavior sucks what do you have.
2007-03-01 02:51:03 · answer #4 · answered by sonya h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 22:02:14 · answer #5 · answered by lacue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well try loosing weight its healthier for u and gives u more confidence. he obviously dumped her for a reason. remember for every supermodel theres a guy sick of ******* her. your making her seem like some sort of godess when fact is she is human, she bleeds, she has emotion, she has insecurities etc, maybe ur problem is not with him or his ex but with ur self u need to gain more confidence thats y i thik loosing weight by eating healthier and exercising might help u there. hell if ur really passionate get a self help book and join group counselling but dont punish ur boyfriend cause he had an attractive ex wife.
2007-03-01 02:52:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is normal to feel like this, but you have to always think that he wouldnt be with you if he didnt fancy you and he would be with her and he isnt, he is with you! if you think about it too much you will push him away and destroy your relationship. Think about all your other great qualities and dont show him your insecurities about it or that will be a big turn off.
2007-03-01 02:46:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's normal, but you're putting your relationship at risk.
There is no chance of them reconciling, he doesn't degrade you, he obviously loves you. It is you're own insecurities bothering you. Don't bring it up to him again. Enjoy your time together. You'll get over it eventually.
2007-03-01 03:03:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if shes marred theres no real concern for you now right? besides thats what most people feel. I had a boy friend and i was always jeliose of his ex-girl friend my worst enemy.but i broke up with him.
2007-03-01 02:58:50 · answer #9 · answered by Lise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are insecure about yourself and if you don't get over it you will destroy your relationship.I suggest you do whatever it takes to make yourself feel better about yourself.If weight is an issue for you then lose weight..Good luck to you.
2007-03-01 02:47:41 · answer #10 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋