He seems VERY nice, has sent me pictures and chatted with me while on his webcam. Is it safe to go out to his place or have him over to mine-not for sex-so we can cook dinner or something? We are both around the same age.
2007-03-01 02:37:36 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No...don't do it....he may SEEM very nice...but if something happens you'll really regret it...do you ever watch Dateline NBC's To Catch A Predator.
2007-03-01 02:41:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure. you really have way more info on this guy then anyone you met on the street park or in a bar. every key stroke he made and sent to you is in your computer.
i would suggest that you have someone there at the moment of intro say a girlfriends bf he could pretend to be fixing the sink or some silly thing. then if the guy is not who he said you can have the repair man send him on his way. other then that you can have a friend call you at a set time surprise phone call with the understanding that if you dont answer or use a key word in the conversation then the guy is nuts so send the men with bats to rid him from your home.
over all though you do know more about him then you would any other man except if the man were introduced by a friend who knew him for years.
you know i would suggest that you meet him in a public place like a coffee place . and have someone spy on you the bf of your gf/ spy just for the first bit . or even to wait then just do the oh hi can we join you . what a surprise meeting you here . blah blah .
not because i think the guy is dangerous or anything but i did meet 3 ladies off the net there were sane but ugly one was so ugly her ugly face burned a hole in my memory. i didnt view them on webcam like you did though . thats hard to fake i think . still for the first date this may be the way to go.
but if you want this to work you have to understand this is just a new way of meeting people i know 2 couples that met this way and are married now for years happy and all .
2007-03-01 02:50:51 · answer #2 · answered by s l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good test would be to invite him to go to church with you and your parents and have lunch in a restaurant afterwards. That would scare away most of the bad boys. The next best would be to meet him for lunch in a public restaurant. Take a taxi or a bus, or park a block away and walk so he can't find out your license plate or what kind of car you drive. If he is honest he won't mind.
Going over to his house is one of those things - 99% of the time it will be fine, the other 1% you'll be the 14th victim of a serial killer or serial rapist, or someone who thinks "No" means "try again in 3 minutes", and you'll be in for a grope-fest.
If he is male 14 - 34, sex will be on his mind. You can't find a man that age who doesn't think about sex a lot; it comes with a normally functioning hormone system*. What you can find is a guy who doesn't ACT on those thoughts until his partner is ready and willing. Being alone together on a first meeting is asking for trouble.
* As they get older it declines from once every minute to once every 10 minutes. Anna Nichole Smith's sugar daddy thought about it once every 15 minutes, in his 80's. He was the envy of everyone at the Oil Club when he walked in with her bouncing on his arm.
2007-03-01 02:58:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anne Jovie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When first meeting someone on the Internet, I would suggest doing it in a public and well crowded place for safety reasons. If things still look good, then and only then take him home, and even then it would be a good idea to have a cell phone handy or someone else you know around, just in case. Remember, the real Internet predators can be VERY patient and VERY persuasive.
2007-03-01 02:42:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
on the top of the day you would ought to position self belief on your own judgement even if you imagine you're coping with a good individual or a psycho nutter. it really is a lot a lot less complicated to discern that out face-to-face than on-line. there are quite some dos and don'ts you should computer screen. do not provide out own info on-line to someone you've not at all considered head to head. do no longer show information like precisely the position you stay, your telephone form(s), the position you pass to college or artwork. do not even provide your surname. DO connect up someplace public and busy (in case you want to shout for help). Like a eating position or the library. do not conform to fulfill everywhere isolated. do not conform to pass everywhere isolated with the web individual until eventually after some conferences. DO convey a reliable buddy to the assembly which will allow you to comprehend what they imagine, too. DO tell individuals the position you're going and who you imagine you're assembly. once you've any reservations, then tutor your acquaintances the messages/emails you've had from this different individual earlier assembly them. DO, If the web-buddy has obviously lied to you about some thing significant -- like their age -- end the friendship. it really is not any longer worth it coping with dishonest human beings. look i comprehend a great number of those who've meet, dated and married from assembly on-line.....the probabilities of you assembly up with a loopy individual is not any more suitable than in case you meet someone in a bar! in simple terms follow the guidlines and also you'll be probability-free! :-D Goodluck
2016-12-05 02:36:55 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are concerned about safety, you should meet at a public place, like starbucks, for example. And don't meet for dinner before you meet for coffee - trust me - it's easier to get out of if he turns out to be either a freakshow or a loser. This is what I would do if I was meeting a girl from online chat - the same rules apply.
2007-03-01 02:59:25 · answer #6 · answered by Think Richly™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet publicly first. Basically treat it like you would a first date, even though you have been chatting for a while. Better safe than sorry, and if is is as "VERY nice" as you think- he will understand that. Given the way you met and the world we live in, you have to be careful, and he needs to be trying to make you comfortable. I know you are excited, but as much as it sucks, BE CAREFUL! And best of luck with him, hope it goes well!
2007-03-01 02:53:18 · answer #7 · answered by Ami 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet in a public place and do not go to his house/yours make sure you tell someone where your going and who with and that you will call them for sure when you get back home from the date be safe out there!
2007-03-01 02:45:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would you tell a friend to do??????
And do you remember that story last month of the "kid" who convinced everyone in his school that he was 12, when really he was a 29 year old paedophile?
Arrange to meet him in a public place and make sure you have other people around. Don't do anything stupid. It's too late to be sensible when you're dead.
2007-03-01 02:42:27 · answer #9 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister has met a couple guys online. Both were a little weird, but not dangerous :)
Definitely don't meet at his house! I wouldn't recommend yours either, if he's psycho he'll know where you live. Go out to dinner, then a nice calm bar where you can get to know eachother on neutral ground.
See how it plays out, then invite him over for dinner.
2007-03-01 02:44:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure your in a very public place, DO NOT invite him to your private space or go near his! he could be anyone and even if you have been talking for years you dont know the true person, i have been though it and it was the worst experience of my life. Do meet him but dont rush anything and make sure you meet him in a public place and make sure someone knows where your going.
2007-03-01 02:44:35 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋