I am wondering it because women do not necessarily like geeks. Alot of us are technology fanatics. Some are lovers of math and science. Anyways I am just wondering and I need to know. I am not exactly the most attractive or the extremely attractive. I am handsome to the lowest form and degree.
2007-03-01 02:25:32 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know I am not putting myself down, because I can not see myself as Hot when individual women call me that. I enjoy being single and I do not believe its selfish to want to be alone because I am quite content with being alone. See naturally I am a lonely. I do not get depressed over being lonely and I know it happens. Ever since I was a little boy its been a normal thing for me. Anyways....I wanted to clarify that. I just do not care to be concieted even though it sounds like low self esteem. I would rather have a bit of a low self esteem instead of being a guy thinks he is all that. Yeah I am good looking to the lowest degree because that is what I see when I see myself.
2007-03-01 09:14:01 · update #1
I don't think you will be able to wait until you're 40 you're gonna meet this girl someday that is gonna think you're the greatest guy in the world. All girls don't fall for the jock. Some like the "needy" guys. Don't put yourself down so bad. You're probably very cute. There is a girl that is out there she is just waiting for you to come by. Maybe you've already met her maybe you haven't don't give up. Always look on the up side of things. If the girl happens to come by and your downing yourself all the time she will pass you by. Be confident (or at least try to seem that way).
Also I truly wouldn't wait til 40 you'd be too old to enjoy your kids. Just enjoy your knowledge and your life be confident that she is there and enjoy each moment til you find her.
God bless!
2007-03-01 02:50:57 · answer #1 · answered by Krista 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like a case of low self esteem to me, which I can share. Its better to wait and marry the right person at the right age rather than rush in for desperations sake.
You might not be Brad Pitt but attractiveness is subjective. There is more to getting a good girlfriend then just being a stunningly handsome guy (otherwise I'd be single right now)
2007-03-01 02:29:31 · answer #2 · answered by spiro_sea 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely nothing wrong with delaying marriage! Enjoy life and what it has to offer while you have the freedom to do so. Sometimes though, having a significant other to enjoy it with you really makes it that much more exciting. As long as you enjoy yourself and is quite happy with your lifestyle, I'd keep going as you are.
Being a photographer, I have seen such diverse age ranges in marriages. The older ones tend to have more stable marriages from what I have heard when talking at receptions. Being a geek has no bearing (being a geek myself) on when is a good age to marry or fi they go for marriages early or later with geeks. When the time is right, you will know it yourself. Date and enjoy your time with them or your time as a bachelor. Sometimes I miss my bachelor life but at times, I would do it over and over about marrying my wife.
The key is...your happiness. Take it how you feel within. There's no rule book on this matter. =)
2007-03-01 02:39:59 · answer #3 · answered by indyhype 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I am sure that you are selling yourself short. I bet that you are way more attractive than you think but it could be that you are looking in the wrong places for validation.
If you dont have a body like the ones seen in greek mythology, it would be pointless to search for a woman at gold's gym.
With that said, there are plenty of women who like smart men.....Bill gates is married and apparently happy.
try seeking women that enjoy and value intelligence. they are not too hard to find if you look in the right places.
Not much chance she will be on a bar stool!
Anywhoo, there are plenty of men who married for the first time at 40. They have kids and make for wonderful parents.
Please do not give up your search. Also consider some of the online dating sites.
Match.com comes to mind.
I am sure that there are others.
GOOD LUCK!
2007-03-01 02:32:41 · answer #4 · answered by lisa s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, nothing wrong with that. Chances are you'll meet some younger girl that thinks you're a really nice guy and will appreciate it. You tech guys are OK, I was married to one and divorce him (he decided after the marriage he didn't want kids). Maybe you'll find a tech girl. But, kindness and a great sense of humor will outweigh looks for the smart girl. You still have a chance. Take care.
2007-03-01 02:33:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have very low self esteem. Obviously, in regards to geeks, you haven't watched the show on tv Beauty and the Geek.Sounds like you're smart. Remember beauty is on the inside.Like yourself and everyone else will like you.Smile,ease up alittle and enjoy life,one day at a time
2007-03-01 02:32:34 · answer #6 · answered by happyfingers1@verizon.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It shows that you have something behind your mind that is really against marriage. Some experience in life. May be inspired by somebody. Anyway, just to tell you that I am also like you and also want to stay single. But need to resist the nicks urge to get married.
Yes, I do have some reasons as you have. I am inspired by the thought of what is beyond this world and what are we doing here. How all human life started of and all that stuff.
In short its never wrong to want to stay single as your mind doesn't agree to it.
2007-03-01 02:33:44 · answer #7 · answered by Sandeep B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with you for wanting to postpone marriage until you're 40 y/o. When the right time & the right woman comes along, you'll know it. You may not see yourself even remotely attractive, but maybe you are to others. You are who you are & it's what's on the inside that really matters.
2007-03-01 02:35:43 · answer #8 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to stay single till 40. However, you will definitely miss out on what life has in store for you. Don't let life pass you by. It's the mistake you will live to regret for the rest of your life.. As the saying goes "It's better to love and lose than never love at all"
2007-03-01 02:32:12 · answer #9 · answered by brown_sugah064 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly acceptable to stay single as long as you want. Keep in mind that not even 40-year-old women might be attracted to geeks. But if you want a gold-digger, well, you'll be set.
2007-03-01 04:21:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋