Was it that I was just being petty?

Question

Me and my husband were at a meeting where his family also attended.. What makes me so upset with them, is that they are always begging for money from my husband. (Especially his nieces and nephew). In my opinion, its's gotten worse since me and him married. Well anways, at the meeting his niece asked him for some money, he gave her 5.00 and at the time I didn't know all he had on him was 10.00 so after the meeting, I told him I was hungry and could he buy me a sandwich. That's when he told me he had to give the other 5.00 towards a contribution at the meeting place. I was pissed. Why would he give his niece his last money. He then goes on to say that if he knew I would be hungry he would have asked her for the money back. He knows that would be ridiculous.. he was just saying that to appease me. Was I wrong to be a little upset?

Answer 1

No you weren't petty. The kids need to be taught that it's wrong, and impolite to ask for money. Where are the parents, and why aren't they teaching them manners? It's one thing to do something out of the kindness of your heart, it's another to be bugged to give. As for you being irritated, you weren't wrong, but could probably have taken the route of "what good are doing the kids by not teaching them that's it is inappropriate behavior and fostering it by giving in, and giving them the money" Just let him know if the kids need money, how about suggesting they earn the money by having them do some menial chore for it, and if they decline, that should stop the asking! Good Luck!