There is a lady that I have been going out with on and off, movie here, hanging out there, you know. Anyway, I told her that we needed to slow down a bit, because things were moving just a little fast, and she was fine with that, and told me that she would wait however long it would take for me to be comfortable. But yesterday, she brought a guy with her to a bible study group we had, and it disturbed me a little bit, it really threw me out of my mood. Why do you think this is? Is she trying to mess with me? Should I just say forget it and move on?
All help is appreciated
2007-03-01 02:27:08 · 9 answers · asked by Light Bringer 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I must add that this "break" has been going on for about a month or so, I just don't know what to think or what to do.
2007-03-01 03:06:52 · update #1
Well i am sure she is messing with yourhead but you should ask this to yourself "do you want her for serious relationship or just friends?" Is not fair for her beacuse she might be in love with you and really she might of said ok because she does not want to lose you. I think you both need to talk about what is going on between both of you and make sure she is not in love with you especially if you are not.
2007-03-01 02:40:23 · answer #1 · answered by only me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She definetly said fine, but inside wasn't fine. She feels what she feels, and doesn't understand how she can feel this way and you say we need to slow down. So im sure she just brought a makle friend to bible study to play a little with you, see that shes a good find and if you dont want her then she will be scooped up by another man. But in reality don't rush it, cause then it wont work. So let her know that put you out of your mood and that you want her to be understanding. Dont give up tho, women always act on there emotions.
2007-03-01 02:33:06 · answer #2 · answered by Sammi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all...You are the one that wanted to slow things down. You are the one that put the breaks on the relationship.
Secondly, you did not state how long it was from the time of the "slow down" until she brought someone else to bible study.
And apparently no one has informed you on how to translate womanese.
"I'll wait for you however long it would take for you to be comfortable" this translates to: " I am hurt at this moment, because you want to slow things down. I want to be with you and will say or do anything at this point to stay with you in anyway i can."
Now what happens after that is: A woman will start to think to herself: "why should I wait around for someone that's not sure if he wants to be with me or not ?" And since you have "slowed things down" she doesn't feel it necessary to communicant her feeling about this to you any longer.
Of course it disturbed you, most likely more then you want to admit. You had a good thing..but YOU slowed it down..and now your regret that move..because you see that she could be happy and move on without you.
I'll bet you have more feelings for her than you care to admit.
I think you only have yourself to blame for your mess.
2007-03-01 02:46:36 · answer #3 · answered by Barb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well lots of women like to make their men feel jealous as it brings them lots of attention, but im not saying that this is what your woman is doing... its just something to bear in mind. Give her that bit more of attention she needs, but that doesn't mean do anything thats outside your comfort zone. The best thing to do is talk to this woman... ask her about this other guy and ask her about your feelings: the relationships where people can discuss their feelings are the best relationships around! Good luck and i hope it all turns out for the best!
2007-03-01 02:34:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's messing with you for she did not like your asking to slow things down despite her saying ok in the first place. You decide what you want to do next for you know best how you really feel about the situation.
2007-03-01 02:33:12 · answer #5 · answered by Bugsy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
r u sure that she has that kind of a relationship with the guy she brought to the study group?he could just be an old friend of hers or something so i don't think there's antything to worry about.
2007-03-01 02:34:56 · answer #6 · answered by kwlcmmm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry buddy, Can't have your cake and eat it too. She is being smart I must say. If you're her number one man there's no worry because she is doing her and I know it's natural for you to be jealous but get over it. Either you step your game up or you're gonna loose your sweety.
2007-03-01 02:39:32 · answer #7 · answered by LT 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the best thing for u to do is ask her about you guys. what are u guys? what would she lable u as? then go from there, always be hoest about your feelings with who you feel them for.
2007-03-01 02:31:11 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs.Vick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i too would ask her. let her now exactly how you feel.
2007-03-01 02:34:53 · answer #9 · answered by aim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋