my boyfriend is very stressed out at the moment, verging on depression due to a messy divorse and family illness. about 3 months ago we stopped having the naughty stuff together as he was never in the mood, but I know that he sorts himself out when I am not there. is it normal when a man is stressed to go off sex with his partner but still want to give himself a DIY job?
2007-03-01 02:22:00 · 19 answers · asked by happy girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
nope...hes geting it somwher else
2007-03-01 02:25:34 · answer #1 · answered by coffee37man 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
yes this is very normal divorce can be very traumatic and take some time to get over. It effects the self esteem and even when the person is really keen on their new partner they can still get low at times. it took me well over a year to get somewhere near
normal. masterbation is very common at this time and does
not involve having to feel any involement with another person
which can sometimes be to stressful. Be patient and understanding and if you are right for each other these issues
will become a thing of the past. BOB
2007-03-01 02:44:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be having erectile difficulties. When this happens, the body does not stop producing manly fluids. They still need to come out at some point. He's probably either relieving this without an erection, which is embarrassing and painful, or he's waking up in the night with natural wood and taking advantage of it when it's there.
Depression and stress kill sex drives. Try being supportive and patient. It isn't you.
Good luck :-)
2007-03-01 02:34:43 · answer #3 · answered by Captain Jack ® 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, very normal as it is a physical release without complications or responsibility or emotional links. Sleeping with a partner, however, is a more complicated arrangement, being close to someone, being vulnerable, etc. I suspect that your man isn't going off you but is feeling so battered by life that he feels he cannot get close to anyone or anything until he's more in control of things. Be patient, tell him you understand. This is just a passing phase.
2007-03-01 02:44:55 · answer #4 · answered by gorgeousfluffpot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ye, this type of thing is fairly typical for a male under stress. He will come around in the end, and it has nothing to do with your sexuality or that he has found someone else.
2007-03-01 02:42:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Self satisfaction is basically just something you do as a man. It's like brushing your teeth, but should be a bit less frequent than that. However, if he is only satisfying himself it's possible he's becoming a bit reclusive sexually. I'd advise forceful coercion to get him out of his slump.
2007-03-01 02:29:36 · answer #6 · answered by Magister 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, speaking from experience, I can honestly say yes.
You see, he probably wants stress relief, but without the complication of wanting to perform and please you as much as he can.
This way he is in total control, and doesn't have to worry about performing well. He probably thinks that you would notice that his mind isn't on the job in hand, ( so to speak ! ) and he would probably dread you asking him loads of questions afterwards.
He is too stressed out at the moment. Cut him some slack.
2007-03-01 02:31:23 · answer #7 · answered by pete m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is a normal side effect of stress to go off sex, the irony is that sex would make him feel a bit better, albeit temporarily. he will only be relieving himself only because it can beocme uncomfortable if you don't.
just give him time and support him and he'll come through.
2007-03-01 02:30:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes... try this: next time instead of hinting for intercourse, offer to "relieve" him instead... if you get my meaning. You don't seem like the selfish type.. and you will eventually get if you give.
Why? Intercourse just might seem too much for him, having to "worry" about someone else's pleasure and his performance. If it's a "gift" from you to him, and just him... he'll enjoy it.
Ofcourse you will be paid back for that gift... sooner than later I would think. ;-)
Anyway, all the best to you and your guy. He's lucky to have you.
2007-03-01 02:31:21 · answer #9 · answered by em d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kinda... What you should do when dealing with that is aim to please him.... maybe the stress of everything and making you happy is too much for him... but if you Aim to "Just" Please him it will get him back on track... and if that doesn't work he may be cheating, because that always adds to stress, the stress of you finding out...
2007-03-01 02:26:54 · answer #10 · answered by Coach White 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a happily married man. Great home and everything. That being said, I take care of myself about once every other day.
This is absolutely normal! It's either we take care of ourselves, or we'll sleep with everything in sight; your choice.
2007-03-01 02:26:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋